Real Housewives Of New Jersey Cast Blogs
DISCLAIMER: This week’s blogs were really tough to get through for a number of reasons. I’ve been really sick this week so I haven’t really been able to think or to see straight. I honestly don’t have the energy to proof it at this point, either and the deadline alarm clock is going off! Please read with kind, forgiving eyes. The blogs continue to be full of crap about who did what to whom… Who feels they deserve an apology…Strategic rationalizations for actions and inactions… Doublespeak and even triplespeak… Creative rewriting of history… etc.… I started tackling them one blog at a time – but I found I was being really venomous towards each of them – and that really doesn’t help anything. I’m exhausted from trying to make some sense out of the indefensible – and I recognize that I’m actually the insane one for trying to make sense out of all the insanity. So, I’m going to try and take a page out of BB’s infamous blogging the blogs technique – and will attempt to handle only the big issues one subject at a time. I call them as I see them – and I’m sure you’ll probably be calling me a few choice names after we’re done – since many of us have aligned ourselves on one team or another. Me? I’m Switzerland with an attitude. I’m disgusted with all of them, yet will attempt to remain neutral – but reserve the right to snark when I see fit.
HOSPITALIZATION HORRORS – These people can’t even decide what day Teresa and JoeGo’s dad went into the hospital much less how many days it took for Melissa to visit him. While Melissa originally implied that JoeGo had physically taken his parents to the hospital – it’s really clear by Nonna’s phone call with Teresa that he was taken by ambulance. Regardless, when he received the early morning emergency phone call it seems like JoeGo met them there at the hospital. Was Teresa there? No… but everyone was strangely silent on that issue. Teresa said she “dropped everything” when she got the call from her mom. We never heard anything about an awkward meeting of Teresa and JoeGo at the hospital – probably because he left by the time that Teresa arrived. We saw Tre and JoeGi arrive during the daylight hours (when we saw them filming). I’m sure neither wanted to add stress to their dad’s situation… and so maybe they staggered their time with their parents. Does it really matter who actually drove them the hospital? No… but I’m starting to think Melissa needs to be intravenously fed truth serum in order to be able to actually extract the truth from her.
Teresa says, “My dad has emphysema, so he has weak lungs. He’s been in the hospital before, but this last time was the worst because he was in the ICU.” Did anyone else find it hysterical that Teresa found it important in her talking head to tell us all what “ICU” stands for? Umm… Teresa, most of us learned that acronym by the age of 10, thank you very much. Teresa continues, “We weren’t sure how things were going to go, and my mother and I basically camped out with him. I wasn’t going to leave his side.
Teresa says about Melissa, “She twists everything I say or do, and says that I do the same thing to her. I’m sure it’s exhausting to watch, because it is exhausting to live. I love her, she is family, but I’m not sure I’m ever going to like her. At least not all the time.” Well, truer words were never said. Teresa continues, “But I just can’t stand by when she uses my parents publicly.” How exactly did Melissa use your parents publicly this time? Teresa, you’re the one who was talking smack about Melissa not going to see your dad in the hospital to anyone and everyone. It was Kim D. who started the conversation with Melissa at Gia’s party about whether or not she went to see your dad in the hospital. Melissa did not bring it up – You and your cronies did!
Teresa says, “You don’t have to camp there. You don’t have to put your entire life on hold. But I think out of respect you could visit him the first day… or two… or three… or at the very least call him and tell him why you can’t come, but that you’re thinking of him, praying for him, and love him.” Absolutely, calls/texts should have been immediately made – and get well wishes should have been sent in some way – Every single time, period. No excuse! However, guidelines vary between hospitals and the reality is that when someone is in the ICU that extra care is taken when it comes to visitation. Even if you don’t have the flu yourself – but someone in your immediate family is actively suffering from it – It’s just not prudent to go visit someone who is in the ICU. You may not have the flu yourself but you could be a carrier. There are many illnesses wherein you can be very contagious during the incubation period before symptoms even present themselves. If there’s any question – don’t go – but of course, you make phone calls, send texts… cards, flowers (although they also aren’t always allowed in ICU), etc. It’s all about the patient’s health – and not about anyone or anything else. In addition, there aren’t many ICUs that actually allow kids (much less grandkids) to visit either. I had to be smuggled in to see my mom when I was under 18 – and at that I could only wave at her from the door. Perhaps I’m weird, but I’m not so sure I would want my very young kids to visit someone in the hospital – especially if there are tubes involved.
