Real Housewives of Atlanta Blogs Blogged – We Finally Hear from NeNe – by RamonaCoaster
(RamonaCoaster got the short end of the blogging stick when she agreed to take on Atlanta. These ladies do not blog regularly. But she’ll resume the blogging she started with as our NY Blogs Blogger once that series hits the air. Empress will be our NY blogger. NMD)
Wow! These ladies made me work this week. Five out of the six ladies wrote blogs this week. Kandi is still MIA in the blog department.
NeNe: “I Apologize for My Behavior”
WOW! What a show! I don’t have a lot I want to say, but I’ll start by saying I apologize for my behavior at the charity event. I definitely don’t want to teach young women that this is the proper way to respond when someone is trying to trick you into a situation and push your buttons. I would much rather teach young women to be aware of the wolves in sheep’s clothing.
Way to follow in Kandi’s footsteps and apologize for any bad behavior except you are still blaming your behavior on someone else. It is too bad the lesson you didn’t teach young women is how to turn things around. Make lemons into lemonade. You could have shown off your improvisation skills that come in handy as an actress, to at least give a longer, better speech than you did. I understand why you would react the way you did when you have witnessed Kenya has stirring up trouble with other castmates but then the entitled way you acted gave her the upper hand. Kenya can then say Nene has no class and can’t set her differences aside for charity. But then again it may not matter because the money may or may not have gone to charity anyway.
I’m a very rational person. I have been a major supporter to Saving Our Daughters and have raised thousands of dollars for them. Fact! All this charity B.S. is coming from a person that showed up at my charity event last year in a thong and butt pads! She even argued outside of Porsha’s charity event! She has no credibility when it comes to charity. I just hope Saving Our Daughters received the thousands of dollars she claimed to have raised.
Other than starring in a reality show where women compete in who can compromise their castmates’s integrity better, you seem very sane. The charity not receiving the thousands of dollars Kenya claimed to have raised would be a travesty indeed but Kenya claims to have proof she sent it so who the hell knows. At least people who watch this show are aware of the charity and maybe the contributions will increase. I hope the charity itself is legitimate.
I’m not surprised things have gone down the way they have between Kenya and me. She had beef with Cynthiaover the whole coochie crack thing, then moved on to Porsha, then to Phaedraover a booty video, then to Apollo, and now me! I see straight through her! She’s not original. What’s she’s doing has already been done. I have always stood alone in a war! I might bend, but I won’t break, and if I stumble, I won’t fall! I see what she’s doing and so do you.
That girl Kenya wants to make sure she holds the peach every season and production just wants ratings. I’m sure she’ll do many crazy things including starting a war with you and enlisting a friend of yours. The adage that comes to mind when I watched the last episode was “it’s not what happens to you but how you handle it.” I think Nene was suspicious of Kenya’s actions and didn’t react very well to it (bad speech). Very few of these housewives react well to situations they find themselves in.
P.S. Here’s something else I saw: (1) Did you see the opportunist that keeps coming around? (2) Did you see my friend just sit there and indirectly support this B.S.? I have worked with a lot of women over the years, and the one thing that it has taught me is that life is like an elevator — on your way up, you have to let people off!
I’m guessing you are talking about Kenya’s new best friend. Those two are scheming to take your Georgia peach crown. Just to add to the current paranoia – what are you going to do about it girl?
Kenya: NeNe Doesn’t Know How to be a Friend
All the women were able to move past the pillow talk night and no one tried to place the blame solely on me except for NeNeand Phaedra.
NeNe and I are both survivors of domestic violence. I, particularly, have a penchant for any charity that supports women and helps young girls thrive. Saving Our Daughters (SOD) is one I too firmly believe in and thought would help a lot of girls in need with their struggles in life. Previously, I promised NeNe that I would throw an event to benefit her favorite charity. That I did with no ulterior motive.
No ulterior motive? I am not sure that I buy that. You never called Nene and considering what has happened in the past with all your other castmates, you can’t blame the girl for thinking something shady is going to go down.
I may not do everything perfectly right, but my heart was in the right place. Although I do not owe NeNe anything, out of respect for our friendship at the time, I only wanted to do something kind for her and to benefit a great charity — a win-win situation. This was my sweeping gesture…my olive branch. However, you don’t take an olive branch and beat someone with it.
Well, that’s overdramatic.
