Mariah HuQ Turned down Housewives / Mob Wives Reunion

Mariah HuQ Turned down Housewives by NoMoreDrama

Bravo’s foray into scripted drama with Married to Medicine seems to be paying off in the ratings.  They’re still pretending it’s “Reality TV”, or “docu-drama,” but I like to think of it more like an improv class led by puppet master Mariah HuQ.

mariah-huq-headFrom what I gather, Mariah’s production company (Mariah Media) filmed the show and  sold it to Bravo.  She probably gathered the most over the top “wives” she knew, and set the ball rolling.  As a “character/producer” on the show she didn’t have to stoop to the heavy levels of manipulation that have plagued New Jersey – she was right in the thick of things.  She needed to SELL THE SHOW, and what better way than to have a fight in the early episodes.  Isn’t that they way Joey and Melissa scrapped their way onto New Jersey after years of pleading?

Mariah explains her role as producer in her latest Bravo Blog:  “Although I am one of the producers, I don’t make the final decision on creative content, contrary to popular opinion. But never doubt that I’m behind-the-scenes trying to portray Atlanta women in a positive light.”  I somehow doubt that.  As  producer of the show she could have scrapped the entire thing if she didn’t want it to air.

The blog also includes: “My vision for Married To Medicine was and continues to be a desire to show a different side of life in Atlanta. Successful young families who live, work, and play in the medical world.”  “I didn’t work on this project for the last few years to create another reality show based on negative stereotypes.”

Unfortunately she did just that.  There is a lot of talk on the show about where the ladies “came from” and digs at the projects or the hood.  Mariah and her sister did grow up in a housing project – the Harriet Tubman Homes in Chattanooga.  Their mom, also featured on the show, Lucy Bolden, stressed the power of education in bettering their lives.  She spent the night outside the “magnet school” Chattanooga School for the Arts and Sciences magnet school to make sure her daughters’ were accepted.  The two girls were the first in their family to graduate from college – Lakeeda “Lake” Kelly from Emory University in Atlanta, and LaKeisha “Mariah” Huq from University of Tennessee at Chattanooga.  (References here)

After college the sisters started a multicultural children’s bedding line in 2009, and by 2011 it was featured on Housewives and being launched in Macy’s.   Today the company (Jewel and Jem) seems focused on kid’s pajamas.  These are successful, accomplished women and it’s a shame they traded it in for a brief stint on a reality show.  Perhaps it was inevitable.  Mariah claims she turned down a spot on Housewives of Atlanta several years ago. In this article for her alma mater, Mariah talked about her company, Jewel and Jem being featured on Real Housewives of Atlanta after they designed a bedroom for Phaedra Park’s son, Ayden.  “I was approached to be part of the cast (of RHOA), but that’s not what I wanted to do,” she explained  Interview here, read page 3.

Part of me is proud of Mariah for starting her own production company and having a successful show.  If I justify it as acting, the fight doesn’t bother me as much.  But I do have to wonder if she regrets creating another show that showcases negative stereotypes.  She would have been better off accepting that role on RHOA, if indeed it was offered to her.


Mob Wives Season 3 Reunion by Detox

Welcome back to “Mob Wives”!

Well, this is it: the Reunion. Finally, this season has come to an end and, in my opinion, this season started off with a BANG and ended with a WHIMPER. The Reunion reflected this, as it was basically anticlimactic, in my opinion.

I present to you, the very last recap of Season 3:

The Reunion was hosted by Dr. Drew Pinsky in front of a live studio audience. Big Ang, Carla and Drita sat together on one couch, while Renee, Karen and Ramona sat together on another.


Dr. Drew immediately addresses the fact that Love is not at the Reunion. He says that the show decided it would be best to part ways with Love (In short, Love got fired. No real explanation for her exclusion from the Reunion and her being let go from the show is given. It is rumored that Carla threatened to take legal action if Love was allowed to attend the Reunion and remain on the show. Carla has denied this. Who knows what is true? At this point, who cares? *Shrug*).

The audience is shown various clips of Love throughout the season, which include some of her individual interview comments and her interactions with the other women. Clips of the other women making various comments about Love are also shown during this segment. Of course, the very last clip shows Love attacking Carla.

Renee is asked about Love, and she says that she never really ran in the same circles as Love and did not really know her personally before the show. Karen, on the other hand, says that she has known Love for years. She also admits that she and Love once physically fought in a parking lot when Karen was 17 years old. She says that Love bit her finger during the altercation. Ramona, without addressing her history with Love, says that she thinks Love is a psychopath. Drita says that Love is “semi-mental,” but she says she does not judge Love for her violent tendencies because she is a reformed violent person herself. Drita says that she is now in “recovery” from being violent. She also says that she does not think what Love did to Carla was right.

At this point, Ramona interjects and says that Carla talks trash behind people’s backs all the time. Carla and Ramona start arguing, and Ramona yells that Carla is “a cop-caller” (This could be in reference to the fact that Carla either threatened or actually took some type of action involving outside intervention.). Ramona says that Carla “has a mouth because security is around.” Carla and Ramona then insult each other’s family members. Ramona tells Carla that one of Carla’s family members was a rat who died “with a canary in his mouth” (Ummm, Ramona, I would be careful about throwing that “rat” term around, seeing as how Karen’s father is often called a rat, and the same goes for Renee’s ex-husband/the father of her only child.). Carla responds by yelling that Ramona’s ex-husband stole money from Ramona’s father. Ramona denies this.

Possible Reasons For Love’s Attack On Carla

Next, Dr. Drew steers the conversation to the issues between Carla and Love and the ultimate attack which took place on the season finale. Flashback scenes of Love and Carla both talking trash about each other appear onscreen. The last clip is a flashback scene of Love attacking Carla at Drita’s birthday party.

Dr. Drew asks Carla why Love attacked her. Carla says she has NO idea.

Dr. Drew then asks Carla what it was that Love showed Carla on her cell phone before she attacked her. Carla says that Love never showed her anything. Ramona disputes this and says that Love was showing Carla a racist tweet Carla allegedly sent out referencing the fact that Love is ½ Puerto Rican (She is also ½ Polish) and making a nasty racist remark about Love’s Latina background (It is rumored that Carla once tweeted and/or called Love “a spic.”). Carla denies this.

Ramona says it’s true and then says that Carla is a racist that calls Black people “you people” and often makes racist remarks about people of other races. She says Carla “is the modern-day Ku Klux Klan.” Carla denies this, and the 2 women continue to yell back and forth at each other. At some point, in the midst of yelling back and forth with Carla, Ramona calls Carla a “Doberman Pinscher-looking son-of-a-b*tch!” (I guess referencing Carla’s long, narrow face).

Why Karen Does Not Like Carla

Dr. Drew then asks Karen why she does not like Carla. Karen says she does not like Carla because Carla is “cold, rude, snippy and sarcastic.” She also says that she and Carla have “another deeper issue” because Carla never wants her family members brought up but has no compunctions about talking trash about her cast mates’ family members. She says she finds this particularly insulting and frustrating when it comes to her own father because her father basically did some things that resulted in Carla’s own father’s life being saved. According to Karen, the least Carla could do is be grateful for this and respect her and her father but instead of doing this, she is nasty and talks trash about Karen and her father and other family members of Karen’s. Carla denies having any knowledge of Sammy Gravano doing anything to save any of her family members because “unlike you, I don’t keep up with all of that gangster sh*t!”

Carla Thinks She Was Set Up

Dr. Drew asks Carla if she thinks she was set up at Drita’s birthday party. Carla says that she does. She also says that she wishes Drita would not have invited Love to the birthday party in the first place (Now, Carla, you know that Drita has to do what the Producers tell her to do! I’m sure they insisted that Drita invite Love, although they are probably going to deny it now.).

Dr. Drew then asks the other women what they thought of Love attacking Carla at Drita’s birthday party. Drita says that Love promised her that she would not do anything to Carla if Carla was respectful to her. Big Ang says that she did not think the fight should have happened, and it really upset her that it did. Renee says she felt bad, but she also feels that Carla should not have leaned into Love and put her hand in Love’s face. Drita agrees and says that “with this crew,” people have to be careful where they put their hands. Big Ang says that she would tell Love directly to her face that she thinks Love was wrong for attacking Carla. Renee says she feels that Love addressed her issues with Carla “at the wrong time and the wrong place.” Karen says that Love wanted to send a message to Carla, and she did.

Carla And Renee And The Butter Knife

Dr. Drew changes the subject and then moves on to discuss the fact that Carla and Renee had major issues this season. Flashback scenes of both Renee and Carla talking trash about each other to other people appear onscreen. The last scene shows Carla using her butter knife at brunch to gesture and talk tough to Renee even though Renee tells her over and over to put the knife down.

With regard to the butter knife “drama,” Drita says that she and Ang tried to broker peace between Renee and Carla, “but we obviously weren’t successful.” Renee says that she gets that Carla has to defend herself, and she does not think Carla was going to do anything to her with the butter knife and was only using it to express herself.

Allegations That Carla Sleeps With Married Men

Continuing on the topic of the issues between Renee and Carla this season, Dr. Drew points out that Renee and Carla both made some serious allegations about each other. Flashback scenes show Renee alleging that Carla has a habit of sleeping with married men.

Dr. Drew asks Carla about these allegations. Carla says that, when she was 19 years old, she started dating a man that told her he was separated, and she believed him. She says that he had his own place, and this was one of the things that made her believe him. She also says that he told her that he was separated, and she had no idea that he was still living with this wife. (What about this man’s former wife, Carla? She says that you most definitely knew that this man was married to her because she confronted you about seeing her husband more than once, and you continued to have an affair with him anyway. Also, what about your ex-husband, Joe, who admits that he was ALSO very much married when the 2 of you started dating, Carla? You were a lot older than the 19 years old you claimed to be when you dated Mikey “Scars”. Oh yeah, about THAT….rumor has it that you were more like 27-29 years old — and NOT 19 — when you fooled around with Mikey “Scars.” You were even older than THAT, when you started fooling around with Joe, who was also still very much living with his wife at the time that you started seeing HIM. Is this a pattern with you? Why am I even asking? You will just deny everything the way you always do.).

As Carla is discussing the allegations that she has a propensity to get involved with married men, Renee, Karen and Ramona have looks on their faces indicating that they do not believe a word Carla is saying. Ramona then makes her disbelief of Carla known.

Carla responds by yelling out that Ramona can’t talk because her ex-husband was married when she started seeing him too. Ramona yells and denies this by saying that her ex-husband really was separated when she started seeing him, “and I got an 8-carat ring!” (Who gives an EFF about the 8-carat ring, Ramona?!?! What does that ring have to do with the price of tea in China?!?!).

Why Does Everyone Want To Have A Sit-Down With Carla?

Dr. Drew allows an audience member to ask a question, and she asks Drita why everyone seems to want to have a sit-down with Carla. Drita simply says that she completely understands why Karen, Renee and Ramona have issues with Carla. She does not really explain or elaborate further (or really answer the question for that matter).

The Evolution of Drita’s Relationships with Karen and Ramona

Dr. Drew changes the subject and points out that Drita’s relationships with both Karen and Ramona really evolved this season. Flashback scenes are shown of Drita, Ramona and Karen fighting and having to be broken up and kept away from each other by bodyguards. Then scenes are shown of Drita making up with both Karen and Ramona separately.

Dr. Drew asks Drita if her making up with Karen and Ramona was real. Drita says it was definitely real and that she is now in a good place with both of them (Thank God! I was tired of the fighting.). Karen and Ramona confirm this.

Dr. Drew asks Carla how she feels about Drita now being in a good place with Karen and Ramona. Carla says that she is “so happy” that Drita made peace with them because, before this happened, she felt like she was always “in the middle.”

An audience member is then allowed to ask a question, and she asks Ramona whose side she would be on if Drita and Karen had a falling out again. Ramona says that she would stay out of it. She also says that what people do not realize and what was not shown on the show is that she knew and hung out with Drita before she was ever even on the show and before Drita and Karen ever had their own problems. She says that her issues with Drita stemmed from things that happened during that time and not JUST from the fact that Drita and Karen later had a falling out.

Karen says that things would never get to that level again between her and Drita and Ramona “because we’re all grown women.” Dr. Drew (correctly, I might add) points out that they were grown women when they tried to murder each other before. None of them have anything to say in response to Dr. Drew’s excellent point.