From what I can glean from the shows and the blogs, it seems like the following happened: Sunday at around 3:00 AM both Teresa and JoeGo got calls that their dad couldn’t breathe and was going to the hospital. JoeGo went to the hospital at that point. Teresa visited during daylight hours on Sunday – but it seems that JoeGo had gone back home at that time. Teresa and her mom stayed by her dad’s side on Monday, which is also when JoeGo got sick with a 103 temperature. Melissa also says that she had a really sore throat and “could barely swallow her own spit.” By Tuesday, JoeGo’s flu was getting even worse that included other bodily functions in which I won’t go into any detail. Melissa says, “On Tuesday, Joe was a mess…. He turned white from dehydration and had to go to the ER. And I found out that I had strep throat.” By Wednesday, Melissa was feeling better and decided to take Antonia with her to the hospital to see Nonno. Nonno must have been feeling better, too. Not sure if that’s the day he got out of ICU or not – but it would make sense he would not have still been in ICU because they usually don’t let kids in ICU to visit.
Honestly, these people need to take off their mittens so they can count on their fingers to calculate whether it took Melissa 2, 3, 4 or 9 days to visit him. Truth be told, she should have never visited him at all if she was told on Tuesday that she had “strep throat.” To then go to the hospital the very next day to visit someone who was just in ICU is just unconscionable to me.
I’ve read many comments from people who think that JoeGo wasn’t actually sick at all. I disagree. I think his eyes looked really glassy when he was talking to Melissa. He was sitting down during his scenes. He looked really spent to me. There are lots of things that I could say about JoeGo and, quite frankly, I probably have said a lot of them – but purposefully not visiting his dad in the hospital just does not ring true to me. Now, if Teresa had been in the hospital – that’s a whole ‘nuther Oprah.
KIM D. IS A HOUSEWIFE WANNABE – Can we all agree we would like Kim D. “to go scratch?” I get nauseated every time she’s onscreen because it’s so clear she just wants to be RHONJ when she grows up. The thing is… she never grows up. So we were treated to a couple of scenes with our little alleged drug addict fame whore this week. She was at a restaurant with Teresa when Linda called to alert the media that Melissa, Kathy and Jac were at the “Teresa’s” gym. She actively joined in the reindeer games by ridiculing their physiques, etc. At Gia’s party, Kim D. confronted Melissa about her not visiting her father-in-law. She even invoked the “people were talking about” method of passive aggressiveness when she said that she had “heard” that Melissa, Kathy and Jac were at the gym. This put Melissa on alert – you could almost see red lights starting to flash and hear sirens going off in her head. People had been talking about Melissa behind her back again – but it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out who had been talking to whom. Kim D. went so far as tell Melissa that “people were talking about” why would she be working out at the gym when her father-in-law was sick in the hospital. Wait… Teresa was working out at the gym only a couple hours earlier, right? And Teresa was having lunch with Kim D. at that same time – so it’s okay for Teresa to work out and have lunch but not for Melissa?
It sure as heck wasn’t Kim D’s job to interrogate Melissa at Gia’s party about the specifics about visiting Teresa’s dad in the hospital. I don’t care that they were standing next to the wall in the “adult” section of the party – Gia still had to deal with the repercussions. It created drama and friction which is exactly what Kim D. wanted because she so obviously wants to be a housewife on the show. And all of this was at whose expense? Gia!