Each and every girl received the same invitation outlining my event details, dress code, program, etc. The electronic invitation my team used tracked all the invitations. Therefore, we could see that NeNe not only RECEIVED the evite but READ the invitation as well. However, she chose not to respond. Instead of calling me with questions, she contacted the charity and confirmed their support for the event weeks prior. She also heard from Cynthiaand Marlo about the event, other Housewives, and PR staff. Does this sound like a woman who didn’t know anything about the event as she claims? If you believe that lie, I have a bridge I want to sell you.
Yes, we saw that on your computer on the show but wouldn’t a personal phone call from you be too much to ask? I can understand Nene’s confusion and suspicion.
Initially, I wanted to surprise her with my decision to make her the guest of honor, which is why I didn’t personally call her. However, as rumblings went on about her not getting a call from me, I immediately called her and received no response resulting in me texting her. To my dismay, she furiously responded in a nasty, disrespectful manner. Again, all knowledge of the event took place prior to the event. Once NeNe did learn, she made her own choice how to conduct herself.
Oh! Your decision to make Nene the guest of honor was a surprise. That’s a good one! Nice way to turn it around. I don’t think Nene minded when you played your games with Phaedra but when she thinks your playing games with her, watch out! One day you just might find yourself being strangled by The Moose.
I commend Cynthia for the class act that she is and her many attempts to protect NeNe’s image by advising her to do the right thing and attend. Alternatively, NeNe could have declined coming altogether, sent someone to accept on her behalf, or come and graciously accept her honor and ask people to be generous and donate, then, speak to me privately later. Yet, she did none of the above. Proving money can’t buy you class.
Commending Cynthia will last until you find a way to discredit her too.
NeNe is no queen bee. Actual queens are dignified, beloved, regal, and gracious, and don’t walk into a room with their noses in the air… none of the aforementioned is applicable to NeNe. When she arrived, she never spoke to me, but she had her nose in the air the entire time, and never once exhibited a shred of humility, decorum, or class. After she snatched the microphone from me all the guests gasped. What’s most disturbing than anything is her “I am bigger and better than anyone” attitude.
I have always thought the queen bee is the girl in the group that sets the rules of conduct and enforces a code for the group. All the girls in the group look to this girl as a de facto leader. I am not sure who the queen bee is in this group of women but I don’t think it is Kenya.
I have only been a friend to her. But clearly NeNe is the one who doesn’t know how to be a friend and ices anyone who goes against her. She disrespects her friend’s husband by telling Peter to stay out of women’s business, but it was OK when she set me up so that Christopher could verbally attack me over my issue with his woman. The truth is NeNe resents me for her own egotistical reasons and the world sees it. Her light has dimmed and she is clinging on to a title of being #queenbee. The truth is, there is enough light for us all to shine.
Bringing up Peter reminds me of the OC housewives when the men were on the reunion show and I felt there should be a househusbands’ show if they wanted their opinions heard. Peter has been butting in too much of this housewives show and so has a lot of other auxiliary people.
“None of these bitches here are on my level I’m on” –NeNe Leakes
Well, NeNe is correct. We are all in fact above this petty, hate-filled, ego-tripping-one-woman-show-paranoid-hateful-drama of hers. We do not think we are better than other Housewives, because we all are on the same show the last time I checked. Oh, speaking of being above someone…Kandiis a Grammy award-winning songwriter and astute businesswoman and actual “rich bitch,” Cynthia is an accomplished model and businesswoman, and Phaedra is an attorney, and I am a former Miss USA and the only one in the group with an actual crown. Unlike NeNe, I can’t be dethroned as I’m a part of history. With that said, NeNe is a former stripper with a few short-lived gigs in Hollywood given to her by one man. My scoreboard says that makes HER not on our level. I’m not sure about you, but I’m looking forward to the future of RHOA, not the past. BLOOP!
But Nene is a much better person when she thinks she is on a higher level than anyone. A lot of women act better when they have self confidence. They don’t need someone tearing them down. They already do that to themselves in their heads. But I’m sure Kenya knows that already.
Porsha’s Dropping a New Single!
Hello loves, I’ve missed you guys! I’ve just been so busy running my Fortune 500 company. LOL, JK! I have a lot of awesome surprises to share with you all soon!
After a 2 month blogging hiatus Porsha is back to writing. She must be feeling relevant.