Somehow, Carla makes a comment that displeases Ramona, and Ramona tells Carla that she is “almost 50” and basically needs to shut up. Carla looks incredulous and says, “Almost 50??!! WHAT?!?!” (like this is the most ridiculous thing she has ever heard). Renee then quietly and calmly interjects and says, “Carla…you’re 47.” Carla has nothing to say to this (because, despite how much she’s lied about her age, the truth is out there: She IS 47. This is NOT a bad thing, but I would say that it is NOT inaccurate for her to be described as “almost 50,” seeing as how she is only 3 years away from it. Carla should be proud that she has maintained her figure and looks so good for her age instead of lying about it.).

Renee’s Addiction, Rehab and Recovery

Dr. Drew then turns his attention to Renee and notes that, this season, Renee addressed her addiction issues by going to rehab and working on her recovery and sobriety both during her rehab stay and afterward. Flashback scenes of Renee admitting that she has addiction issues; her decision to go to rehab; her actual participation in rehab; and her discussion of her recovery after rehab are shown. After the flashback clips conclude, A.J. is now shown sitting next to Renee on the couch.

Dr. Drew asks Renee if she is still sober. She says that she is, and the audience applauds.

Dr. Drew tells Renee that she was courageous to address her addiction issues and get help publicly. Renee says that she has struggled with addiction issues for many years. She also says that she has had periods of being clean, followed by periods of falling off the wagon. She says it is her guilt as a mother that sometimes makes her fall off the wagon because she beats herself up over not being the perfect Mother.

Dr. Drew asks A.J. how he feels about all of this. He says that he does not believe in the disease of addiction and believes it is all about self-control (Why are you not discussing this with him, Dr. Drew?). Despite his opinion, A.J. says that he is very proud of his Mother for doing what she felt she needed to do to deal with her problems.

Drita interjects and directly addresses Renee. She tells Renee that it bothers her to hear Renee talk about being a bad Mother when A.J. is all the proof that Renee needs that this is NOT the case. She says that A.J. is an amazing kid, and Renee had a lot to do with how he turned out. Renee thanks Drita and looks like she wants to cry.

Carla then addresses Renee directly and tells her that she is sorry for the nasty things she said about Renee’s addiction. Renee accepts her apology.

Carla then directly addresses A.J. and says that she did not mean to hurt him by saying those things about his Mother. A.J. tells Carla that she DID hurt him by saying those things. Carla apologizes, and A.J. accepts her apology.

Dr. Drew then asks A.J. if he is still moving to Florida, and A.J. says that he is indeed still moving to Miami. Renee tells Dr. Drew that she is going to support A.J.’s decision.

The Men In Their Lives

Dr. Drew then turns to some of the women’s romantic/personal relationships with men.

Drita And Lee

A flashback scene of Drita talking to Lee over the phone while she is driving and expressing her concerns and insecurities about giving him another chance appears onscreen.

Dr. Drew asks her how it was working out her issues with Lee onscreen. Drita says it was tough because she went through “a roller coaster.” She also says that she feels a lot of guilt for the things her daughters have had to go through because of poor choices she and Lee made in the past. Drita says that she and Lee are “VERY happy” right now. She does note that, despite his happiness, Lee’s guilt is “killing” him “because he missed so many years with his kids.”

With regard to the fact that she almost divorced Lee due to his infidelity, Drita says she trusts Lee, but she is also like his parole officer in a way. She also says that Lee now denies ever cheating on her and denies ever admitting that he did (Oh, brother!).

Dr. Drew asks Drita if Lee will ever appear on the show. She says that he will NOT appear on the show because “he cherishes his privacy, and he doesn’t want to be famous.” (Smart man.).

Carla and Joe

Dr. Drew then turns his attention to Carla and notes that she was going through a divorce this season while dealing with Joe and his girlfriend Raquel moving in together and spending time with her kids. He asks her how she felt hearing Raquel say that when Raquel and Joe were together with Carla and Joe’s kids, they were “like a little family.” Carla says that this really did make her angry because Raquel is NOT their Mother — SHE is (I am totally on Carla’s side when it comes to this. There is nothing wrong with Raquel being good to and loving Joe’s kids, but she will NEVER be their Mother. That title belongs to Carla alone, and Raquel should respect Carla’s boundaries and place as the mother of those children.).

Renee pipes up and says that she “despised” Joe for the things he said about Carla on camera (I must admit that Joe WAS very harsh and did not speak too highly of Carla in many of his interviews this season. They did seem to get along better with each other and come to terms with things toward the end of the season, but he DID say some very harsh things about Carla on camera throughout the beginning and middle of the season.). Karen says that she did not like this either.

Karen and Dave

Dr. Drew then turns his attention to Karen and her relationship with Dave this season. Flashback scenes appear onscreen of Karina telling Karen about Dave’s new girlfriend; Karen flying out to Arizona to confront Dave; Karen confronting Dave; and Karen meeting with both Dave and his new girlfriend Rebecca at a restaurant.

Dave is sitting beside Karen on the couch after the flashback scenes are shown.

Dr. Drew asks Dave how Rebecca felt watching those scenes. He says that Rebecca “was heated” after she saw some of the things that were said about her.

Karen says she did not like how she found out about Rebecca. Dr. Drew asks Dave why he did not tell Karen about his new relationship. Dave says, “Because I don’t have to tell her everything.” Karen immediately says, “We have a child together. So, yes, you DO have to tell me everything that will somehow involve my child.” Dr. Drew and Renee make comments indicating that they agree with what Karen just said.

Renee directly talks to Dave and asks him if he can just admit that he handled the situation wrong. Dave acquiesces and admits that he did handle the situation wrong and then apologizes. Renee then shakes his hand for doing this.

At this point, flashback scenes of Ramona interviewing and saying that she still thinks Dave is in love with Karen appear onscreen. Dr. Drew asks Ramona about this. She says that she still thinks that Dave is still in love with Karen.

Dr. Drew then directly asks Dave if this is true. He says that he is NOT in love with Karen (And I believe him. For the majority of the season, I was of the opinion that Dave was over Karen. Karen and Ramona thinking that Dave was just playing games to make Karen jealous just seemed stupid to me. He loves and respects Karen as the mother of his daughter, but he is “done” insofar as being IN love with her.).

Dr. Drew then asks Dave if he has met Karen’s new love interest, Storm. Dave says that he has not met Storm yet, but he’s o.k. with that. He says that the difference between him and Karen is that he trusts Karen’s judgment and knows that Karen would not have a bad man around his daughter. In short, if Karen likes Storm, then Dave likes Storm (spoken like a man who is DEFINITELY over his ex-.).

Ramona’s Upcoming Wedding

Dr. Drew then turns his attention to Ramona and her decision to marry her incarcerated fiancé’. Flashback scenes appear onscreen of Ramona revealing her engagement to various cast members, and the consequences of that revelation.

Dr. Drew asks Ramona where she stands on her decision. She tells Dr. Drew that she is not married yet, but she is still going through with the wedding.

With regard to the fight that Ramona and Karen had when Ramona told Karen about her engagement, Karen says she stands behind Ramona 100%, but she would not have been a true friend if she did not express her real feelings to Ramona about Ramona’s decision. Ramona says she just wanted a little moment to be happy and enjoy the fact that she was engaged without having to immediately hear about all of the drawbacks of her decision.

Dr. Drew asks some of the other women what they now think about Ramona’s upcoming wedding. Karen says that she does not think Ramona should be planning a wedding while her fiancé “is still fighting a case.” Big Ang tells Ramona that being married to a man in prison “is no joke,” and she knows because she did it for 10 years. She says that it was very hard on her and her kids. Drita says that she feels bad for Ramona because being married to a man in prison “is so hard emotionally.”

Despite everybody’s advice and misgivings, Ramona says that she is still going to go ahead and have a big wedding and even invite Carla if her fiancé’ gets bail. Carla says she will attend if she is invited.


For some strange and inexplicable reason, Dr. Drew turns to the subject of sex. Flashback scenes of some of the women making sexual references and remarks appear onscreen.

This part of the Reunion was basically uninteresting, but here’s a quick rundown of what was said:

Karen said that Drita is an undercover “freak” when it comes to sex. Drita just laughed.

Karen said she does not call Storm “Big Daddy” even though she referred to him this way in one of her interviews.

Ramona will not be allowed to have conjugal visits with her fiancé’ even after they are married because this is not allowed in federal prison.

And that was it. Like I said, the Reunion was basically anticlimactic. Here’s hoping that next season, including the Reunion, will be much more interesting and maintain momentum until the very end, unlike this Season, which started with a BANG and ended with a sad little WHIMPER.

See you guys next season!!


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444 Responses to Mariah HuQ Turned down Housewives / Mob Wives Reunion

  1. Donna says:

    Good morning almost afternoon

  2. lizzle says:

    Dang.. I am bringing my comment over to this post….

    GOOD MORNING! It’s a new day and in my best Vicky voice…. WOOHOO!!!

  3. TexasTart says:

    Good Day! There should be a club for those of us who dare to comment on the old blog while a new is simultaneously posted, haha! Thanks to DETOX for a season of Mob Wives. Miss your side stories and all here. Hope you are well! 🙂

    • Powell says:

      I haven’t kept up on MW this season & I DVR it. Lol. I’ll read Detox’s colorful blog. She should’ve been a writer. Thks Detox. I hope the family is doing well.

    • TexasTart says:

      There it is, Real Housewives from Anywhere #1 on the list. Don’t guess that Andy or Bravo will be tweeting about their lastest claim to fame. Oh, I guess Andy can and give the writer a Jackhole award. That would be the most mature thing to do, right? I mean why get rid of the shrews?!

      • I Need A Life! says:

        Actually, early on, Jerry Springer was once voted the worst show on TV and the producers used that in their promos. That distinction propelled Springer to being a national hero. (Just kidding about the hero.)

        Good morning. Thanks for the recap, Detox. My husband walked in just when Dr. Drew asked the Mob Wives, “So what is it like with PENIS in the house?” …(referring to some of the men returning from jail, new boyfriends, etc. ) My husband asked, “Are you STILL watching that crap?”

        • TexasTart says:

          LOL! to the husband’s comment, of course.

          • HuskerHuny says:

            My husband’s usual response is “Why do you keep watching that crap over and over?” He thinks every city is one big show.

            • TexasTart says:

              Mine uses to think they were all one show too. And he thinks it’s housewives as long as the channel is on Bravo…or if there’s screaming he assumes the same. 😕

              • BB says:

                My husband will watch some Bravo when there”s nothing else on. He used to like Flipping Out when Jeff actually did some flipping. And he’ll watch the Million Dollar Listing shows. NEVER the Housewives though.

      • Powell says:

        I love that NY Post didn’t single out a city and just said “The Real Housewives from Anywhere”. And named, Tre, JZ & Ramona. I think JZ’s name should have been 1st, then Tamra, & Adrienne. Tre & definitely Ramona shouldn’t have been among those chosen.
        They had 2 Broke Girls & Once Upon A Time. I don’t watch 2 Broke that often but I like it & most definitely love OUAT.

        • ladebra says:

          I have watched OUAT since the beginning, and enjoy it; find it very entertaining and don’t have a problem with them jumbling all the children’s stories together (didn’t this person watch the very successful Shrek movies?). I also watch GRIMM – and it entertains me also with its unique story.

    • BB says:

      I agree with whoever wrote this.
      ALL HWs, Dance Moms, Celebrity Apprentice, The Bachelor, and Maury need to go away. In fact 90% of Bravo shows could go away and I wouldn’t miss them. Don’t know much about the rest of them.

      • BB says:

        Can I add some more to the list? American Idol, 19 Kids and Counting, Sister Wives, My Big Fat Greek Anything, Mob Wives, Teen Moms, 16 and Pregnant, Anything Kardashian. I’m sure I could think of some more. I’m in a Spring Cleaning kind of mood today.

        • TexasTart says:

          I’ll.say! 😆
          So was there a meeting of the generations yesterday?!

          • BB says:

            Yes, great-grandma finally met her great grandson. It was nice. She said when she was in the hospital, she worried it might not ever happen. My nephew’s wife is due in October, so then she’ll have two!

            • TexasTart says:

              Great news! 😀

            • Catseye says:

              That’s wonderful!

            • Powell says:

              Oh. Very nice for your mom. Jack is very lucky to have grandmothers & a great great grandmother. My grandmother was murdered when my mom was 11 & my great grandmother was already old when she raised my mom & her sisters.

