Real Housewives Of New York S6E6
Cast Blogs by Ramonacoaster
Kristen: I Am Having Sex With My Husband
How did this Episode get so sexual? All the BJ talk, threesome talk, sex while pregnant talk — or lack thereof?
I’d rather watch an episode of Sex and the City.
Ramona is back, trying to fix the big mess. Good for her. We are so over it. She is the only one trying to at this point.
Technically, you are all co-workers so someone should be trying to get everyone together to film. Ramona understands this.
I am happy that Aviva and Heather sat down to work through their issues. Wait. . .what were they again? Oh right, they just don’t like each other? Mmmmmm good luck working that out. . .That’s going to be a hard one. Oh, nope they worked it out. They both agreed to not like each other. Phew. . .
At least no one grabbed each other and drag the other across the floor by the hair.
Heather’s Party: Beautiful Party. Heather and John are just so wonderful together, so in LOVE. Not to compare, but we are all different. Josh and I are very much happy and in love. We just have our moments. . .I HATE when he is late and doesn’t communicate it to me. That night, perfect example. We agreed to meet at the party. He called me five minutes before I was leaving to say come get me and we will go together. I am very set in my ways and scheduled. I didn’t want to be late. Ugggggh he just beats to his own drum sometimes. And, well, just every once in a while I want him to remember work will come and go and his wife and family are forever.
I think he needs to be reminded that his wife may not be forever and the kids he could see on the weekends and every other holiday. Maybe he’ll appreciate you more.
The therapy thing. . .I had been seeing some one off-and-on for a bit. He finally agreed to go to therapy, so I asked my girl. It was harmless, he saw her one time. She helped, it’s not a big deal. It was a little wifey white lie that’s all. No harm, no foul. They eventually find out. . .when you shoot a reality show.
Tiny snowflakes can turn into an avalanche if you’re not careful.
Aviva on Frenemies
Boxers often embrace each other after a vicious fight. You see opposing team members hug each other following a brutal football game. Tennis players at least shake hands after an exhausting match. There’s a certain gentility, respect, an acknowledgement that although we’ve been pitted in combat against each other, we walk away from the battle, the trash talking, and the competition when the game is over. . .even it we’re going to pick it up again tomorrow.
If Aviva considers being a housewife a competition or a physical endeavor, what do you win?
That used to be the way with us Housewives. In the heat of the moment, we could say some awful things about and to each other, then in more clement moments insincere apologies would be issued and we’d air kiss and make up. Even without the calming influence of pinot, there was a glue (not the sniffing kind), an affinity, a consanguinity that maintained our tight little band/sorority/clique/gang/coven. We may not have been planning long walks through the heather or seaside vacations together, but we recognized our bond, and were civilized enough to enjoy each other. . .when we weren’t scratching each other’s eyes out.
You have been a housewife for one season. You’re not Vicki for crying out loud. Have you seen what Porsha did recently? Or Teresa did her first and second season to Danielle? These women are not going to air kiss and makeup.
- This season seems to be the end of all that. The battles on the air have continued in these blogs and over social and traditional media where antagonists have planted stories, savaged their rivals though surrogates on Twitter, and even enlisted minions to plant unfavorable reviews on Amazon and elsewhere.
Well this has prompted me to head over to Amazon to checkout the reviews. I noticed a lot of 5 star reviews came from a lot of one reviewer profiles who reviewed the book as soon as it came out. If it makes you feel better, I’m sure there are a few that actually liked your book.
Yes, Carole and I had a spat about ghost writers blah blah blah (I won’t bore you with the details again) and, really, WGAF? As literary feuds go, it’s not exactly Wordsworth and Coleridge. And for making an impact in modern terms, while our books are doing respectfully, J. K. Rowling vs. Suzanne Collins it ain’t. (I just checked Amazon and neither Carole’s novel nor my memoir Leggy Blonde cracked their top 10,000 in sales — though Carole’s first book hit number one in books about drawing. Yes, odd as it is, Amazon thinks What Remains is a book about drawing. And we both got our butts kicked by the The Berenstain Bears and The Easter Story, but that may just be seasonal fluctuation.)
Ok, so you suck at marketing.