Let’s jump into the most recent episode. First off I would like to thank all of you for tuning in each week. Up to now it may seem as if my RHOA sisterhood is slowly crashing and burning. After each week I have realized that these are real situations that people go through, and some of those times can be tough. After going through my recent split, the last thing that I want to happen is to lose my sisters. Sometimes we feel “tried” and pushed in corners. But at the end of it all, we end up making it right. As long as we try to treat others on how we would want to be treated, then the ups and downs will fade away.
I can’t begin to tell you how excited I was finding out I got the part in Kandi’s play “A Mother’s Love.” The journey to the audition was long and hard. I’ll give you a little background. I started singing when I was younger in church, took some time off, then came back and sang as an adult on my church praise team. S/O High Praise! As time moved along I started singing demo tracks for various producers and studios. I ended up getting married and ended up losing my support system that wanted to help push me into the music industry towards my musical dreams. Well long story short, now I’m on my own and ready to follow my dream!
I guess losing your support system that wanted to help push you into the music industry is Kordell’s fault since he didn’t want you to pursue a career and family at the same time. I always thought the life you wanted to have outside your marriage meant helping your grandfather’s foundation. This is a new development.
I have always wanted to be a performer, but I have also always dealt with fear. One time I was in church and it was my turn to sing the lead. There were three lead parts, and I was supposed to take the third. By the time my part came up I got so nervous and scared that I just FAINTED! It was so embarrassing, everyone ran up to me and thought it was the Holy Ghost (they started speaking in tongues) when actually I had just crumbled under pressure. After that I decided I would believe in God and the gift he had given me. I told myself fear was not of God and I shouldn’t give into it. Thank the heavens I was finally healed and am now free of fear when I sing. Now I still get nervous, but I just try to put my heart and soul into my songs and hope that people hear more of my soul when I sing.
That’s a pretty extreme case of stage fright. The human brains starts working when you are born but unfortunately stops working in front of an audience.
At Kandi’s audition I tried not to think about it too much. I knew I had naysayers, but I also knew Kandi believed in me, which was very encouraging! I have to say I thank the haters that motivate me and push me to be my best.
Kim Zolciak: Let your haters be your motivators.
I also wanted to let you know that currently I’ve finished a single that means a lot to me. The single is called “Flatline” with producer Chris “Traxx” Rogers. This song speaks from my heart and tells the story of any person who has ever had their heart broken or had loved someone and was let down. I can’t wait for you all to get a listen… When I get emotional I lean on music to help me get through hard times and I use music to express when I’m in a good place. I’ll be releasing the single “Flatline” in two weeks.
I hope the song doesn’t flatline like most other housewives songs.
Cynthia: Kenya and NeNe Were Both Wrong
As a wedding gift to NeNefor missing her gorgeous wedding, Kenyadecided to host a masquerade ball/charity event in NeNe’s honor. I thought this was a thoughtful gesture on Kenya’s part, since there was still some tension between them from the Pillow Talk Party and Spa Day. The charity Saving Our Daughters is one of the charities that NeNe supports, so when Kenya asked me to be a judge, I happily complied. I also agreed to let her use Bar One as the space to hold her Atlanta’s Most Eligible Bachelor casting. Anything for charity and my girl NeNe.
It is too bad Kenya didn’t tell Nene about this. I wonder why the other ladies decided to be busy on the day except for you.
FYI: When Kenya initially started planning her event for NeNe, I remember her telling me that it was supposed to be a big surprise, and not to say anything to NeNe yet. I promised her that I wouldn’t. I talk to NeNe almost every day, and I’m pretty sure that I mentioned to her that Kenya was planning something for her and would probably be reaching out soon. Although I didn’t have any details at the time (Kenya was still in the early stages of planning), I remember being vague because I didn’t want to mess up her surprise. I am not big on surprises (even though Peter insists on surprising me all the time), so I just wanted to give NeNe the heads up to expect a call or something from Kenya. It was always Kenya’s place to extend a formal invitation to NeNe and give her all the details.
So this corroborates Nene’s story. I guess production would have to make sure that Nene shows up at this event to film. And they didn’t give her the heads up? I wonder if Nene feels more upset that production teamed up with Kenya to put Nene on the spot. Maybe Nene feels out of the loop and she doesn’t like not having control over the situation. Not getting the heads up about the surprise honoree is only part of the problem.