              • Yikes Powell….that is quite a history!

                I am glad for Jack & BB’s family too though! I was born to my mother very late in her life so my Grandmothers/Fathers and older relatives had already passed. Then she and my dad passed when I was 18 & 21 respectively…so I have grown up with little extended “biological’ family. That is why when Jill or BB and others talk about their large, close families here…I love to read about it. It sounds so warm and comforting! 🙂

                Happy for you and your mom, BB…and little Jack!

            • LaineyLainey says:

              Yay!! Glad they finally met. She’s so sweet…admitting her fear of perhaps not meeting Jack. That just tells you how sick she was and how badly she felt. We’re all so glad that wasn’t the case…but not as happy as you, BB, I suspect.

        • Powell says:

          Well BB I don’t know what the Presidents of programming on all the networks are going to do because you’ve just gotten rid of all their money makers according to them. 🙂

        • chismosa says:

          No no there can’t be anything “Greek” on it !??
          Maybe “Gypsy”???

          • BB says:

            Yes, you a correctamundo! Gypsy!

            • chismosa says:

              Haha I got what you meant.

              I would have thought it would have been so interesting and educational to learn about gypsy or “traveler” culture (it’s not the Romanis I don’t think?) – but it turned out to be such trash

    • Powell says:

      HA!!! I love the title in the link. “The worst shows right now”.

    • missusmc says:

      Sorry, I can’t take that list seriously. “Community” is listed at number 12, and that is an amazing show. I think they could have easily just said “anything on MTV, VHI, and most of Bravo” and the list would have been accurate 🙂

  4. Powell says:

    Good morning Donna, lizzle, TexasTart, NMD and everyone. I hope you’ve had a great weekend and are enjoying your last day of relaxation before the weekend ends.

    Mariah only turned down HWs because she would want to be the star & NeNe considers herself the star. My, my, my what big egos they have.

  5. AZGirl says:

    Good morning everyone! Beautiful day today. Supposedly the first 100 degree day of the year.

  6. AZGirl says:

    I saw Lulu’s post on yesterday’s blog about Cut Fitness. Did you see their hours? Opens at 8 a.m.? Closes at 8 pm? WTH?
    Ha Tammy Sue’s hours. Doesn’t have to get up early and can still get her drink on at night.
    Every gym I know opens no later than 6 a.m. My gym opens at 4:30 a.m. and closes at 11 p.m. 24Hour Fitness is very popular in California. I give them 6 months.

    • BB says:

      Those hours are not going to work! I remember when I used to go to work at 6 a.m. and passing a gym and it was already crowded with people working out.

    • I haven’t looked into her gym but for some reason I think she only does classes. As in no workout equipment. She still needs to have classes at 6am so peeps can workout before work. But, then again, the women of the gated communities might not work…lol. A gym that isnt diversified might have a hard time surviving. And if the customer service is bad.. It prolly won’t survive.

      • Catseye says:

        It sounds like it’s located in an industrial area, not residential. It should probably have showers in addition to opening earlier, but that would cost a lot of money to install and keep clean. I don’t think people would want to drive back home to get ready to go to work. Not the way traffic is, in So.CA anyway. Poor planning. No experience running a gym, only that Eddie is an Office Mgr and gave Spin classes somewhere. We can see from the website errors that he isn’t that diligent, nor is she. Somehow, I don’t think “CUT” is going to “cut the mustard.” 😕

    • HuskerHuny says:

      I work at a community fitness center (among other things) and we open at 5 a.m. and close at 11:30 p.m. and that’s in a community of 25,000. Our membership sets our hours and that’s what they want. The earlier, the better! If we were only open 8-8, we would be out of business.

      • iceNfire says:

        Yes the owner of the last club I belonged to listened to what the members wanted….5am- midnight. Membership fees were locked for life at the time of signing so I paid $50 monthly for the whole family. I have been looking to join a club recently but they average cost is $80 monthly just for me 😦

      • Powell says:

        Mmmm hmmm. Lots of early birds and night owls. You have to cater to them.

    • Powell says:

      AZGirl I was gonna say many gyms open at 4am. People are at work 5am, get off of work at 12pm & 1am. I think some gyms are open 24/7. They definitely won’t make money w/those hours.

  7. Powell says:

    I see Phaedra is going to be on tonight’s epi of The Kandi Factory. I’m going to watch some of it just to see what they are up to. I haven’t watched any of it this season.

    • BB says:

      The ratings are terrible.

      • We say we want to watch a fun, upbeat show and Bravo gives them to us (Brad, Kandi), and we reward Bravo by panning the shows and watching trash like Vanderpump Rules and MarriedtoMedicine. Yet we blame Bravo. I’m in a self-reflective mood right now. Why do I watch so many shows on the top 20 list? I need to throw out my TV.

        • lizzle says:

          I watch them all… the good, bad and the ugly. The fashion shows are my favorite and they are basically drama-free. I don’t support Kandi’s show because I don’t watch competition shows right now and she pulled Matthew’s song from I-tunes after he won…. only for it to be put back up when the promos for the show started. He couldn’t tour because he couldn’t sell his music and people couldn’t listen to the song to promote his live shows. I don’t think he even has rights to the song, so he basically won nothing. Shame, shame on Kandi.

        • ladebra says:

          You make a very good point. As I leave so called reality (heavily scripted bad acting) tv I find I am watching more Scandal, Revenge, Castle, Once Upon A Time, Person of Interest, Vikings, The Mentalist, VEEP, Homeland, Elementary, Masterpiece Theater, Game of Thrones, House of Cards, Revolution …… I watch too much TV 😛

          • BB says:

            Me too (watching more scripted tv and less “reality” tv); although I find myself with the TV in the “off” mode more and more every day.

          • Powell says:

            Lol. I watched about 10 minutes of VEEP yesterday. I love Julia LD. I really need to get into the show. The actress that’s blonde shoulder length hair looks like Julia Roberts niece Emma Roberts. She was on E! doing an interview. She’s pregnant very cute. My mom thought she was Emma. The resemblance is uncanny to me.

        • Powell says:

          I love Brad & Rachel. I’m not much into watching reality tv shows that are about music. I no longer watch Idol, never really got into XFactor & don’t watch TheVoice even though I like the judges. I think too many seasons of Idol in the beginning just wore me out. I love Kandi & if it was about Kandi running her enterprises I’d probably watch.

  8. HuskerHuny says:

    Happy Arbor Day weekend! When in school, it was a day when my class/school would go out during the school day and plant a tree or two. Arbor Day is native to Nebraska, but lately it’s being referred to as Earth Day. Either way, I hope everyone here has a fantastic day weather-wise that inspires you to do something that gives back to our planet. It’s warm in Huskerland and I will get my pansies in some dirt today!

    • BB says:

      My only contribution today will be going to the library and checking out some recycled books. Lol.

    • lizzle says:

      Earth Day was started by a man that ended up murdering his girlfriend and stuffing her body in a trunk. I always think about that when it is Earth Day. IMO, Nebraskans should go back to calling Arbor Day… Arbor Day. I like that word… Arbor. Anyways, I have a bunch of plants in pots. Hopefully watering and pruning will count as giving back to the Earth.

      • Exit4 says:

        Ira Einhorn. Happened right here in Philadelphia.

      • HuskerHuny says:

        Actually we still do call it Arbor Day. The man who started it was named J. Sterling Morton and he lived in Nebraska City, NE and it is the home of Arbor Lodge which is quite a beautiful place. I didn’t know that about the man who started calling it Earth Day. I will scratch that name from my memory – I thought more people would recognize Earth Day and not Arbor Day. I remember a Law and Order episode with a similar plot – you know, stories ripped from the headlines. I miss L&O!

    • Mene Seela says:

      HH – I planted two Oleander trees along my driveway this weekend.

  9. lizzle says:

    Does anybody else have a child that is obsessed with Fireman Sam? I think I have seen more episodes of Fireman Sam than the Real Housewives. My lil girl wants to be a fireman. Or maybe it’s a firewoman? Or fireperson.

    Did you guys hear that some Universities are not using the term Freshman, because it has man in the word? They are now being referred to as First Year students. Just some food for thought.

    • Catseye says:

      So stupid. So does the word “woman” and then there’s “female” that has “male” in it. I think those scholars need to devote more time to something else.

      • Powell says:

        Like continuing to help people get into college. No matter what the biz/org is they have someone, some dept that wastes time changing names/titles. I always say I want that job since they must, just be twiddling their thumbs.

      • lizzle says:

        Women and females could be called…. vajayjay holders 🙂

    • melthehound says:

      Sorry, I have to wonder what PC Nazi came up with that one.

    • How about “firefighter?” Just keeping it simple… 😉

      • Mene Seela says:

        and first year college students can be FreshFighters.

      • lizzle says:

        I didn’t even think of that word. I always ask the lil one what she wants to be and she has never answered, but the other day she said she wants to be Fireman Sam.. I told her she would have to change her name to Sam, but it could work. She’s going to be one fierce firefighter.

        • Good for her! 🙂
          I think “firefighter” has become the generally accepted and used term… For instance, here’s the Wikipedia entry for the TV show “Chicago Fire.”
          >>Chicago Fire is an American television drama that airs on NBC on Wednesdays at 10:00 pm Eastern/9:00 pm Central after Law & Order: Special Victims Unit during the 2012–13 television season. Created by Michael Brandt and Derek Haas and produced by Law & Order creator Dick Wolf, the show follows the lives of the firefighters and paramedics working at the Chicago Fire Department at the firehouse of Engine 51, Truck 81, Squad 3, Ambulance 61 and Battalion 25. The firehouse shown is Engine 18’s Quarters located at 1360 … <<

  10. Good Lazy Sunday Morning! I am stretching and yawning after being curled up in my chair finishing the last pages of an excellent book I got at the library. Love the library….and now have to go back as all 3 books I recently got are done. It is great to have the time to read more since I don’t watch Bravo hardly at all anymore!! 🙂

    I saw you guys were talking about C.U.T, so I jumped over to Google to check it out and there sure is not a lot of web presence. Also, their FB page is kind of confusing. If I was seriously looking for a gym to join, I would pass on that one….and the errors…OY…not a good look. I do not wish failure on anyone in these tough times, but I have a feeling this won’t last a beat. It couldn’t happen to a “nicer’ woman! 😯

    Wishing everyone a wonderful Sunday!!

    Head over to my place for some “Sunday Inspiration” if you like! Enjoy!

    • BB says:

      I’ve been reading a lot lately too. I just finished Gone Girl (got it from the library). I must say after all the hype I was a little disappointed, especially in the ending.

  11. Forgot to mention how great it is to see Detox’s post. Hope you are doing well “Wordy Bird”….and come out to play when you can! Hugs!!

  12. plainviewsue says:

    Looks like mother of the year Melissa Gorga got pulled over while driving & received five citations, one of which was not having her child in a car seat.

    The others were speeding, no proof of insurance, no car registration & unclear license plates. She was driving a bentley.

    I’m sure Teresa is behind it all!!

    • BB says:

      What! You mean her hot little self couldn’t talk her way out of all those citations? She should have said to the cop “Do you know who I am?” 😀

    • melthehound says:

      Lifestyles of the pseudo rich and over privileged.

    • Obviously Teresa’s fault. Child not in car seat – shame on her.

    • Powell says:

      Damn! Did the officer have any tickets left to write? Not having the child in a carseat is the most despicable thing she’s done. God forbid that child being thrown through the windshield, that Bentley couldn’t protect her/him. My number one pet peeve watching ALL the reality shows is that many of them don’t wear seatbelts.

      • TexasTart says:

        Powell, I notice reality show people forgetting to buckle up and I assume they are too distracted about being on camera to remember…..but still, it is an automatoc motion for the majority of us drivers. The one that drove me nuts was when Mama Elsa drove Marysol somewhere and oh my gosh that woman has minimal coordination – not to mention her neck doesn’t turn left and right! I was shocked that she still drove…as well concerned for anyone near her!

  13. ladebra says:

    Revenge is back tonight! I just had to share! 💖

  14. lizzle says:

    I forgot to read the blog today… I just started commenting. That’s a first. Anyways, regarding Mariah not having the final say in creative content… I call BS. She’s not just a producer, but she OWNS the production company. If she says don’t show the fight…. they would cut the fight. Is she insane? Do these reality stars think we automatically believe what comes out of their mouths?

