Real Housewives of OC Blogs: Tamra, Lydia and Heather
TAMRA BARNEY JUDGE: After Tamra tells us all about her wonderful wedding and invites us to watch it on TV this September, she says it’s been a while since she watched Monday’s episode but will comment on what stands out in her mind – the Salsa Party. Looking back, Tamra can see Lauri really had an agenda to take Vicki DOWN. Tamra had heard rumors of Brooks being out on a few dates around town, but had never heard he was paying a young girl. Tamra regrets entertaining that convo with Lauri. At the time, she didn’t know about the other things Lauri was saying about Vicki and she finds it strange Lauri came back to try to ruin Vicki, yet was so nice to Vicki’s face.
About Cheeseburger-gate, Tamra says, “Slade making fun of Lydia being too skinny was not nice. He seems to have a pattern of making fun of women — not a nice characteristic in a man. Even if he was joking the part that annoyed me was his passive aggressive/reverse psychology. When he was caught he should have said, ‘I am sorry I was not trying to hurt your feelings.’ Instead he said things like, ‘We’re all fat and shouldn’t eat cheeseburgers, but you should.’ When she said you should[n’t] make fun of women he again made a statement like, ‘You’re a much better person than me.’ That kind of behavior drives me nuts. Take ownership for what you are saying and stop blowing smoke up her ass.”
Tamra explains the reason she asked Alexis to keep their reconciliation lunch between them for a while is because she wanted to get to know Alexis and bond with her on things they both have in common instead of what they don’t have in common, without any outside influences. Gretchen made Tamra feel horrible about making peace with Alexis and inviting her to the wedding dress shopping day. Tamra says, “I invited everyone to my dress shopping day because it was MY day and I COULD! I did not expect anyone to have a problem with it. Gretchen had no problem being at the Salsa Party with Alexis and even gave her a hug goodbye. I was so confused and even considered rescinding the invitation to make Gretchen happy. Gretchen was right, I was not extremely close to Alexis at the time — but I was trying to move on and get her more involved in the group of girls. I did not have drama on my mind. I had dress shopping on my mind.”
Tamra would like for us to believe the biggest difference between her and Gretchen is that she forgives, forgets and moves on. She doesn’t hold grudges like Gretchen. Wait, it seems to me that Gretchen was willing to forgive and forget what YOU did to her in the past and move on, so I’m not so sure I agree with you on that one, Tammy Sue. Here’s my take on the subject. Gretchen betrayed her friend Alexis when she made a pact with the devil and hopped aboard Tamra’s hate train last season. Gretchen was even willing to paint Vicki as the main instigator on the issue of her cheating on her dying boyfriend Jeff instead of the real culprit, Tamra. Now the tables are turning on Gretchen and she cannot understand why this is happening when she has done everything Tamra has asked of her. Tamra and Heather have changed the game by making nice with Alexis and Vicki, leaving Gretchen out in the cold and looking like the selfish mean girl. Not that Gretchen doesn’t deserve it, but seeing her BFF Tamra warming up to Vicki and Alexis has totally blindsided poor Gretchen. And I’ll bet it’s killing Gretchen to see every one of the ladies slamming Slade about his cheeseburger remark in their blogs. It almost makes me feel sorry for Gretchen – almost.
Tamra wishes Vicki and Gretchen could get along and it’s hard for her to be neutral. Watch out, Tamra. One day, you may be IT with the target on YOUR back. I can see it now. Gretchen and Vicki cackling like old crones behind your back and talking about YOU.
LYDIA MCLAUGHLIN: Lydia decided to have a theme party once all the girls returned from Mexico. Heather had already indicated she wouldn’t be coming if Alexis were there because it would just create another awkward situation and ruin the party. Lydia, being the “friend-whisperer” she is, asked Heather if she would make one more effort to clear the air with Alexis. It worked, thanks to Lydia’s efforts, and all the girls were together at the Salsa party. Way to go Lydia. Without you, this group would still be a splintered mess. I’ll bet Bravo is happy they hired you because having a group of women who don’t argue and create drama is what Bravo has wanted all along! (Insert eye roll here.)
Lydia’s take on Cheeseburger-gate: “We had barely begun the evening when Slade made his rude ‘cheeseburger’ comment to Gretchen about me. Slade’s comment and the whole situation upset and frustrated me on many different levels, which is why I think I got more and more upset.” Lydia explains she was the hostess of the party, and the fact that Slade, who she doesn’t even know that well, whispered what she perceived to be an insult about her was not cool. And he didn’t even say he was sorry and move on, but continued to try to explain all the reasons why there was nothing wrong with his comment. Lydia says, “Don’t forget that we had just gotten back from Mexico where Gretchen was whispering sweet nothings about me in the limo. I’m more of a direct person and I don’t understand whispering about someone when they are right there. If he would’ve just taken ownership for his comment, apologized if it upset me, we could have moved on. . .but that didn’t happen.”
Lydia probably wouldn’t have been as upset at Slade’s comment if he already didn’t have a history of putting down women’s appearances in public. She notes he has called Tamra too fat and he’s made fun of Vicki’s nose. Lydia wants to know who died and made Slade the appearance police? Lydia thinks that for Grethen to say she’s making a big deal out of nothing just showed her how insensitive Gretchen is. Maybe love is blind, but Lydia can’t imagine her Doug ever acting like that.
HEATHER DUBROW: After Heather bids us Aloha!, wishes everyone a happy Father’s day, tells us how wonderful her husband is, and puts in a plug for Tamra’s wedding spinoff in September, she finally gets to last Monday’s episode.
On the friendship summit with Alexis, Heather says, “Perception is a very interesting thing. Alexis and I both have very strong opinions about who is right, who is wrong, and who needs to make amends.” It’s pretty clear who needed to make amends here and it certainly wasn’t Alexis.
Heather is not going to use this blog as a soapbox to convince us of her side and fill us in on incidences we didn’t get to see, because those moments are not germane to this discussion. In other words, Heather really has no incidences to tell us about and therefore has no side. She says no one wins in a situation like this unless you can come to a place where you can move forward. Seems to me Heather had no choice in the matter because Alexis was going to be included in the girls’ events and if she wanted to be included and enjoy herself in the process, she had to get over it just like everyone else.
Heather says, “Fortunately, that’s exactly what happened for Alexis and me. I’m happy to report we danced, laughed and enjoyed each other this weekend at Tamra’s wedding! (Oh, and Jim, I have a video of you rapping at the reception! Could be a YouTube sensation!!!)” Ugh, Jim rapping? Please say it isn’t so.
Even though Heather doesn’t bring up the disgusting conversation her wonderful husband and Slade had about “rating” Lauri and Gretchen, I’ll bet the doctor got an earful from her in private. Unfortunately Heather had to get back to the “Tarzan” swing on her vacation and doesn’t have time to further grace us with her presence.
That’s it for the OC blogs unless we hear from Gretchen. Seems it takes her a little longer to write hers. I’m guessing she wants to make sure she comes across clear and concise in her blogs when describing Vicki’s “indiscrepancies” and how she’s going to release her “wrath of furry” on her and such things. I can’t wait for her to explain her current “bickerment” with Tamra. Wait, bickerment is Tamra’s word, isn’t it? I’m so confused!
Actor James Ganolfini passed away yesterday, June 19, 2013 of a sudden heart attack at the age of 51. He was best known to me for his role as New Jersey mob boss, Tony Soprano, on the HBO hit, The Sopranos.
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