Real Housewives of New Jersey – Jacqueline and Caroline’s Blogs
Jacqueline Laurita – “This was an emotional episode for me to watch. Talking about Nick’s Autism diagnosis is still very new and painful, although there’s hope. My husband told the truth when he said I was very emotional. I still have my moments of weakness, but I gain my strength from those moments. The support of my husband, my family, my friends, and all those that have reached out to us have given me my strength, hope, and encouragement to keep up the fight to recover our child. Thank you for that! XO!”
Jacqueline – I’m glad you have a good support system… You will need it! I’m going to include the following paragraph in its entirety and without snark (I know, it surprised me, too). I have promised that I would not participate any perceived exploitation of Nicholas’ Autism journey – We have far more intelligent, articulate people who have direct experience in this subject matter within our LynnFam community who can comment on this subject. Therefore, I am not including any additional portions of Jac’s “Manifesto” that could be construed as being exploitive just for a storyline. If you would like to read those portions of Jac’s blog, please visit the following site: http://www.bravotv.com/the-real-housewives-of-new-jersey/blogs
“I need to clear up my husband’s memory of what the doctor actually told me regarding my pregnancy when my son’s heartbeat wasn’t found. What he said wasn’t really fair to the doctor. Let me explain: I had gone in for an ultrasound to check the baby’s heartbeat around my 6th week of pregnancy. The doctor wasn’t able to be in the room with me that day, so a technician did my ultrasound. They weren’t allowed to read the results to me without the doctor being present. I had to wait to hear from him. I left for Atlantic City to shoot our first Bravo promo pictures for Season 1, where I wore that fuchsia pink dress. We were just finishing up when I got the call from my doctor telling me that they couldn’t find my baby’s heartbeat during my ultrasound. He told me that my hcg levels were high enough that we should have been able to see something on the monitor. It was his opinion that it looked like it could be another miscarriage. After having 5 previous miscarriages, I was devastated to hear that news again. I cried the whole way home. The doctor told me I could wait it out to see if I would miscarry naturally or come in and have them assist in terminating the pregnancy. I decided to wait it out another week and then go in to check for the heart beat once again before deciding. I prayed a lot that week. Sure enough, a week later, there was a beautiful heartbeat! My baby was thriving! We were thrilled! We consider him our miracle baby! We waited a long time for him. He is truly a blessing.”
“As far as all the RHONJ drama going on around me at this time, well, like I said, it was right up there on my priority list with bleaching my a–hole! Been there, done that, LOL, and it wasn’t a place I wanted to go back to!”
There are really just no words, are there? Allegedly, I hear Blorox may be releasing a new bleaching/cleaning product next month – The marketing materials could potentially include the following: Want an easy way to bleach those hard to reach places? Relax, it’s a breeze with the Blorox® Jac’sAss™ Bleaching System. Just click the Jac’sAss wand into a refill head, swish it around that hard to reach area to unleash the premeasured and preloaded Blorox® Jac’sAss Bleach and then just toss the head away. It’s almost too easy, right? Jac’sAss™ Bleaching System will be our little secret (Allegedly).
Caroline Manzo – She starts off by talking about the difficulty in blogging now about things that happened several months ago without giving away how things have progressed at this point of time. I do kind of think that hindsight is often 20/20 and that it would be interesting to be able to look back on how far you’ve come over the span of several months especially when it’s captured on film for posterity. The timeframe surrounding the airing of this type of reality show allows people to reframe or rewrite their history with the spin of their choice. We see a lot of comments in their blogs or on Twitter like, “What I really meant to say was…” and “You didn’t see it because it was heavily edited, but…” It’s sometimes what makes reading these blogs of theirs so wonky – We are seeing one thing on the screen but we’re reading something that is completely different in their blogs because they spin their stories until we’re all dizzy and ready to puke. Caroline then talks about her wonderful sister Frannie and what a great animal advocate she is.
“Oh, one last thing, before you go nuts and assume the Shepherds are caged and live a life of misery, think again, they have a HUGE run that has a dog house, water, and even a fan to keep them comfortable when they are not running around the yard playing catch with their Daddy Albert and Fran’s boyfriend, Hank. When we are filming we keep them in the run for the safety of the production crew. Remember, these dogs are trained to protect, so a cameraman lurking around the corner is not exactly in a favorable position! Chaos and Atlas are very much a part of this family and are loved dearly. Trust me, Frannie would hand our asses to us if they weren’t!”