  15. Powell says:

    I’m catching up on Mad Men. I’m recognizing a lot of actors from old comedies & soap operas. They widened their pool of actors. The first few seasons there were only a few actors I knew.

    • BB says:

      I’m watcing Coal Miner’s Daughter

      • Powell says:

        Love that movie. I watched some of Giant last night. I feel asleep. Love,Dame Elizabeth,Taylor, Rock Hudson & James Deen.

    • chismosa says:

      Has anyone seen the preview for the movie about Roseanne Cash with Jewel starring in it?looks good. On Lifetime
      I don’t generally watch lifetime but I like the actor playing Johnny Cash (he played Albie on Big Love)

  16. Powell says:

    Now I’m catching up on Masterpiece Classic Mr. Selfridge.

    • Mene Seela says:

      Hi Powel – is the show good? I don’t care for Jeremy Piven so I haven’t watched it yet. I have all the episodes dvr’d.

      • LaineyLainey says:

        If i can add my two cents…if you don ‘t care for him…the other actors are quite good.
        The characters are interesting. The story is good, too.

      • Powell says:

        I love it. Masterpiece knows how to write good dramas. 🙂

    • lizzle says:

      I’ve never heard of it. What’s it about?

      • LaineyLainey says:

        An American Retail tycoon who opens a high end department store in London. In a nutshell.

        • lizzle says:

          Dang… I should have waited for LL to come to my rescue 🙂

        • Powell says:

          I think its suppose to be the first major dept store. They introduce makeup and manufactured clothing for women. What’s good about it too is their personal lives. Mr. Selfridge has affairs, a manager & the head of women’s accessories have an affair, one of the counter girls & her brother a warehouse worker have an alcoholic father that finds them & makes their lives a living hell. Very interesting characters.

      • lizzle says:

        OK… now you made me go look it up… LOL It is about the owner of a London dept store and it looks really good

    • Mene Seela says:

      Sounds like I should give it a try!

    • Powell…and anyone else who watches this….I have been meaning to ask what your opinions are. I do not care for Jeremy Piven either and, after the first epi, was not going to watch again. But I got into the other characters in the second epi and now I am enjoying the story. I still think JP was miscast in this…of all the actors they could have used I was surprised it was him….but Lainey is right, the other characters/actors are very good and peak my interest. Thoughts?

      • Powell says:

        I admire Mr. Selfridge developing ways to get the people of London to embrace the concept of a dept store. The women still had to go to dress makers to have an everyday dress made. And perfume & makeup seemed like it was something women were afraid of.

        • It IS interesting to see the history of it and the evolution of department stores. Back in that day…make up and fashion were considered “evil” and for street walkers, not proper women. If those people could only see us today! 😉

  17. pat says:

    Caroline Manzo interview. Wow, talk about biting the hand that feeds you. And she sure is looking well fed, these days. Maybe she shouldn’t have been busting her daughter’s chops for being overweight.

    • LaineyLainey says:

      I didn’t see where she bit the hand. You think cause she said Andy’s pure evil behind the innocent puppy dog face? Ok, maybe…but I think she recovered pretty well.

      Her makeup people did her no favors. The false eyelashes are too thick and not even straight. Her eyebrows, seriously? Any makeup artist worth anything could have done better eyebrows on her. That just ‘aint right. Who knows, maybe little Lauren did her makeup job. She is not an unattractive woman, she has nice features but her makeup people seem to keep wanting to give her a clownish look.

    • chismosa says:

      I was in a Barnes and Noble last night (the few that still exist!)— and the biography section up front had her stupid book at eye level. Looked like people picked it up to sift through then put down. Lol

      Let Me Tell You Something, it’s not gonna sell

    • plainviewsue says:

      LMAO Pat. Yes, overfed, is the word!

      I did enjoy the short interview, cos it reminded me of when I liked Caroline.

  18. Powell says:

    I’m just reading what NMD posted about Mariah. Ok here’s my 1st question. Why in the heck did their mother give them the same first name even though the spelling is different? What was she going for? Keisha like George Forman’s 5 sons named George? 2nd Why in the heck haven’t Keesha & Keisha grown their kids bedding line into an intl biz? That’s where money is. But they want to be Medical Housewives?

  19. princesspindy says:

    Hey Everybody!! Thank you for all the Happy Birthday wishes!!! Who knew NJBev had such a beautiful singing voice! LOL!! Had a great day, breakfast in bed from my hubby. Chinese food for dinner, it was great!! Still tired from the tiling project but so happy.
    Funny story, my doggie, BooBoo, which by the name you can tell is, I won’t say that she is dumb, because I think she is an evil genius but~ we put a black glass tile threshold between my son’s room and the hall tile… I had carried BooBoo into his room and we were all oohhing and ahhhing over it and then we all walked out. Where’s BooBoo? She wouldn’t come out….she was afraid of the the threshold, LOL!! So of course I kept putting her in back in his room until she would finally jump over it, lol. Small things for small minds, highly entertaining!! She is too funny!!!

    • TexasTart says:

      Hey Princess, glad to hear you had a good day! 🙂

    • ladebra says:

      Lol – BooBoo gate 😉

    • Boobah says:

      I am so glad that you had a good birthday! Did you have any CAKE?

      • princesspindy says:

        Dark Chocolate Fudge with chocolate chips!!!!!! Yummy, yummy!!! On Hello Kitty plates and napkins!! lol!!!

        • TexasTart says:

          How chocolately!
          djprincess must have been there and supplied the paper goods! 😉

          • princesspindy says:

            lol, we princesses love hello kitty! I have quite a collection, my favorite is the watch my daughter got me for Christmas a couple of years ago!

          • djprincessc says:

            Did somebody say HELLO KITTY?????? hahahahahaha.. I literally threw my chips down when PP said Hello Kitty plates and napkins!!! Thanks for thinking of me TT!! ❤ 🙂

            • TexasTart says:

              😛 How could I not think of you?!!! So funny…literally threw your chips down, lol!

            • You must come visit the Mall of America because we have a Hello Kitty store.
              On our vacation the group we go with had a Kitten and Angel theme night. My hubby thought the guys should dress as the California Angels so he got three other husbands to dress up. I sewed skirts for 4 of us wives and we were the Hello Kitties. We all have way toooo much Hello Kitty accessories now.
              My Granddaughter got my lunchbox and basket plus the necklace(which she wears every weekend when she’s at her Daddy’s)

              • djprincessc says:

                I’d love too! Anywhere with Hello Kitty I wanna be! Is it a big store?? Here in California there is one in Torrance where I live but its small, then there’s one in Carson thats a bigger one, I’ve been to 2 in Vegas and they were nice too! I love going to the different Sanrio stores bc they all carry different things 🙂

        • Boobah says:

          OMG – that sounds so awesome! I seriously want cake so bad right now!

  20. realhousewifeva says:

    Hi everyone, this is totally off topic, but I just need to vent and I`ve learned in my life that venting to real life family or friends can often bite me in the ass. My MIL has cancer. She lives overseas but for the past year she has spent more time in America than overseas for her treatments. She has 3 sons that live in the DC/MD area, all married, but she never stays at one`s house and the other she will stay with on rare occasion. Basically, most of her time is here. My other BILs have 1 and 0 kids respectively, while I have 4. They live in 3 and 4 bedroom homes with 1 or no kids, while I have a 3 bedroom house for my family of 6. Clearly, we are basically on top of eachother, in order to accomodate my mother in law. They very rarely see her, one sees her 1 time a week, AT MY HOUSE, while the other sees her even less than that. We are responsible for taking her to all her appointments, entertaining all guests that come to visit her, I wash and fold her laundry, cook fresh meals for her everyday, etc. All with 4 kids and work on top of it. Not to mention, the BIL with no kids, his wife doesnt even work. Even with all that, I try my best to stay patient and just let it be. I know my MIL is most comfortable here and given her situation, I do not want to rock the boat or anything. Even though its so not f*cking fair.
    Now, there is a family wedding that is coming up in May in Florida. We`ve known about it for months and I was really excited to go because we figured we would make it a family trip and I could see my sister and her daughter that I haven`t met yet. I didn`t think there would be any reason that my one BIL and his wife would go since they are not as close with this family as we have been and they never go to weddings. Of course my MIL cannot go, so I assumed she`d stay a week with them, for once. Yesterday they came over and said they made tickets to go to Florida for the wedding, and so did my other BIL and his wife. No one ever even asked us if we might want to go since we`ve spent the past 2 years being the primary caretaker for their mom and maybe we would want a vacation. My sister-in-law even had the nerve to say `Are you going? don`t you want to go to Florida?`…HOW THE HELL CAN I DO THAT NOW?? I was dumbfounded. They all went on vacations during Christmas break while we had my MIL with us, and now they are all going to Florida and we can`t go, and I`m so effing pissed off that I once again get everything dumped on me. And I can`t complain, because I know my MIL is already depressed and would love to be home overseas, and she just started a new chemo thats really taking a toll on her so my problems are so insignificant…but I`m still so angry. They only visit their mom at my house, they always get a full meal when they come, I treat them all so well and they even say to me how they dont know how I do it all…but then they all go behind our back w/o even discussing who would go to the wedding and made tickets. They didn`t want to be stuck caring for their mom. We didn`t go anywhere for Spring Break on purpose because we were going to make that trip our family vacay. I`m so stressed and upset and I just needed to let it out because It`s been boiling me inside all day. Sorry for being so long.

    • ladebra says:

      If the Florida trip would only be a week, is there a service that you could hire to get you MILTo her apps for just the time you are gone? She should understand if you want to attend. And I would ask the other 2 sons to pay their share of the cost. It’s just me, but I’d have a family sit down with all involved and ask for support and help.

    • lizzle says:

      OMG! I am so pissed off too! Your husband definitely needs to tell his siblings what’s up and that you guys are going to that wedding. You are definitely going to that wedding… one or both of them can cancel or THEY can figure out the caretaking situation. I’ve learned over the years that people don’t think outside themselves and sometimes they need to be told what seems to be the obvious.

      • lizzle says:

        ****some people don’t think outside themselves, not all people

        Also, you must be really good at what you do if people think you don’t need a break. You have an incredibly full household.

    • princesspindy says:

      Now I’m pissed too!!! That is just so unfair!!!! They need to pony up, chip in and help get a care giver for the week!!!! Your poor MIL!! They are selfish a~holes!!!! They need a wake up call!!! IPPHO!!!!

    • BB says:

      My blood pressure is at a boiling point. I’m speechless! You may not like what I have to say. I hope you get some type of resolution, but only you and your husband can change the situation. Your in-laws are going to keep taking advantage of you as long as you allow it.

      • BB says:

        AND the first step I would take would be to have my husband pick up the phone, call BOTH brothers, tell them you are going to Florida and THEY will be responsible for arranging for you MIL’s care while you are gone. THEN GO AND HAVE A GOOD TIME IN FL.

        • princesspindy says:


        • mygirlsmom says:

          Agreed BB. You should be direct with your expectations of them and not allow them to take advantage of your kindness.

        • LaineyLainey says:

          Your Brothers-in-law have got to step in this one time, so that you can go on your trip. God bless you and keep you safe for what you’ve done, are doing, and will continue to do for your mother-in-law…but you need a little break. You deserve it. If it’s at all possible. I will be praying for you, sweet lady,…wonderful daughter-in-law.

    • Catseye says:

      I hear ya. And I’m really sorry that families act that way. Out of 4 kids, I am the ONLY one who is taking my mother out for Mother’s Day to a fancy restaurant. My 2 brothers live out of state, my sister is going to dinner at her daughter and son-in-law’s and of course they can’t be bothered with her–unless of course it was for $$ to pay off my niece’s car or to give them money as their wedding gift last October. I’m disabled and yet I drive 30miles one way, every other week to take my mom to Costco, the plant nursery and discount store, then I unload her groceries, drive home and unload mine. Pretty exhausting. It wouldn’t irritate me so much, except my sister lives a couple miles away and my mother used to watch her kids when they were little, take them to and from school, etc. And even loaned my sister and her now ex-husband to start their own business, back in the day. I think in any family, no matter how many kids there are, it always boils down to just one doing everything for the elderly parents. And I personally think, that you are setting a great example to your kids on how to respect and honor their grandmother.

      • BB says:

        Perhaps we should start our own “The Designated Family Caretaker” Club. Lol.

        • TexasTart says:

          Good idea, ha ha. ‘Get it off your chest’ meetings. Free membership.
          I like what catseye said to highlight the good example that is being set for the children.