Carole was shocked, shocked that there were rumors about her book having been ghostwritten and that I would ask her about it, and contracted terminal vapors about how my query to her has destroyed her career. She fought back with mouth and guns blazing, even releasing her Diddy-certified, street wannabe, attack pit bull Heather on me. This was months ago. And we’re still fighting. Really? The Capulets and Montagues were more forgiving. (Sorry, was that too Vassar? OK, make it the Jets and Sharks.)
Stop fighting before the audience decides to put a pox on both your houses.
It would have been no small journey to come back from all the sniping. Nevertheless, in this week’s fairly tame episode (to spice things up, Bravo showed you Heather calling me a “motherf—er” again like three times), I attempted to talk it out with Heather and try to get back to what passes for Housewife tranquility. Heather was having none of it. She felt I had injured her patron Carole too much. She did tell me that she was having the rest of our merry Housewife band at her anniversary party. It’s Housewife etiquette for all of us to be included in each other’s events. At the height of GhostGate, I invited Carole to my housewarming party (I should have been more clear; apparently she thought it was a houseburning party). Heather said she was undecided about whether or not to invite me. Then later, a couple of hours before the event, she informed me — by text — that I didn’t make the cut. She would have let me off the hook earlier but she was on a “conference call.” Then, in case I might have forgotten how “street” she is, she ended the text with her signature “holla!”
I like Heather but it was bad form to do that. You guys are coworkers and need to film together. It is a very mean girl move. Even grade schoolers have more class.
It’s odd, after all that, I was hurt. It would have been better, of course, if the night before Heather had just said something like, “OK, let’s try again — but after tomorrow.” Instead she put me on the bubble (“I’ll invite Aviva, I’ll invite Aviva not.”) then left me hanging until the next afternoon to burst the bubble. How do you make someone feel even worse about not being included? Well, that technique works.
She should have told you not to come to her party because feelings were still pretty high at the time.
I think she found it too defiant and provocative that I didn’t curl up and die from her attack at LuAnn’s. That’s the way it is with bullies. I walked away. She couldn’t get to me by going all thug on me so she did it this way. And dammit, it worked. So, yes, I was hurt. But I’m a big girl; I’ll find a way to handle it. But I also mourn this new era in Housewife Town. The era where at the end of the day, we’re not a group, but just individuals who can easily be dismissed and discarded.
Ok now you are going a little too far playing the victim card.
Heather: I Don’t Hate Aviva, I Hate Her Behavior
Packed to the hilt, the event brings a full house to Karen Karch and I’m so happy you get to see the beautiful pieces she designed. They are extraordinary. All the girls are out to support the cause and Ramona practically came straight off the plane from Africa — I am so grateful to see her that I give her a big hug and kiss. I am delighted Ramona and I are finding our way and truly becoming friends. I bring her up to speed on the Aviva issues and she seems to understand and agree that Aviva just goes in too hard and too deep. The pattern I see with Aviva concerns me, and I have to be honest about my feelings. We are not in a good place because the hard hooks I continually see her throw at people are recurring and something we all recognize.
At least you see the behavior, now you can deal with it.
The next scene finds Kristen, Carole and I on location in NYC at the spring photo-shoot for Yummi by Heather Thomson. This is not the first time we have used Kristen to model and she always delivers. The first time I hired Kristen years ago, she and Josh had just moved back to NY and I didn’t even connect the dots that she was Josh’s wife! She won us over on her own merit! Kristen is gorgeous and such a great representative for Yummie. She loves my leggings and I’m glad you get to see her rock them! Of course, everything looks great on Kristen — but my leggings are a favorite and it feels good that she not only models for me but genuinely loves my products. I feel the same about Josh’s EBOOST– it’s the real deal. Carole often pops in on my photo shoots. It’s always good to have her around. I am so happy Radz and Kristen are developing a genuine bond of their own.
I don’t think Kristen needs any tummy holding in pants. Her tummy holds itself in.
While we are taking a break, as if on cue, I get a call from Ramona who is now suddenly dead set on forcing a peace between Aviva and me. And it certainly feels forced. . .Why do I feel as if I am being ambushed? But I agree to drinks with Aviva in hopes of setting the record straight. Who knows, maybe she misunderstood my intentions, feelings, and outrage and maybe we can put this behind us and move forward, or in the least have a better understanding of each other.