Long story short, NeNe said she wasn’t invited and Kenya said she was. I agree with NeNe that Kenya should have picked up the phone and personally invited her, especially since it was in her honor. Even if Kenya did send the evite, I think the personal touch would have gone a long way under the circumstances. As a courtesy, NeNe also should have been told that she would be asked to say a few words on behalf of the charity. I believe that Kenya had good intentions when she put together this ball for NeNe, but she could have handled some of the details a lot better.
However, I also think that the way NeNe dealt with the situation once she got to the event could have been handled better as well. So in my opinion, they both were wrong in their own way. We all know two wrongs never make a right! My suggestion to NeNe was to just be the bigger person and graciously go to the event. Especially since it was for charity! A proper invitation (or not) was besides the point, because now her name was already attached to it. My interest as her friend first and foremost was to make sure that she came off as a class act. She could always get Kenya together later over cocktails about the technicalities. I stalked her all day long and begged her to take the high road and go to the event. I just kept thinking about how bad she was going look if she didn’t show up.
Cynthia is a good friend to Nene and trying to be fair to Kenya.
So, now we are in the driveway waiting for our cars, and NeNe overhears Peter telling me why he wanted to leave. NeNe walks over to confront him. I felt Peter’s tone was appropriate, and he was not being disrespectful to her in their conversation. I also thought that what Peter was trying to tell NeNe was coming from a place of love and support. Peter completely understood NeNe’s point of view, but felt like the charity was the focus. In my opinion, friends who care about each other should always be able to tell each other when they are right and when they are wrong.
Maybe you instead of Peter should have told Nene. From the pillow talk party to the messed up charity event, he seems like another housewife. He is allowed to have his opinions but he should voice them to you, not to another housewife. He is involving himself for no reason.
At the end of the day, I really felt horrible because I was the one that convinced NeNe to come in the first place and didn’t want to be responsible for any more foolishness that night. My heart was in the right place, and what’s done is done. However, I have often wondered since that night if I had tried to talk NeNe and the words were coming out of my mouth and not Peter’s if she would have been more receptive. I say this because of the whole “a man shouldn’t step to a woman thing,” even if in this case the woman actually stepped to the man.
Even if Nene stepped up to him, he could have backed off and asked to talk about it another day.
Last but not least, I thought it was very offensive for NeNe to say that none of the women at the event were on her level. Those words spoke volumes, and I kept wondering as her friend if I was included. I am hurt if this is how she feels, but if this is her truth, I have no choice but to accept it.
You could get mad and tell her what you really feel. Isn’t that what you are supposed to do on this show?
Phaedra Calls for Peace
Unfortunately, I did not get to watch Sunday’s episode but have been told that it was full of drama and chaos, which is becoming the norm for us. And since I have not seen this week’s episode, I will refrain from commenting on it. There is nothing worse than talking about what you don’t know to be factually true.
That’s funny coming from a lawyer.
The rest of her blog is to promote her book tour and feeling the peace & love from all the sermons she heard in churches in the South.
I want to encourage you to seek balance in your lives and allow peace to dwell in the front seat of your soul; no matter what is going on around you. As Carlos Santana once said, “The most valuable possession you can own is an open heart. The most powerful weapon you can be is an instrument of peace.”
Couple’s Therapy episode 8 it’s still on by LuLu
Jon and Kate 2.0
Kate 2.0 realizes that she is a b@#ch to Jon. She promises to change. Jon has a one on one with Dr Jen. Nothing is resolved Jon will never “man up.” I’ll leave you with this morsel Kate 1 hasn’t had sex with Jon in years!?!?!? Youch!
A disclaimer for a reality show should this ever be I don’t know discussed for the masses? Taylor witnessed her mother being beaten then regrets staying in an abusive marrriage. Ghost was abandoned by this mother when he was 6. If Dr Jen was really interested in helping versus exploiting. Instead of shaming him she should have focused on why he can’t have an “adult” relationship. Sada’s father had a mean violent streak. The abuse she suffered is terrible. Jen fails to tie the abuse to present relationship.
Like mother minus porno like daughter
A clip of Farrah being hit by her mother aired. Though I think its disgusting to hit a child regardless of age. Farrah is 22 despite her porn star career at her old age. She is very immature and her being on an adult couple’s therapy show is absurd. I don’t doubt she needs therapy she needs to go away. This constant “look at me I will say whatever you want to hear” is annoying.
Dr jen has a one on one with Sada. She is trying to convince her to bring her father on the show. She is not coping with airing her abusive past. She feels Whitney is not being supportive. Whitney is unsure how to help her.