          • BB says:

            Me too. I know my two girls are watching me and will step up when their dad and I may need them. But they also know I have limits as to how much I will be taken advantage of too. They know I can be firm with family members, including them and even my mom when it needs doing.

        • realhousewifeva says:

          lol, it really is very cathartic to vent here 🙂

      • designernailsdiana says:

        Catseye~ when I met my hubby his sister was driving to their diabetic, kidney dialysis needing Mom to set up her Medications in the containers every two weeks. She was driving 30-45 minutes one direction usually in traffic after driving school bus too. We live 15 minutes away if rush hour is going on. I finally begged and I mean begged my s-i-l to let me do the meds. She finally relented when they went to Jamaica for their daughters wedding. I had the best time chatting with my dear Mother-in-law Grayce and doing her nails. I got to hear stories about my hubby when he was a little boy and she always made me laugh. I miss her so much. She passed a month before our Granddaughter Nevaeh Grace was born. I think about her and wish I had those chats back one more time.
        Bless your heart for being their for her, God has a special jewel for you and RealVA in Heaven!!

    • realhousewifeva says:

      Thank you all for making me feel justified in my feelings! You guys are so great! My husband doesn`t help matters b/c he is the oldest and for some reason he feels the responsibility is knowing that his mom feels best with us, he wants her to be as comfy as possible. I get it. I understand that he doesn`t want to cause an issue with his brothers b/c then he feels like his mom will feel like a burden (she already does, she says so sometimes). One day she put a load of laundry in the wash late at night and I knew she would get up in the middle of the night to dry and fold it, so I stayed up when she went to sleep, waited for it to wash and then put it in the dryer and folded them and put them outside her room. When she woke up in the middle of the night she said she started crying b/c she felt like such a burden that I did that for her. I know she already feels so bad about the Florida trip so I`m trying to suck it up and make her believe that I don`t mind and we will go on a trip in the summer…

      It doesnt help matters that my mom also has cancer that she gets treatment for weekly and my dad recently had a heart attack and 3 stints put in…I had to go back and forth to Ohio during that time to help them move (they were in the middle of moving when he had his heart attack). I could never stay for too long b/c of everything I have going on here (plus my sister and brother are in Ohio, at least). My SIL actually had the nerve to say to me that I was lucky I went to Ohio so much late last year to see my family. I spent the entire time moving and unpacking boxes and going to doctors for both my parents and I was `lucky`?

      Catseye, I`m sorry, I know how you feel. I am the 4th child of 6 but my mom always used to call me her `right arm` and say she couldn`t manage without me…and because of that I always feel an extra responsibility to do as much as I can for my parents even though some of my siblings are in the same state as her. I`m sorry you feel all that pressure, too, and on top you are disabled 😦 See, I really shouldn`t complain because it could be worse for me, thankfully my health is good and I am able to take care of everyone. Maybe I will get good karma and my only son will marry a great woman who will help take care of me if I ever need it. lol

      • BB says:

        Sounds like we’re all in some kind of boat. It sure has helped me to have this place to whine every so often. Thanks to all you guys.

      • AZGirl says:

        Your husband needs to step up and pull up his big boy panties and deal with his family. This is NOT your mother and trust me I dealt with a MIL with MS and another MIL with Alhiemers (sp?). FIL is on wife No. 4 marriage No. 6. You need to tell your husband ENOUGH. THIS IS HIS MOTHER HIS PROBLEM.

        • BB says:

          AZ. That is one thing both my husband and I agreed on straightaway. He was the primary caretaker for his mom. I was there for support and advice when he asked. Same thing with my aunt (who had no kids) and my mom. I’m responsible for her, not him. He provides support, but I bear the brunt of it.

          • AZGirl says:

            Mr. AZGirl is an only child but has lots of step brothers and sister. I did it all for both sides of the family and it nearly killed me. Husband’s mother had MS from the day I met her (35 years ago) so I knew that was going to be something to deal with. Step mother had Alheimers for 6 years. Both passed away 6 years ago. I lost both of my parents at the same time of taking care of the MIL’s.
            There will always be family members who step up and help and others that do not. But taking it all on and no breaks is difficult and there needs to be a “pow wow”.
            FIL is a monster. Good news he is moving out of state in 2 weeks because he is broke and I probably will never see him again.

        • RealhouseWifeva says:

          I know, eventually we are going to have to have a big talk about this. I feel bad because he is very stressed and worried right now plus working two jobs, and doing all the research and doc appts with his mom..this is her third doctor and new treatment. The first one stopped working, the second was a trial drug that was so awful on her body and the tumor grew…and now chemo…I don’t want to add any stress. But sometimes I’m like ” my mom has cancer too, and you’re not taking care of her!!!”.

          • BB says:

            You are much nicer than I am! I would have already blown a fuse. There is a special place in heaven for you and others like you.

            • RealhouseWifeva says:

              I know this sounds really silly, but I’m tearing up because you all have made me feel much better tonight, and given me a little strength to speak up. Sometimes I feel guilty for complaining because she is dying of cancer and really miserable, and here I am upset that I am stuck with her…even though I love her and want her to be taken care feelings are so conflicted.

              • BB says:

                No need to feel guilty for having a pity party – I have at least one a day and my mom is not dying of cancer. Your mother in law didn’t ask for this, but you certainly didn’t either. It’s perfectly normal to have all those feelings, sadness, frustration, anger, guilt, etc.

              • TexasTart says:

                Understandably so.

              • mygirlsmom says:

                Look at it this way, you are no good to anyone if you don’t take care of yourself. I’m sure your mother in law understands this and you shouldn’t feel guilty for thinking of yourself once in a while.

    • djprincessc says:

      I’m sorry they are doing this to you, like Lizzle said some people just don’t think outside of themselves sad but SO extremely true.
      I am an only child and only grandchild (one my dads side) and my mom has always had health problems about a couple years ago she had surgery for a tumor that was growing on the side of her face (thank god it was benign but it was growing rapidly and got infected and needed to come out) anyway I was there for her during the whole thing. I remember being sooooo upset sitting in the waiting room during her surgery and there were a lot of family and friends all asking me questions and I must have looked like the coldest biggest bitch in the world bc I was very short in my answers, well it was because I was trying my hardest to not break down and cry and it was pissing me off that nobody was thinking of how scary this was for me.
      I remember when she was out and the nurse said she could be seen, I was so shocked as to how she looked I just started bawling! The poor nurse was looking at me like she felt sooooo bad for me, and assured me she was doing fine. She was in the hospital for 2 or 3 days I think and my dad and I took turns, when he was there I was home and when I was there he was home. I remember sitting there while she was sleeping dying to be anywhere else but there and calling my bff traumatized about my mom. When she was released my dad and I both took care of her and I did anything and everything she wanted.
      The whole point of my long story is that being the only one, it infuriates me when I hear of huge families having absolutely no guilt or shame about taking care of parents. It should 100% be a shared responsibility and everyone needs to realize how lucky they all are to have each other to love, help and support.
      Idk how siblings have no conscience in regard to these types of issues and go on about their life’s like nothing, my mom is 1 of 7 and her mom has a tons of health issues (a lot worse then my mom) and out of all of them my mom 2 of her sisters and 1 brother are the only ones who help and care, the others show up whenever they feel like it without thinking twice about it.

      You deserve to go on your trip realhousewifeva ❤

      • RealhouseWifeva says:

        Thanks dj, Your story is so touching 😦 I can’t imagine how it feels to truly be the only child with everything on your shoulders. I think in big families one or two people tend to take on all the responsibility and everyone else selfishly loves it and takes advantage of it 😦

        • djprincessc says:

          I’ve noticed that A LOT with larger families and that is ONE thing I am going to drill into my kids heads when I have them, it makes my blood boil. You are an amazing daughter in law I don’t know how you do it, I would have gone off on all of them! lol.

          • RealhouseWifeva says:

            I blew up on my father in law a couple years ago when she first got diagnosed and he came with her for 6 months. He is impossible to live with and since then our relationship has been strained. His mentality is very old school and cultural… But I’m American born and raised so I don’t follow those rules. Now she comes alone, lol

    • looneylucy says:

      rhva, I’m so sorry for you. Your situation is similar to mine when I was caring for my mother before she passed. My mom came to my home. My siblings continued to live their lives, with a perfunctory visit to mom once a week. When my three siblings & inlaws wandered in once a week, I took that opportunity to bathe my babies while not having to worry about mom.

      I’m curious about your husband’s birth order in the family. I’m not the oldest, but my oldest sibling seemed to want to “run” things, even though mom wasn’t living in his house. Unfortunately, there are hard feelings and repurcussions that have lasted since my mothers death. I had heard about families like that, but I always said to myself “not us. we’re too tight”. Ha!

      Comparing the two situations, we could not have afforded to have someone come in, nor would I have done it – having a stranger in my home for a week.

      You may end up biting this one, rhva. Unless your husband steps up. It’s his mother and his place to rectify it. But please know……your MIL feels most at home with you. YOU. Not the other boys or their wives.

      It’s hard and tough now, but when you lie your sweet head on your pillow at night, please know that when it’s all said and done, you’ve done everything within your power to help her. You’ll have your time when she’s gone back overseas or to her maker. I have my time, but I wish I had one more day with her.

      • RealhouseWifeva says:

        Thank you Lucy… I think you really understand and can relate. My husband has always been the closest to his mom so I naturally became the closest daughter in law. However, I’m beginning to really resent how much we are being taken advantage of by the others. I don’t want her to keep jumping from house to house, she is ill and needs to be stable so you are right, I may end up biting this one. I’ve accepted it, I just needed to vent 🙂 Your last paragraph is very touching and you are so right. Thanks

      • Catseye says:

        So very true Lucy and your last sentence say it all to me. That’s why I keep doing what I do.
        I get to see firsthand how selfish and lazy some kids are. My elderly next-door neighbor NEVER has ANYONE come visit–NOT EVEN ON HOLIDAYS. He lives all alone since his wife went to an Alzheimer’s facility. I make sure his trash can gets set out/put back every week and took him a plate of cookies last Christmas. And I know once he’s gone, his kids will be there fighting over whatever they feel is theirs!

    • Donna says:

      Been There! I suggest that you get a durable power of attorney from your MIL, when the time comes for making decisions ask for opinions, LOL after making decisons they will say they will sign papers without showing up thus giving you the financial responsibility without knowing that you have the absolute power making decisions. Please be prepared that when all find out that you have power of attorney they will go from person to person telling outrageous lies, stealing posessions from your MIL before she is deceased.

    • mrspeabody says:

      Not to be mean but have you told them how you feel? They may think you are ok with taking care of her all by yourself if you don’t ever let them know otherwise. If you haven’t told them it is time you and your husband had a nice long conversation with them. Do it now!

      • lizzle says:

        I agree… there is no shame in asking for help. It isn’t that you don’t want to take care of her… you need help. Maybe approach it in that way so there are no hard feelings. Make it seem like you need a break ever so often and not like your inlaws and their wives are selfish (even though they are). That will make them feel good to know that they are helping you.

        And your MIL isn’t the burden… it is your husband’s siblings. Your MIL should never have to know about the Pow-wow that you guys have with the in-laws. If the whole family loves her… then they will protect her. I wish you the best in whatever you decide. You are the one that has to live with the choices you make. Personally, I cannot be around drama… so sometimes, I bite the bullet as well. But if I were in your situation… I would have exploded already… so bless you RHVA… you are a gentle soul.

    • designernailsdiana says:

      I’m absolutely speechless…ok …not for long..
      I’ve seen this happen way too often. One family member takes on the responsibility of caregiver and the rest of the family think “Oh he/she has it all under control if he/she needs my help he/she will say something” Which everyone knows 9 times out of 10 it never happens.
      I say what everyone else said tell them (THRU your husband-their brother) you are taking your family and going to Florida and they will need to make all the arrangements for Mom. Explain to Mom so she doesn’t feel totally abandoned. Believe me, after my weekend with my Dad talking, I know she will want you to go and enjoy a get away.
      We’ve got your back!!

  21. TexasTart says:

    This sucks. I’m not clear if the others knew of your plans, but being a family wedding, kind of implies all family could be invited…so at that rate I hold them guilty of taking you and your husband for granted! I’m sorry you’re so upset…it’s certainly justified!

    • RealhouseWifeva says:

      They knew I wanted to go. We waited until we got the actual invitations and were then going to talk with them all to figure out plans, but they all made their plans without even asking us first. Even my MIL said she was upset that none of them had even hinted they were planning to go, I talked about it the most!!