Ramona realizes that she needs her other coworkers to get along. Hey if she can put aside her feelings regarding the Avivamonster and hang out with her then everyone needs to.
Drinks with Aviva — right out of the gate, she wants to set ground rules. After last week I am not happy I lost my temper. However, I know myself and can’t promise not to swear in a conversation of this nature. I do need to work on that but this is not the time. We are both arch and ready to attack. Maybe I am programmed this way because I now have so much experience with Aviva and her tactics and know I am next in line.
Put 5 bucks in the swear jar and donate it to your charity.
The idea that Aviva thinks a comparison with the late Anna Nicole Smith, (R.I.P) and Sonja is a compliment just shows how different we think. To me it is outrageous, even egregious. As glamorous as Anna Nicole was, her alleged addictions drove her to the grave too soon — not cool Aviva! It also wasn’t cool that Aviva twisted my words around to make it sound like I don’t appreciate stay-at-home moms, which is typical Aviva. REWIND girl! I said nothing in reference to mothers at all. I don’t name drop. My career includes working for well-known people who have greatly impacted my life and just so happen to be famous. It’s always a tit-for-tat with Aviva and yet again, instead of taking any responsibility for her actions she tries to turn it around to support her negative argument, just like she did with Carole.
I feel like Aviva should be reminded that there is a camera rolling and can playback her twisted version of events.
I said nothing about working mothers vs. stay-at-home moms. What I did say is that Aviva doesn’t respect the careers people build, or the people that have built them. After two glasses of wine and several lipstick applications, I come to the conclusion that only one thing that truly matters remains: Do Aviva and I care enough about one another to try to move ahead? I have said it and I mean it — I do not hate Aviva, but I do hate her behavior. I met and grew to care about a person who is of value, but that person doesn’t come out much anymore. Come on Aviva. . .be honest, be real, and then we can have fun!
Whether you build a career or family, the fact that someone has poured their time, heart and energy into something should be valued and not broken down.
I do leave drinks with an open mind about inviting her to our anniversary party, but unlike Aviva, I am honest. And even with the pressure from Sonja and Ramona to invite her, I know in my heart that it’s too early to go there. I need to navigate through moving forward honestly. Of course, I also need to run it by Jon and I believe in going with your gut, and clearly made the right decision. This night is about me and Jon, not me and Aviva.
I think it is the way you disinvited her that was not cool. Making her wait until a few hours before the party to disinvite her is a crappy thing to do to someone. It doesn’t look like you are moving forward honestly.
Jon and I have had 10 wonderful years as husband and wife. The time flew by but our years have been marked with some exceptional moments especially having our kids. We have so much to be thankful for and to celebrate and I really wanted to share and mark our first 10 years on the actual date, with a very special occasion full of many of our true friends that you don’t get to see. I was a bit disappointed that Sonja and Ramona decided to not only to skip the party (after RSVPing yes) but to do so without any heads up to me. Instead, they designated LuAnn as their emissary of regret. There is more to this story than solidarity with Aviva, I might add. Wow. . .but you know this behavior is completely in character for the both of them.
What they did was not good form either. At least they never put out an etiquette book. I understand that they recognize a certain behavior from you that you withhold invites to people as a form of social power. Deciding not to go, takes that power away by not bringing any value to the invite.
Ramona, I guess once a s— stirrer, always a s— stirrer and that stinger of hers, is ever present. I try not to sweat the small stuff and that is exactly what their behavior was. I don’t have time or energy for worrying about these two ladies who live at the fringe of my life. I just continue to learn about them both, warts and all.
I guess their countermove worked because you saw the value they would have brought to your event and now you are trying to take that value away by inferring that Ramonja mean very little to you. Their presence at your party would have probably brought your party more airtime therefore more value.
What’s important tonight is friends. One of our besties, Carole, wrote and delivered the most wonderful speech to Jon and I but you don’t get to see it — like a lot of the party — but I can assure you it was a celebration! The best celebration of good friends, good food, lots of Ciroc, and thanks to my dear friend and DJ PeterPaul, who was also at our wedding 10 years ago, good music! The tunes were rocking and we got to do just that! Everyone here is where they want to be at this very moment and that is what is important to me.