Gotta love animal lovers! I’ve got to admit though, that I have a problem with adopting an animal when you’re living in someone else’s home before you have their permission. That is just really presumptuous and seems highly disrespectful to me. But then again, I don’t know their family dynamics.
“Kathy’s kids are growing up! How do you think Kathy and Rich are going to fare with all the drama that comes with new drivers and college parties? Oh boy, I remember those days well, and I can assure you, I’m thrilled that they are behind me. Lots of sleepless nights are ahead of you guys, rest up while you can! On the flip side, you blink your eyes and you wonder where the time went, just yesterday you took them to their first day of kindergarten, didn’t you? Treasure the moments. Xoxoxo”
I’m less worried about new drivers and college parties but I’m more concerned with Rich’s Neanderthalic influence on his kids. Can we send Rich away to college for the foreseeable future? Caroline then talks about an article that Jac wrote about Autism. Enough said…
“Finally, let’s discuss my meeting with Tre. Last week I received numerous Facebook and Twitter comments about my meeting with Joe Gorga. They ranged from mind your own business, to you have a great big heart, to I have a thing for Joe. Two out of three of you are right in your opinion. Maybe I am overstepping my boundaries, and yes, it’s my heart that is putting me there. As to the third, grow up.”
This is the portion of our program that we’ve been waiting for… I don’t know that Caroline actually has “a thing” for Joe… but I do believe the following: 1) I think she loves and eats up the attention he pays her; 2) She loves his compliments; 3) She relishes operating in a counselor/advice giver mode; 4) She adores Joe – and maybe even thinks he’s cute; 5) She hangs on his every word; 6) She knows what it’s like to have feuds with siblings that result in longstanding seasons of silence; and, 7) This is as close to flirting that we’ll ever see from her. While I do think it’s crazily hypocritical of her to talk to other siblings who are feuding while she is currently involved in one herself, she arguably has firsthand experience in the detrimental effects that stand-offs can have on a family. However, I do wish she would quit putting on her “Counselor Caroline” costume complete with a big black cape and a big red “C” on her chest while she pretends she is a Super Hero who is called to save the world. Perhaps she’ll try to leap tall buildings in a single bound…Or maybe she’ll think she can fly? Oh boy, we can only hope… Sometimes I do want to tell her to take a flying leap…
“Tre and I have a long history that spans over many years. We have both experienced the highs and lows that each and every one of us has in the game of life. We have laughed together, cried together, fought for and against each other too. Regardless of where we are in our lives, I can’t sit and watch this family disintegrate. The bottom line is they do love each other and are both fiercely devoted to their respective husband and wife, children, mom, and dad.”
They are “fiercely devoted” to their respective spouses to the detriment of the relationships between their nieces and nephews. Build a freakin’ bridge and get over!
“Many of you will throw my relationship with my sister in my face. Understood, go for it, it is what it is, and unfortunately out of my control for the moment. This will ultimately change, and I for one hope with all my heart it isn’t before it’s too late. I live with the fear of my parents passing and not seeing those of us who don’t speak every day mend our relationships. It’s something I take very seriously, and this is why I was so passionate when speaking with Joe and Tre. I’ve been there, I’ve lived it, and I don’t want to watch a brother and sister who only have each other live with regrets. It’s a heavy load to bear, especially as a parent. So, really, all of you are right in thinking what you’re thinking. I’m overstepping my boundaries, but my intent is pure. If I could have one wish it would be that we could all turn back time, back when we were young and stupid, where we laughed and cried, and fought for each other instead of against one another. Wouldn’t that be nice?”
Okay, Miss Caroline Pureheart – If what you’re saying is true – You need to get off your dupa and do whatever it takes to bring peace throughout your own family’s land. If it’s really a priority and if it’s that important to you – DEAL with it. Do whatever you need to do… But you’ll first need to check your ego and your black cape at the door.
Tabatha Takes Over by BB
Business/Location: Studio 157, Hendersonville, TN (in business 2 years)
Owner/Background Info: Jenn Cady is a former Miss West Virginia beauty pageant queen who currently makes her living in photography, her passion. She invested a substantial amount of money in friend’s dream to start Studio 157, the deal went bad and now Jenn is stuck with the salon. Jenn is not a hair stylist and has no knowledge of running a salon. Jenn is having to supplement her hair salon business with money she’s making from her photography business. She needs Tabatha’s help to figure out why the Studio 157 is not successful.