      • TexasTart says:

        Grrrrr *furrowed eyebrows* the no botox hard lines.
        Infuriating! Even if they are so self absorbed to not realize the obvious – they are taking you for granted either way. Bottom line is lack of respect. 😦 I don’t have advise other than to point out this still a changeable situation regardless of airline tickets and rsvp’s made.

      • lizzle says:

        I don’t think there is anyone on this planet that is that oblivious. Is there some underlying family feud going on? Are the siblings jealous that your husband is the favorite or are they just assholes? Sorry, I know they are family… but I can’t get over this. My brother would get a swift kick in his britches if he did that to me. I would drop my mom off at his doorstep a few days before the wedding and take off! And my mom would support my behavior.

  22. mygirlsmom says:

    Oh my gosh, I just got through watching War Horse. I cried my eyes out.

    • chismosa says:

      I refuse to watch that! It’s on showtime like 2x a day!
      Beautiful movie I’ve heard. 🐴🐴😪😪😪

      • mygirlsmom says:

        I have had it on my dvr since December 8 and have put off watching it, lol. My head actually hurts from crying. I haven’t cried that hard watching a movie since The Color Purple during full blown post pregnancy hormones. It does have a happy ending though.

    • BB says:

      I heard it was good, but I can’t watch sad animal movies.

      • Catseye says:

        Me either. I even have to turn the channel/leave the room when those commercials about abused animals come on.

        • mygirlsmom says:

          Me too. Lesson learned, lol.

        • TexasTart says:

          Me too.

        • kit9 says:

          Me too! I effing hate Sarah Mclaughlin.

          • mygirlsmom says:

            I know right? I cringe whenever I hear that song now.

          • chismosa says:

            Hahaha Kit9!

            There’s a new song I think they’re going to start using- forget which. i turn my head away and hit mute and change the channel ASAP

            • kit9 says:

              I will forcibly shove people and anything else out of the way in a diving attempt to grab the remote when those commercials come on. I can’t take it. Every now and then a sad story makes it through to me…glance at a headline on a news site, etc and I see it before I realize what it is, and it then proceeds to drive me insane. A couple years ago that happened and it was the worst case of abuse I’d ever heard and I couldn’t stop thinking about and was so angry I actively imagined what I’d like to do to the woman that did it. Let’s just say it wasn’t pretty. I could have gone Jodi Arias on her. And, that thinking ain’t healthy!

        • djprincessc says:

          I cringe anytime a Jennifer Hudson weight watchers commercial comes on, I seriously cant find the remote to mute her cackle voice fast enough. Does that count for anything?? lol.

          • chismosa says:

            DJ hahahaha!
            She needs to cool it down a little with that. It’s very Kandi-HWs-into “ohhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!”

            So funny. Lol
            You made me laugh

            • djprincessc says:

              I know I know, everyone was having a moment about the poor doggies and I had to throw in Jennifer Hudson, but I couldn’t help it! Catseye and Kit9 reminded me of her when they said the had to change the channel and hating Sarah Mclachlan. Jhud’s voice is EXACTLY like Kandi to me, LOUD, SCREECHY and OBNOXIOUS! Jhud can sing better than Kandi but please no more commercials from her!!

              • kit9 says:

                lol! A friend just told me that South Park has covered the Sarah McLachlan commercial hate! Rofl!

  23. BB says:

    I’m watching Call the Midwife. It’s pretty interesting.

  24. TexasTart says:

    I was trying to watch this last of the season RHOA, but too many interruptions toniht..what little I did see was funny!

    • kit9 says:

      I saw it. Kim is amazing. Just amazing. Her daughter was talking and crying about getting into a fight at school and, big shocker, Kim made it all about her.

      • BB says:

        Color me shocked – NOT! Lol.

      • ladebra says:

        You know- it looked to me like she was pretending to cry… I didn’t see any tears. In fact when she took her hands away her eyes and cheeks were dry. It really looked like bad acting to me.

  25. djprincessc says:

    I have been meaning to update everyone on my situation with my BFF that is engaged and the whole fiasco. I took everyones advice here and decided to say something just one time and ask her some questions. So I did a few days ago, I asked her if she had any doubts about marrying him so soon after just dating him, if she had any concerns about things with them changing later since they haven’t known each other that long, if she really thought she was going to be able to be with one guy for the rest of her life since she does like a lot of boy attention lol, if they had talked about kids and careers and are on the same page. She told me she has no concerns or doubts and that she’s all about him so she’e not worried about anything and that she would never cheat on him, she also said they have discussed kids and careers and that he wants to have kids right away so she is going to be getting pregnant fairly soon after they get married and he still wants her to finish school so he’s supporting her in that way.

    That was basically it and I told her that as long as she is 100% sure and has no doubts and they’ve talked about everything thats good and I also told her if she at any point has second thoughts to NOT do it and not pull a Kim K just because everything is planned. She didn’t get upset or defensive about me asking but she did get a little quiet towards the end and changed the convo so I think I was maybe making her think. Her wedding is going to be in July and I still don’t have a good feeling about the whole thing but I asked what was bothering me and thats all I’m ever going to do and never bring it up again and be happy for her and celebrate with her. Thanks again to everyone who gave amazing advice! 🙂

    • BB says:

      Sounds like you did exactly the right thing. You can go forward knowing that you at least got her thinking about your reservations (by asking her the right questions). You are a good friend. Now, when the pooh hits the fan later on because chances are it will, just be there to catch her when she falls and not waiting with an “I told you so” as hard as that might be.

    • TexasTart says:

      It’s nice to hear a follow up. So she is set to wed in July. It’s good that you said what you did and one can only hope that if she has a moment of pause or doubts that she will remember the conversation with you. And know that she can come back to you for support. I think you handled that the best way possible.

      • djprincessc says:

        Yes TT first they were going to marry in June and now it’s July. We will see if it changes again she still doesn’t even have her engagements ring yet :/

    • RealhouseWifeva says:

      I totally agree with BB… You did what you could as her friend. 🙂

    • djprincessc says:

      Thank you ladies, I will of course be there for her if things go badly and I won’t do the “I told you so” but it is going to be VERY hard for me to be sympathetic just because of you know the whole common sense thing. lol.

    • chismosa says:

      DJ just want to say thanks for the updates on this – your situation is very interesting and I think you’ve been super smart in your approach on this. I agree with what BB says. You said your piece, she sees it, maybe can think things through or not- but at least you were a good friend in telling her your honest thoughts

      Good luck and keep us posted !

      • djprincessc says:

        Thanks Chismosa, its a weird situation and definitely NOT one I ever thought she’d be in, I just want whats best for her but she’s an adult and we all make our own decisions. I will forsure keep everyone updated on the wedding as it gets closer. I am excited for the bachelorette party and wedding so I will post pics up when it all happens 🙂

      • djprincessc says:

        Thanks Chismosa, its a weird situation and definitely NOT one I ever thought she’d be in, I just want whats best for her but she’s an adult and we all make our own decisions. I will forsure keep everyone updated on the wedding as it gets closer. I am excited for the bachelorette party and wedding so I will post pics up when it all happens 🙂

      • djprincessc says:

        Annnddd idk why it posted twice. lol.

  26. BB says:

    Has anyone ever noticed that on Revenge Emily/Amanda always talks in a kind of whisper, even when there is only her and the person she’s talking to in the room? Just an observation.

  27. Does anyone have a good, cheap phone to recommend for a senior with increasing memory loss who takes long walks every day. Cheap but with GPS?

  28. RealhouseWifeva says:

    So now kordell is on twitter and Instagram proclaiming that he does not want a divorce! Trying to work it out!

  29. BB says:

    I’m recording The Bletchley Circle on PBS. Can anyone tell me anything about it?

    • LaineyLainey says:

      I know nuttin’honey

    • lillybee says:

      Not a clue but I am DVRing it, too

    • jezzibel says:

      I enjoyed it. Revolves around a group of women who during the war worked at Bletchley doing super secret squirrel stuff(like code breaking). After the war and signing the secrets act, they go on with their lives, but can’t tell anyone about their wartime past, not even husbands or families. One of the women starts to notices a pattern in a string of local murders……….and you’ll just have to watch it to get the rest.

  30. BB says:

    Here’s a feel good doggie story from my local paper today. I went to high school with the Hoffler guy. He has a twin (have no idea what that has to do with anything).

  31. lillybee says:

    Mad Men was really good tonight.

    • California35 says:

      Isn’t it interesting when they include stuff fro history in it? I was so excited to see Peggy buying her own place 🙂 her $, her job 🙂

      • Powell says:

        I did catch up on it yesterday so I’ll watch last night’s this weekend. I don’t think Don wants to be happy. He’s got a young hot wife & he’s gone back to his old ways of cheating.
        I was so surprised that Pete is turning into Don. I was glad Trudy set him straight on how life is going to be.

    • cocfarm says:

      I almost cried at the honesty don shared with Megan at the end of the show. That was some true emotion….FROM DON!

  32. rabblerouser2010R says:

    RealhouseWifeva , I just read your post above and I am so sorry to read what you are going through. It’s difficult enough to deal with someone you love (in this case it’s your MIL and mother and father) battle life threatening illness but on top of that, you are also a care taker.

    It not surprising that you are feeling burned out.

    I think you and your husband should really say something to his brothers and wife’s about their lack of support. There is no reason why none of them can come over and help by taking her to medical appointments or even offering to pay for a cleaning service to come in once a week to take some things off your plate.

    I think I would also say something to your SIL about her cracking off about how lucky you were to go to Ohio, it sounds like in her mind she is using this as justification for her and her DH to go to the wedding. Clearly, you have a remarkable about of patience and self control because I would have went nuts.

    • Powell says:

      I did too RR. Realhousewifeva & Catseye I’m sorry you’re both feeling overwhelmed & clearly your big hearts are being taken advantage of. I’m glad you were able to vent & release what you’ve held inside. You were given fantasic advice & support. The family that are being thoughtless of you & your time & energy really don’t realize what gems you are to the family. Stay tough, stay strong, take care of yourselves. And most of all don’t take any crap. I hope you’re feeling better & are coping much better today. 🙂

      • I send my warm thoughts to RHVA & Catseye too, and anyone else experiencing this family dynamic. It is so hard and a fine line to walk. I went through it as well and it was difficult to handle all the emotions at the time….but all these years later, I am glad I did what I did. I hope you and your husband can deal with the siblings on this…but if they do not come through…you will be glad that YOU did. Hang in there! Sending lots of good energy your way!

        • ladebra says:

          I want to tell you how much I value your words and advice MarDrag. Honestly, you always look for the positive, you are very generous with your praise and support. You seem to take delight in the life you are living in the now, and the small and large pleasures that come your way through the everyday things around you. I really admire your spirit.

          • (((((ladebra))))) Thank you so much for those kind words! After having been through a lot in my own life, I do, indeed, take delight in being where I am now.

            But more importantly….it is my desire to help everyone else get there too! If my spirit can inspire someone else then I have served my purpose.

            My true delight comes in seeing others delight and believe in themselves! 😉 Hugs dear lady!

          • P.S. ladebra….you really made my day with those words! Thank you so much!! 😀

            • ladebra says:

              Good! I can’t tell you the number of times your words have lifted me up. Hugs back at ‘ya

        • Catseye says:

          Thanks so much you guys, at least you understand and appreciate my sacrifices, even if my own family doesn’t. And I know when it’s all said and done, I won’t be feeling any guilt because *I* did the right thing.

          • rabblerouser2010R says:

            Hi Catseye, I am sorry that I also didn’t acknowledge what you were also going through. I had not had a chance to read the whole blog and just caught a couple of posts.

            Please know that you have my admiration and support.

      • nyc mama says:

        I second that. Just read what you are going through and hope it gets better for you soon. Family can be wonderful or not. I know your pain. I have been a caretaker and not gotten the support of those who should have/could have so I can empathize. Stay strong.

  33. melthehound says:

    I just checked my email. NMD writes that her home computer bit the dust so posts will be late today. I could publish what is there but I don’t know how much of anything is complete, other than my amazing race recap. New blog will be up asap so until then, carry on 😀

  34. Lulu says:

    Good Afternoon!!! Today is my DH’s birthday and I’m at a complete loss. 😦 I can’t think of one thing to get him. I’m too pregnant for anything else ;). Not to mention the VERY painful lamp incident that happened this morning. My sweet sweet sweet DS accidentally pushed over a floor lamp that landed right on my back. Thankfully nothing is broken but it’s bruised that’s for sure. At least its not that heavy maybe 10lbs if that.