Caroline says, “The whole hospital visit thing was nuts. Bottom line is this, everybody went and paid their respects. Joe Gorga was sick and unable to visit his dad, Melissa went with the kids, and Kathy and Rich sent Joe and Victoria in their place. Let’s all appreciate the fact that Mr. Gorga came out of the hospital knowing that his family was there to support him regardless of the date and time of arrival. Don’t sweat the small stuff.” I actually agree with Caroline on this one. I don’t even care about whether or not Melissa actually visited on the 2nd day, 3rd day, 4th day or 12th day. However, if she hadn’t been in contact with her in-laws during this time then she’s out of line! There doesn’t seem to be any indication people were mad at JoeGo – so it seems that he must have been in okay contact with his parents even while he was sick and unable to visit himself. Melissa was being backed into a corner about the situation on camera and she lied to get out of it. Shame on her! She should have called or texted… but really, all of this is between she and her in-laws – certainly not Kim D.
FATHER AND DAUGHTER BOY TALK – Is there any girl alive who ever wanted to talk to their dad about boys? Imagine having that conversation filmed and shown on TV… Ugh! I did not find this scene to be okay on any level other than it’s great that a JoeGi and Gia had some father/daughter time together. Teresa says, “How much did I love the conversation Joe had with her about boys?” Really? You liked that conversation that Gia had with Joe about boys? It was very uncomfortable for me to watch. That stuff shouldn’t be talked about on a reality show on TV. Gia had to go to school after that episode aired. How freakin’ embarrassing! Hate to tell you guys, but Gia has probably already kissed boys at the very least. You are kidding yourselves if you think otherwise. Her upbringing is not your upbringing… she has grown up in the multi-media age and has already been exposed to so much more than you can even imagine. We had our big sex talk in 5th grade at school… and then mom filled in the blanks. I would have been horrified to talk to my dad about anything about it or about boys in general. Then to use it as a storyline is Holy Cow Inappropriate!
Caroline writes, “Joe and Gia’s talk was nice to see. I’m all for kids connecting with their parents, and although it was TMI on Gia’s part, the fact that she was comfortable enough to discuss that with her dad is a good thing. As a side note, I always thought “grill” was slang for teeth. See, you learn something new every day.” Yeah, I wish I hadn’t learned that little tidbit.
Teresa attempts to backpedal when she blogs, “For the record, Gia did not walk in on me and Joe having s-e-x. Joe was just telling her she can’t kiss until she’s 21 because it’s “disgusting,” and I was saying that it’s a little too late for that since she walked in on us. Kissing. She saw us in a wet kiss moment, not the usual tap kisses we give in front of our kids, and I’m pretty sure she knows we didn’t think it was disgusting.” I call “bull honkey” on this one! In your talking head, Teresa… you almost squealed when you were talking about when Gia “walked in on you” and that fortunately, you had just “finished.” Now you’re trying to tell us that you meant she walked in on while you were “wet kissing?” Do we look like complete idiots? Perhaps you’re now trying to minimize Gia’s embarrassment by saying you were only “wet kissing” (Insert gratuitous eye roll here!). This whole show has got to be crazily embarrassing for a 12 year-old. This is coming from the same woman who physically had sex not more than 100 yards away from an entire camera crew and cast mates in a certain vineyard last season.
GYM, GYM WHO OWNS THE GYM? – Teresa writes, “I have to clear up a few things about the gym. First, Linda is not a trainer. She’s just my friend, and we work out together every single day. She has an amazing body, so you can see why I would listen to her. She practically lives at the gym, so when she saw Melissa, Kathy (who wasn’t a member), and Jacqueline suddenly show up, she called me. She’s protective of me like any friend would be. She knows what I went through last year. She watched the reunion. She knows how close Jacqueline and I used to be. To see that Jacqueline drove 45 minutes just to meet two people that weren’t in a good place with me somewhere I go every day to unwind made Linda suspicious. She was just joking about fat asses probably to make me laugh, the same way Melissa, Kathy, and Jacqueline were laughing about Linda being a skinny bitch. Neither one was meant as an insult. We all have friends of different shapes and sizes. You don’t have to look a certain way to be amazing, sexy, or confident!” Oh, Teresa, you made it sound like Melissa went to YOUR gym out of the blue. On camera, you conveniently omitted the fact that you knew she was a member. It does make sense to try to work out at different times than someone in which you’re having an argument – but come on… People’s lives change all the time and hence schedules change. Plus, the producers already had a camera crew there who were filming you at the gym in the morning – so of course, if they also wanted footage of Melissa at the gym… they would do it after yours was done. People bring friends to the gym all the time… plus the producers must have thought it would be fun to try film Melissa and Kathy during an actual class. Get over yourself. Oh, and all of you were smack talking and insulting each other just like you were in 3rd grade. Don’t try to spin it a different way now or sugarcoat it just so you don’t get crap about it. Teresa then talks about how she doesn’t own the gym and that she knew her brother and Melissa went there at night. It has become a place for her to get away from it all and has been a peaceful refuge. She thinks Linda was just looking out for her. I’m sure that’s true.