Hidden Camera Reveal: Tina, the salon manager, and the receptionist are having a disagreement right in front of Jenn and Jenn is just sitting there letting it go on without taking control of the situation. At the front desk, the phone is ringing off the hook and one of the hair stylists has to leave her client to answer it because the receptionist is nowhere to be found. Her client tells her she’s OK with it, but the stylist tells her it’s not OK because she has bleach in her hair. Tina and Ashley, who is very young, seem to be the ones causing discord among the staff and Jenn is afraid to cross her friend Tina. She seems to be concentrating on her photography business and not the salon. One of the hair stylists is trying to sell some jeans to a client. Tabatha’s seen enough.
Facility Inspection: Tabatha notices displays of purses, jewelry and other items for sale and likens it to a swap meet. She goes over to see what’s behind some curtains and the curtains fall down. The staff lunch room is full of overflowing trash and mouse droppings that have been there forever. She finds a half-empty wine bottle on the floor that the staff tells her is for the clients. She tells the staff to go home and come back the next day for meeting. Young Ashley pulls Tabatha to the side to tell her she can’t come the next day because she’s going for an interview for another job. Tabatha gets her to tell Jenn. Jenn tells Ashley she understands and she’s meant for better things and wishes her well. In other words, she’s telling her not to come back because she’s really not right for the salon.
Meeting with Staff: The stylists don’t think Jenn appreciates what it takes to work with clients in a hair salon day in and day out. She’s not at the salon that much and when she is, she’s not involved in the day to day business. Added to that is the fact that Tina is not a stylist either and has no prior experience in managing a salon. There is constant drama and tension in the salon and it’s just not a pleasant working atmosphere. The receptionist hates coming to work every day because of the constant drama.
Skills Assessment: Clients show up so Tabatha can assess the stylists’ work. All of the stylists could use some education and when any of them run into trouble, they try to get out of the situation themselves instead of asking for help. There is no teamwork among them. Tabatha is shocked when one of the client goes into a panic about her orange hair color, her stylist also goes into a tailspin, and she doesn’t even ask Tabatha what to do or for her help when she’s standing right there. Tabatha has to step in. In the meantime, Jenn is not going around asking any questions, checking on the clients or seeming interested in what’s going on. Instead she decides to start cleaning the a/c register. Tina is sitting at the front desk doing nothing. Nobody is saying anything to each other; it’s just kind of silent. They all seem to be intimidated by Tabatha’s presence instead of taking advantage of her expertise and asking questions. Tabatha tells them all to go home for the day.
Tabatha’s next step: The next day, Tabatha invites Jenn to a photo shoot. Jenn is all excited about it because photography is her passion. She’s not so excited when Tabatha tells her she’s be going to do the model’s hair and makeup. She starts by shampooing the model’s hair, but quickly see’s it’s not as easy as it looks. Tabatha takes over the hair portion while Jenn does the makeup. Tabatha shows her it’s much easier if they work as a team and points out there is no teamwork in her salon. Jenn becomes more at ease once the photo shoot starts. She stops the photographer for a minute while she steps in to fix the model’s hair.
Next the staff from the salon comes in and Tabatha tells them they will be styling a photo shoot for a group cancer survivors. She tells Jenn to assign hair and makeup teams for each of the women. Jenn takes over and seems to be a natural at it. The point of this exercise was to show them how much more smoothly things work if they work as a team instead of a bunch of individuals.
Remodeling: Tabatha gets the staff to remove all the jewelry, purses and other things sitting on around the salon and collecting dust and weren’t selling anyway. It’s a hair styling salon, not a swap meet. They return in three days to a refreshed salon with a new coat of paint, new reception desk and new styling stations. Reopening day is all about teamwork. Jenn is very involved in going around making sure the stylists have everything they need and assigning various tasks to the staff. Tina is still not with the program and pretty much goes about her business, which is doing a lot of nothing. The stylists are much more into helping each other out and asking for assistance if they need it.
Final Recommendations: Tabatha asks what Jenn is going to do about her friend/manager Tina since it’s obvious she’s not fitting in with the rest of the staff and has been the cause of all the conflict and drama. Jenn is over being intimidated by her and decides she’s going to have to go. They call Tina in and Jenn tells her she’s tired of her bullying ways and she’s letting her go. Tina can’t believe she just got fired and says Jenn can stick it up her fat azz.
Six Weeks Later: Tabatha is back and finds a much more pleasant working atmosphere and happier staff. The receptionist tells her it’s a pleasure to come to work every day. Since Tina has left, Jenn has split the management duties between two of the stylists to take over when she’s not at the salon or busy with her photography work. They say they are working well together as managers because their duties are separate and well-defined. Jenn tells Tabatha she’s ready to franchise her business.
Happy Father’s Day