    Sorry yesterday was a CRAZY day. About the Trampra gym their logo is horrible. At first glance it looks like CU fitness. It’s so amateurish that it’s ridiculous surely they could of hired a graphic artist that specializes in logo work? They are not THAT expensive.

    About the hours I wonder if they are just targeting 2 demographics. Trampra mentioned Vicki and lunch hour sessions. Local business and housewives? If that was their goal that is stupid. They will learn when the business goes belly up. I personally read Yelp reviews and base my decision on whether or not to patronage that business based on it. Unless they do damage control negative consistent reviews are bad for any business. Watch she will find a way to blame Alexis for it!

    • Powell says:

      Happy Birthday Mr. Lulu. So Lulu is he a man that has everything & that’s your gift dilemma?

      Ouch!! Your little man just keeps getting into everything & keeping you busy. I’m glad you’re ok. Maybe that’s the gift. A new lamp for Mr. Lulu. 😉 I’m sure he wouldn’t appreciate that.

      I wonder dud Tamra get any advice about this gym? She’s making too many mistakes out the gate.

      • Orson says:

        She and Eddie went to another gym to talk about the business. I suspect they talked about the fancy big picture stuff like what sort of instructors to hire and what sort of equipment to buy and none of those pesky little details about how spelling counts in your advertising and being open when it’s convenient for your customers. Trampra is a big picture sort of person. She needs people to take care of those details she’s too important to worry about.

        • Powell says:

          She did say she doesn’t like dealingvw/the boring stufff she has Eddie for that or however she said it. I guess she meant it. It might put her out of biz but she meant it.

    • Oh LuLu…life with a 2 year old toddler is never uneventful is it? I hope you are ok! You need a shield around you until this baby is born! Happy Birthday to DH….tell him the new baby is his gift this year! 😉 Take good care hon!

    • lillybee says:

      feel better soon.

    • BB says:

      Hope you’re ok Lulu! When in doubt, I always get my hubby a gift certificate from Lowes or Home Depot. He always needs something from there.

    • Lulu says:

      Thank you ladies!!! This morning he said he’s happy with his gift referring to #2. He read your mind Mardrag! The problem I have with buying him a gift. Is last year was a bad year for us. In fact for both of our birthdays we bought nothing. This year it’s stuck in a save save save mode.

      I think Trampra woke up one morning and said why don’t I own a gym. I wonder if she was serious about not having insurance? If that’s the case one person gets hurt and not only will their business go belly up, so will their personal finances. That is a stupid risk to pay for what insurance will cost you in one month.

      • Catseye says:

        How ’bout just his favorite cake, homemade of course, for your hubby’s b-day Lulu?
        As far as ignorant Tamra goes, I read elsewhere that she’s already doing damage control for tonite’s show, since she makes a racial slur regarding Eddie and “his inner b*aner” coming out. But of course she said it’s “okay,” being that Eddie refers to her as “honky” and “cracker.” (Lovely pair, those two). Well, she can probably forget about any Latinos/Latinas joing that stupid gym!

        • lizzle says:

          I must be behind on the racial slurs, because for the life of me… I couldn’t figure what that could be. I also didn’t know about the italian racial slur beginning with a G that Rebecca pointed out one day. Good thing Wikipedia has a list of racial slurs that are alphabetically categorized! I have learned about the B and G racial slurs all from watching Bravo… thanks Bravo! (that was sarcasm, BTW)

      • Powell says:

        Didn’t Vicki say something to her about insurance? She may be mad at Vicki but she knows Vicki doesn’t play around when it comes to insurance & knows what she’s doing. That may be the only part of Vicki’s life where she knows what she’s talking about.

        • Lulu says:

          Agreed Powell. I remember in Vicki’s talking head she said something along the lines of “hope Trampra has insurance.”

          As long as we are talking about Latina/Lantino’s patronizing their “gym.” We could basically include anyone that looked at their numbers and said WTF????? Their prices are a joke that’s for sure.

      • iceNfire says:

        Hi Lulu – Gift Certificate!….I’ve almost depleted my current one but Mother’s Day is coming up and Everybody knows (In TheLawyers voice) Amazon Gift Certificates are excellent gitfs and you don’t even need to leave your home to make purchase 🙂

        • Lulu says:

          Great idea iceNfire! Thank you!

          • iceNfire says:

            I love love love them! You can get just about anything there and be sure to sign up for Amazon Prime for free shipping and free movies, tv shows and lots of other goodies. You will need a credit card to sign up but can click the box that says ‘ do not continue after 30 day free trial’… and then if you want to get another free 30 trial just use a dif email address

  35. Good Morning All! NMD & MTH, you are rock stars! Don’t worry about us!

    Wanted to ask, have any of you seen a commercial for a new show on WE TV called “Pregnant & Dating”? Is this a new low in Reality TV & dating shows? I find it repulsive…but that is just IMHO. I thought Bravo had the new low with Married To Medicine, but I think this show takes the cake. I can’t help feeling anger and sadness that they keep going lower in the gutter for these shows. When will it stop? I know you will say when people stop watching….but what will it take to get that to happen? I feel sorry for our world! 😐

    Ok, mini rant over! Sorry! I just got up this morning, looked at the news, then saw this commercial….and felt sad. BUT….I march on with positive thought and trying to get a message out. Can’t rest! Must. Keep. Moving! 😀

    Wishing everyone a wonderful Monday!! Be a Bright Light in the day!!

    New post, “The Life We Would Live”, is up at my place. Enjoy!

    • melthehound says:

      I don’t know about that show but this is where 16 and pregnant and Teen Mom led one reality ‘star’…

      I can’t imagine paying one dollar for her let alone that kind of scratch. I wonder if she auditioned in front of her 3yo daughter. Her mommy and daddy must be so proud. I feel sorry for the idiot that gets mixed up with this bsc bitch.

      • i read that too MTH….she brought her daughter and dad to the negotiation?!? Eeeeek….just hard to believe a young lady would willingly do this. Again, a sad depiction of what the world has come to.

        • melthehound says:

          Isn’t that special? I knew she took the kid but didn’t know daddy went with her too. For the record, I don’t have a particular problem with the industry. It’s their lives and if they’re happy, I’m not one to judge them for their chosen, legal, profession. For 3 or 4 years though, we watched as she was going to culinary school, tried to be a model (she got a boob job for that pursuit), her autotune music video, and trying to sucker a few dudes into being the baby’s fill in daddy. Now we learn that all of her hard work has paid off with the career she really wants, a soon to be washed up, rode hard and put away wet (yes, all possible puns intended), Vivid Girl. I’ve seen a couple documentaries about life after porn however and it isn’t pretty or glamorous for some of these women. A lot of them get in to it with mainstream crossover dreams. Aside from trashy B movie bit parts, very few of them are ever able to do anything beyond porn.

          • LaineyLainey says:

            Yes, I found it difficult to transition from that to pt church secretary/pt spanish pre-K teacher. It was hard. But i did it. -Giggle Galore.

          • Powell says:

            MTH I don’t have a problem w/it either. Jenna Jamison is the first porn star that developed her own production company and made her own rules & is quite wealthy because of it. Does Farrah have that kind of drive? No. She just wants money now. I don’t think it matters how she gets it. I said the same thing about her studying in school. Did she just waste her time?

            • djprincessc says:

              Wealthy and in a abusive relationship with Tito Ortiz, she was also a huge drug addict and I’m guessing she might be back to using since she was arrested to hitting her assistant, just got a dui and I think she got her twins taken away and Tito has custody now. I don’t care what anyone says but nothing good comes out of the porn industry. Most of the women who are in porn have been molested/raped and thats why they get into porn 😦

          • MTH…for the same record…I do not have anything against the industry either as long as those in it are happy and healthy. With this Farrah person (I never watched ANY of these shows) she had other choices, a baby, and brought her and her family into it. That seems a bit different to me…and it IS just IMHO…she became enamored with “celebrity” and is doing anything she can to keep it going. Not such a good look for her daughter to learn from. Or go to meetings with. 😕

          • djprincessc says:

            Some of the women?? They are all drug addicts and alcoholics so they can do what they do! I hate the way porn is glamorized.

        • Powell says:

          TMZ spoke w/them that day and dad said he supports his daughter but I guess what else is he going to say on camera. Her parents where wimps. They let her treat them any way she wanted to and then asked them to babysit. They should have washed their hands if her since she was so smart.

      • Powell says:

        What happened to culinary school? She got some money from MTV & lost her mind. I suppose she thinks her parents are raising her daughter. It’s really a shame since she’s had opportunities & choices. It’s not like she’s lived on the streets & had no family love & support & fell into porn or whatever to earn a living.

    • Powell says:

      No MarDrag I had not heard of and don’t want to see Pregnant & Dating. No thanks.

    • chismosa says:

      FYI Fox owns the paper that listed the RH’s as the worst show this past weekend.
      Regardless, I AGREE

  36. BB says:

    Marissa confirms she wasn’t asked back for another season of RHOBH

    • princesspindy says:

      The picture above the article is so glamorous. If she had brought half of that glamor to the show it might have helped…..oh, and if she had shut up about her husband too….lol!

    • nyc mama says:

      I’m not surprised. She stopped tweeting as often as she used to weeks ago so she has probably known for a while. She lost twitter followers as well.

  37. designernailsdiana says:

    I’m posting this here since there is no new blog yet.
    I’m an only child. I did Adult Foster Care in Oregon for about 5 years. I watched and learned about dying, Alzheimer’s, Dementia and aging. I had to fly home in 2003 and see my Mom on a ventilator. I had to help my Dad make the decision to stop the ventilator because she was already gone and it was just keeping her body alive. I knew the signs of death and struggled with how to tell him the love of his life was not going to open her beautiful brown eyes again.
    I moved back to Minnesota 5 months after Mom died. I moved in with my Dad who had already put the house into my name. He wanted to protect his assets so he made sure I’d get the house. I met my future hubby 6 weeks after I moved home. 6 weeks after our first date we had a second and have been together ever since. He gladly took my Dad as his own along with my 3 kids who were 14 to 20 yrs old. I happily took his Mom and siblings (one goofy brother and one amazing sister (and her husband) along with nieces and nephews).
    As an only child I have to take care of all of my families needs meaning I’m the only living relative my Dad has to help him as he ages. I’m now calling on my knowledge of Alzheimer’s, blindness and the most important of all Dignity!
    I must let my Dad keep his Dignity as he gives up driving now and soon his part time job. He’s handling it remarkably well. He sat me down and told me where all his important papers are kept. Like military discharge, birth certificate and insurance policies. He even planned out and has prepaid for his own funeral, he did that after my Mom died 10 yrs ago. He’s making many things easy for me, but the hardest is knowing my time with him may be coming to an end and I need to make sure my memories are not tainted by my feelings. Feelings of “WHY ME?”
    I’m not asking why me, I’m saying why not me? God has given me a husband who works hard and has a great paying job with benefits. He’s supportive and even though he can’t be with me during these hard times he is making sure I get ME time.
    I’ve started a conversation with my own children so that in the future they will be able to handle whatever happens with me and my husband. If I need to stop driving they are just going to say “Remember Grandpa?” and I’ll know it’s time for me to hand over the car keys. No one wants to take away another persons Dignity or freedom.
    I pray that one of my children takes care of me like all of you are doing with your In-Laws or Parents. I hope I can be flexible and grateful to whoever is giving me care while I feel like a burden to them.
    I never want my Dad to feel like a burden to me. I told him yesterday, you took me many places as a kid and it’s about time I repay you for all those hours and miles. I’m embracing the time God is giving us because I know I’ll want them back some day.
    Big Hugs to ALL of you!!

    • ladebra says:

      Beautifully said. I told my mom how grateful I am, and how much I admire and respect, that she made the decisions about her life. About 10 years ago, thinking she was going to be totally blind because of MD, she moved into a retirement community, where if needed she can move to assisted living, and even nursing care, if the time comes. She let us all know her wishes. It turned out that her life is great, really great. She is surrounded by people who enjoy her, and she is active and engaged. She gets gourmet meals every day without having to step foot in a kitchen unless she wants to. She routinely travels to the most amazing destinations,and she has enough use of her sight to still enjoy playing bridge and watching the golf on TV! I truly hope that if I am faced with adversity I handle mine with as much grace and joy as mom.