Melissa blogs, “Kathy and Jacqueline both asked me for workout advice and told me they wanted to get in shape. I thought the class would be great for them, so I invited them to join me. Kathy worked really hard. I don’t think she had a lot of fun, but she was a great sport. I cracked up when she said I wasn’t sweaty enough after class. When Joe and I workout together, he always says that too. He’s always drenched, and I’m always dry. I just don’t sweat a lot. It’s how my body works.” I hate you for not sweating. It’s kind of not fair that some of us after a really tough workout just “glow” when others of us look like we’re going to keel over. It’s just wrong on so many levels. You also did NOT look like you were sick in any way, btw. Melissa further blogs, “When Jacqueline showed up in jeans, I realized she never had any intention of taking the class. LOL! She mentioned her Nervous Nellie phobias of exercising in public and driving alone on the highway. Not ideal for living in New Jersey, the “what exit?” state. She told me later that her fear of driving stemmed from being in a bad car accident when she was younger. I get that. I certainly carry around some baggage from my childhood. Along with what she’d said, I invited her to come because she’d been under so much stress lately. Exercise is a powerful stress reliever for me. When I workout, I feel stronger. I might give exercise too much credit. I think of it as the cure-all for stress and illness. Ever heard the expression “sweat it out?” If only I had sweat more, maybe I could have cured my sore throat!” Being in a bad car accident can be devastating. Why are we just now learning about Jac’s driving phobia? It seems weird to me – and if you had the phobia, why on earth would you agree to drive 45 minutes for a class in which you had no intention of participating? It just makes no sense to me. Camera time and storylines do “drive” you to do some odd things, I guess.
Melissa says, “I was confused why certain people make such a big deal out of Kathy and Jacqueline going to the gym. Linda obediently called Teresa about it like an undercover spy reporting into headquarters. Teresa wondered why the ladies were at her gym. Funny, I didn’t notice Teresa’s name on the door. It really bugged me listening to Teresa, Kim D., and Linda (or, as Joe called them, Moe, Larry, and Curly) laughing on the phone about people’s weight. Were they auditioning for Mean Girls? I hate listening to that. Kathy and Jacqueline look sensational. We should all be so “fat.”” You guys talked smack about Linda, too… don’t pretend to be all angelic about this. You all are disgusting.
GIA’S BIRTHDAY BASH – Didn’t we all cringe when Teresa and JoeGi talked to Christopher about being Gia’s BFFL… or worse yet, when JoeGi asked him if he had a crush on her? I would have D.I.E.D. According to Melissa’s blog, Gia’s party was the Saturday after Teresa’s dad went into the hospital. Teresa says, “We were going to cancel Gia’s birthday party, but my dad didn’t want us to. He was in the hospital a week and finally got moved out of ICU, so we did go ahead with Gia’s party.” I’m sure Nonno would have been horribly upset if his granddaughter’s birthday party had been cancelled because of his hospitalization.
Melissa says, “Our family was invited to Gia’s birthday party. I’m not going to lie, I was surprised to get an invite. It wasn’t easy for me to go there alone, but my kids really wanted to see their cousins. Joe was way too sick to take them. I put on my big girl panties and went.” Melissa, I give you credit for taking them to the party. It was great that Teresa extended the invitation – but you really had no choice but to go, did you? It’s all about the kids and you adults need to figure how to make sure they’re put first before anything else! I understand it wasn’t something that you wanted to go – but please, try to refrain from wearing the “martyr” crown, please!
Melissa says, “How cute are the boys’ faux-hawks? I love dolling them up. You can never use too much hairspray when you live in Jersey!” Ummm, yes you can. I’m convinced that New Jersey’s addition to hairspray has dramatically contributed to the depletion in the ozone layer! Melissa further says, “I wasn’t driving around just listening to my own music, although I do love the song “Rockstar.” My kids request my songs every time they get in my car! I love that they ask for them. They know all the words and I think it’s adorable!” OMG… I was wondering if it was your music that was playing in the van – although I’ve really tried hard not to familiarize myself with it… Color me shocked that it just happened to be captured on camera! Why, how self-serving of you, Melissa!
Jacqueline says in her blog, “When I said that Gia’s party was the last place I’d want to be, I meant if I were Melissa. If I were Melissa, I probably would have bought Gia a gift and taken her out for dinner and cake to celebrate instead. I felt like Melissa was walking into the lion’s den, because I knew a lot of people that would be at the party had ill feelings toward her, including Teresa. At least there was an effort on both parts to try to bring the kids together. Melissa told me that Linda had pulled her aside when Teresa wasn’t around to tell her how proud she was of her for coming and that it took a lot of guts. I agree.” I agree, too. But then, just as quickly as I agreed with Jac, she makes me regret it by saying, “It was sad to me not being around Teresa’s kids to watch them grow up. I always thought I would be there for them and was looking forward to it. I would have been the aunt to tell Gia to shave her “grill” LOL!” Jacqueline… I just have no words.
EVERYONE WANTS AN APOLOGY – Teresa blogs, “As to why I told Caroline that I wanted an apology from Jacqueline, yes, I did. I understand the heat of the moment, I understand trying to hurt someone you think hurt you, I understand we are all guilty sometimes. But there were two things I thought crossed the line. Last season when she brought up fake tabloid stories about me on camera and pretended to be worried that they were true, that was too much for me. And after that guy came up to Melissa and said he used to work with her, Jacqueline went to my brother and told him I set the whole thing up. And he believed her. He texted me that Jacqueline told him I set it up and that I was “dead to him” and to never speak to him again. It’s the single reason why we stopped talking for good. Jacqueline knew I didn’t set Melissa up. She knows who did. For her to use that lie to break up my family for good was too much for me.” Perhaps it’s just me… but I think if I read something in the tabloids about a good friend of mine – no matter what the subject was – that I would of course talk to them about it, while understanding if they didn’t want to divulge certain aspects of their personal life with me. The questions that Jac was asking really didn’t bother me much. Seriously, Teresa, you’re allowing your daughter’s first brar shopping situation, sex talk with dad that includes talking about a certain grill to be aired on TV. Therefore, I’m sorry, but the concept a friend asking you general questions about your finances or your husband’s potential jail time don’t seem really that outlandish to me. However, Jac absolutely does need to apologize for the whole lie that she perpetuated about being you being an active participant in the set-up of Melissa at the fashion show. You’re right… she needs to apologize to you, to your brother and to Melissa. The minute she found out the information she furnished was wrong – it should have happened. Your brother acted on false information and instead of acknowledging it – he continues to act on it to the utter detriment of your family. Shame on him!
Jacqueline writes, “When Caroline told me that Teresa expected an apology from me, it made me giggle at the suggestion of it. It was as if Teresa really felt like she didn’t owe ME one. Caroline had also told me that Teresa blamed me for the demise of her family. That bothered me, because I knew there had been hard feelings between her and her family that were never truly resolved long before I ever came into the picture. I felt like Teresa still wasn’t taking any accountability for anything that she had done to destroy our friendship or her relationship with her family. She was still shifting blame onto others.” The thing is, you owe Teresa an apology about your part of causing the hullabaloo when you blamed Teresa for Melissa’s set up during the Posche Fashion Show last season. (Wow, are we really still talking about this?). You talk about how others need to take accountability – you need to take some accountability, too.
Other subjects were touched on in their blogs such as coming home and finding a pig named “Moo Shoo” grazing on some grass, diet dilemmas, Nicholas’s journey, and a joy ride with Aunt Rosie, etc. Bladdity blah blah blah…
Great Job Stars99, Thank you very much.
That’s all folks.