      • ladebra says:

        Oh! And I get to stay with her when I get a chance to fly home, and enjoy the life she has along with her. She is an amazing woman, and I love her so much. But I truly thank her every day because I don’t worry about what if, she has shared with us exactly what she wants.

    • Catseye says:

      Thank you for that Diana. You are truly a remarkable person.

    • HuskerHuny says:

      Thank you for sharing. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t miss both of my parents. I work with a girl who is on the outs with her mother and I so much want to take both of them by the shoulders and shake them until they both realize that what’s past is past and their days together are definitely numbered. My friend’s mother has yet to see her three-month old great grandchild. How do you reason with people like this?

      As hard as this time is for you, you realize how precious every single minute that you have with your father. You are indeed fortunate and smart enough to realize that this is a very precious gift. My admiration to you.

      • designernailsdiana says:

        This understanding comes from a year of not being able to see my two oldest Grandchildren. My son went thru what I now call his “Crazy year”. He stopped talking to me and refused to let me even drop off Christmas Gifts to my grandchildren. I think he’s embarrassed now when I mention that year and not bonding with his son who was a baby when it happened. I used to have Nevaeh with me every other weekend when the 3 older kids went to their Dads.
        My daughters and I embraced the holidays and even bought new ornaments for the tree. I never need to worry that my daughter will ever try to keep Isaak away from me after seeing what her brother and his then wife did to me. I went into counseling thinking I did something wrong. I didn’t and I just had to keep praying for him and the grandchildren.
        I cherish every moment even when I’m exhausted and in pain I try to act cheerful for their sakes.

        • Many, many Hugs and so much good energy sent your way Diana. What a gem of a daughter, mother and grandmother you are. Take comfort in knowing that all those around you benefit from your energy…just for being YOU! 😀

    • Powell says:

      Diana that put a lump in my throat & a smile on my face. You’re a great daughter, wife, mom & grandma. 🙂

  38. not THAT Jill says:

    I’m watching Bravo right now and they are showing the top wedding moments-so I thought I would share a wedding moments of my own
    The day I got married it would be my fathers first event that he attend sober-I was 30 years old and never saw him drink anything other than beer-not coffee water a soda-nothing! To say we were all a little nervous would be an understatement. He arrived at my sisters house where we were all preparing for the day and he was happy and calm…until my mother and step-mother saw each other and realized the were wearing the same exact dress!!! My poor father sat down put his head in his hand and wished he could be anywhere else!! Me-I have a sense of humor and a bit of a smart mouth so I said “Dad-buck up-they married the same man-it’s no surprise the picked the same dress!!!” My mother laughed-much to my relief and we all got on with the day!!

    • designernailsdiana says:

      Oh Jill that is hilarious. Not to pull a “That’s Nothing” on you, but my Mom and M-I-L bought the same dress for my first wedding. I told my Mom and she promptly went out and bought a different one. Glad you used humor on your Father.

      • not THAT Jill says:

        If we had known before the big day my mother would have worn that dress to the rehearsal dinner…she was a bit of a smart ass my mother!!!!

        • Orson says:

          I’ll never understand wimmen. When 2 men show up for some event wearing the exact same clothes, they have a drink together and compliment each other on their good taste.

    • Catseye says:

      That’s a great story!

    • rabblerouser2010R says:

      LOL- what a hilarious story.

    • nyc mama says:

      Great story and great response!!

    • Oh my goodness…that is funny! Glad everyone else thought so too and it did not ruin your day. Really….what else could anyone do at that point BUT laugh! Hugs!

    • Powell says:

      Better crack a joke than breakout in hives. 🙂

  39. rabblerouser2010R says:

    Hi everyone…I was cleaning up emails on my phone and I think I accidentally deleted an email someone sent me. I was doing it by touch and hit the wrong key. I don’t even know who the email was from but I caught a glimpse of “rabble rouser” . Since it was sent to gmail, I don’t have a trash folder so I can’t recover it. So if anyone emailed me in the last couple of days. I am not ignoring you, I just lost the please try again 🙂

  40. nyc mama says:

    Congrats to Yolanda for passing her naturalization test.

    YOLANDA‏@YolandaHFoster26 Apr
    ❤Sweaty hands and a Lyme brain but I did it #soexcited

    • rabblerouser2010R says:

      I am planning on submitting my paperwork too but the fee is around $600 and something always seems to come up. e.g. Just the other day, we found out that the condo security towed my husbands truck because they said he didn’t have the right permit (which is some BS we are going to fight- as we have one from the community…but they want us to have one issued from them). Because he doesn’t drive the truck often as he works form home, it has been 3 days and now tow company wants $500 to get it back.

      The truck is probably only worth about $1,200 bucks. Now, our whole family has to drive to Dana Point later to get the truck back, so DH can drive it home.

      • nyc mama says:

        Ugh. Sorry to hear that. It’s always something. Needless to say, not everyone has Yolanda’s resources.

        Good luck on your test. I’m sure you will pass it with flying colors

      • lillybee says:

        I don’t know why towing companies are allowed to charge so much for storage.

        • iceNfire says:

          I didn’t know it cost so much to become a naturalized citizen. My husband became a citizen a few years back after being a Resident for many many years but I don’t recall how much money it cost. The test was pretty hard but he did pass after lots of study…He was So proud of himself and we were all proud of him too 🙂

        • rabblerouser2010R says:

          Thanks girls…it really is highway robbery. Fortunately DH’s mom is paralegal so the owner of the company will be getting a call from a law office. she works for. I am so aggravated.

          • That’s just bullpucky RR….fight it! If they wanted him to have an additional permit, why didn’t they ticket him or notify him and allow proper time to obtain it first before towing? How was he supposed to know he needed it? Sounds questionable to me. Give em H E Double Hockey Sticks! 🙂

          • Catseye says:

            If that doesn’t work, maybe you should call your local news station and see if they have a consumer action type of reporter, or will at least cover the story and create a bunch of embarassment for those involved.

          • Powell says:

            That’s right. Use your contacts. 🙂

          • rabblerouser2010R says:

            DH and I picked up the truck today, it was $520 bux.
            The owner of the company called MIL’s law firm back but is saying that we were only safe listed for 1 night and that notices went out a few months ago. We were never notified of the change in policy in regards to permits. A few days prior to his car being towed one of the Gardner said there was a notice on his car which is when we first learned there was a problem. I called them to complain and say we did have permits, which is when they mentioned how they now have new ones. I told them I didn’t know anything about it and said I wanted to be safelisted (is generally only used for overnight guest or residence that only need to park their vehicle in community parking rather than their garage short term we only have a one car garage but 2 vehicles ) until I got new permits and they advised I leave a message the the supervisor.Yet not even 2 days later, they towed it.

            I am so angry…another neighbor who works for DHS also said his daughter and SIL had issues with them too.

            I am also going to kick up with the HOA. Thanks for your kind words of encouragement as always ladies…..when I had you all cheering me on before…it meant I got over 4k back..

            • rabblerouser2010R says:

              So to add- we didn’t see the tickets from before because my DH works from home so he doesn’t use his truck everyday, just sometimes on the weekends.

  41. djprincessc says:

    I read that Tamara calls Eddie a beaner tonight on the show and shes ready for people to call her racist so she’s clearing it up before it airs. I guess he calls her honky and she calls him beaner. lol. I don’t like Tamara in the slightest but I don’t think its racist and I’m hispanic. I mean Tamara has said some pretty horrible things through the years and she’s worried about Beaner????? Ummmm. OK.

    • lizzle says:

      I just replied to someone else up above about this. I am behind on my racial slurs. I am not hispanic or Italian, so I will just say that I didn’t know what the B or G words were. I had to look them up on Wikipedia’s ethnic slurs page. Rebecca pointed out the G slur on LA Shrinks… if you were wondering what I was talking about.

    • iceNfire says:

      Hi djp – I enjoyed reading the update about your friend. Thank you for that and Good Job!

    • Catseye says:

      Not very smart for a business owner to appear on camera using slurs of ANY kind.

      • Powell says:

        Her #1 problem is that she doesn’t think before she speaks. As a woman, mother & now bizwoman you would think that is a priority, but it’s not. She just doesn’t care.

      • LaineyLainey says:

        “not very smart” is it…in a nutshell. She’s a short-term minded, she has little picture vision,…which is why she has played this whole RHW thing the way she has…as the vile, dishonorable, ruthless, heartless mean girl,,,who puts the renewal of her YEARLY RHW contracts above everything else. She lives episode to episode, season to season…not thinking about what she’s putting out into the world is stripping her of any dignity, honor or respect.

    • chismosa says:

      How come last night when I saw the guide on my tv it showed that Queen of Versailles docu/movie all night long and it seemed there was no HWs tonight.i guess I was wrong
      I know you all can’t live without that Tammy Sue ! 👯👯

      • Catseye says:

        According to the guide on my TV it says RHOC is going to be on and Queen of Versailles on after. I thought Queen of V was a new series.

        • chismosa says:

          Catseye: Queen of Versailles was a big deal documentary film that came out last year I think in theaters.

          So Bravo must have bought the rights to air it

          Fits right in :0

    • djprincessc says:

      I get what you all are saying, I work for myself and even though I don’t find it offensive I wouldn’t go on TV saying it, why give people more ammunition. More than anything it just baffles me that from ALL the terrible things she’s said, done, or names she’s called people she’s worried about that?? This woman is truly the stupid one. lol

  42. iceNfire says:

    Hi RHva and catseye – I have no experience with what you two are going thru so I hesitate to put my 2 cents in. I was taken advantage of on a job one time as far as side work goes. Everyone had the attitude that they needn’t do any sidework b/c “Sadie will do it”…Well Sadie got tired of this and stopped doing everything. I let the ketchup bottles go to hell (I hid the ones I took care of) then a few days later a customer opened a rancid bottle and it exploded all over his shirt. I felt horrible and justified all at the same time. I had voiced my concerns about doing all the work but I guess I didn’t make it clear enough so Please, make your feelings know…loud and clear. RHVa from what I gather you do not want to involve your husband so maybe express yourself to BIL’s and their wives? idk it’s hard to know when to keep my mouth shut around here

    • chismosa says:

      RealHWEva and Catseye – want to also say that I can’t believe the family dramas. I pray for you both

      RHE—- you need to get your hubby on your side of this. You should be his #1 priority as well as his parents. I think that’s a big debatable issue and I’m not married but you honestly come first. He should hear your concerns.

      I hear about this unfortunately all the time with extended family and other friends especially with sons. Blessed are those of you with daughters

      Be well both of youse

  43. Cruickal says:

    The nba denied the move for the kings, hoofmaloof is gonna be mad!! 🙂

  44. LuvMyGals says:

    Thought you all might find this interesting if you hadn’t seen it yet. Happy Spring to you all!

  45. LuvMyGals says:

    Just noticed it’s from April 20th. If you missed it (like me), here is more.

  46. chismosa says:

    Has anyone ever had odd emails come back to you on Gmail- which I thought was SO SECURE !?!? I got like 15 email bounce backs telling me that my emails to —— did not go through. And it’s not any real email addresses I use or know of ? Some looked odd and fake anyway

    I have never gotten this from Gmail. Occasionally one spam or whatever but this was crazy. I hold google mail in high regard for security!

    Just wondering

  47. AZGirl says:

    Watching rerun of OC and Heather is vile and her husband is so weird. Really, there is something “off” about him. I think he is bi-sexual (which there is nothing wrong with that) but I am getting “gay vibes” from him.
    Personally, from experience, people who need that big of a house usually are trying not to be around their significant other…I.e. Adrienne and Paul.

    • Catseye says:

      I agree there is something strange/off about Terry. I watched a few re-runs over the weekend and what stood out to me, is that he is always complimenting her, yet she’s always putting him down. Yes, that huge house seems really odd (and I would bet they were in WAY over their heads financially). So does Terry working out at a gym after work, instead of going home and using the one located in their house. VERY ODD.

  48. TexasTart says:

    What’s up gang?! Are behaving yourselves? 😛 It appears NMD has not been around but I have yet to look in comments. Just got off work and it’s getting stormy here!

  49. TexasTart says:

    Oooh Aahhhh – Looking at a gorgeous double rainbow!!!! 😀

  50. LaineyLainey says:

    Whayre? It’s bright skies and drizzles over hear in my neck of the woods.

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