Sorry there was not much airtime for your party. I think Ramonja tried to teach you a lesson that you should invite all your castmates if you knew the production crew would be filming the event.
Ramona Explains Why She Didn’t RSVP to Heather
I remember being really thrown off and a little hurt when Heather did not invite me to London last year. It’s not a great feeling to not be included when everyone else is. Obviously, with Aviva being the only one who was not going to be invited to the party, it did seem like history repeating itself. By alienating Aviva, it was only going to prolong the issue.
True dat. I understand you were hurt by Heather and she is repeating history with Aviva but why support Aviva when she has attacked you and Sonja? I do agree that Aviva should not have been disinvited because you are filming a show together. The whole “don’t film with that person” or “don’t invite this person” is being very manipulative.
I thought it was urgent that Heather and Aviva make amends so we could all just hang out and get along. It was for the better of the group that not too much time passed with all the fighting. I felt they needed to meet up and just squash it. They needed a little push — so I was there to give it to them!
I’m sure you would prefer that Aviva be the villain than yourself. It’s a lot less stressful.
Sometimes Aviva speaks without thinking. That’s what she did when she compared Sonja to Anna Nicole Smith. It was clearly not a compliment and when Heather called her out on it referencing the previous comment about a”downward spiral,” you could tell by her face she realized and was embarrassed. Aviva does seem to favor drama a bit. I think this has been pretty evident since the “Where is my banner?!?” St Barth’s debacle.
I think Aviva likes to go for the jugular when she is hurt. But who the hell gets hurt when they don’t receive a welcome they felt they deserve? There are worse things in life to get hurt over. Not getting a banner is not one of them.
When Heather invited me to her anniversary party, it was a true sign our friendship was taking a turn for the better. It had occurred to me though that Avery was leaving for school in four weeks. I wanted to spend that Friday and weekend with her, just hanging at home, seeing her girlfriends come over and spending that time with her. I admit it was selfish of me — but when it comes to my daughter, I would do anything.
Avery shouldn’t be used as an excuse. You wanted to make a point to Heather.
I didn’t tell Heather I wasn’t coming because I didn’t want to upset her the night of the party. Maybe that wasn’t the right decision. I did send her the most beautiful arrangement of flowers I could find the next day as an apology for missing her special night.
Not attending while you RSVP’d yes is very rude. If someone did that to you, you would flip your lid.
I didn’t take Heather’s comments about Sonja and I being on the fringe to heart. When people are hurt they say things they don’t mean. We have since moved past it as that’s what true friends do!
If you could move past things with Aviva, I’m sure giving Heather a pass is no problem.
Carole on Fight Club Rule #2
Remember, last season, my Real Housewives Fight Club Rule #2: Invite me to your party. Our little world thrives on party invites, it’s an integral and recurring theme. Any show that has “party non-invite” as its central conflict drums up the operatic high drama of a good Russian novel. It’s the Real Housewives’ Crime and Punishment: first the horror of a non-invitation, and then the shattering aftermath.
Heather paid the price with less air time for her special day. It looked like the party was over in 2 seconds and Heather was whining most of the time.
Heather’s anniversary celebration was fantastic. It’s inspiring to be around a couple like her and Jonathan, they’re solid. They have great friends, and are generally the most fun couple I’ve had the pleasure to spend time with.
Outside of that, what’s to say? Threesomes pair well with caviar. Ramona watched lion porn in Africa. Vivs still goes on and on with her rules, and her nonsensical analogies. I could go on and on telling you all the ways she was unsupportive of me but you’ve heard it and I don’t want to bore the life out of everyone. She doesn’t seem to mind.
Unfortunately this crap doesn’t sell books. I liked the caviar tasting. It made me go out and buy some cheaper roe to consume with some sour cream and toast.
Lu is still trying to figure out why we can’t just all eat paella. Kristen seduced Elvis, and Ramona makes fluffy eggs.
Did I miss anything? Oh yeah, I dated George Clooney. Someone had to.
How nice of you to take pity on the poor guy.
Jonathan asked me to write something for his and Heather’s anniversary party. And like so many scenes where we are supportive, and not complaining about each other, it got cut. If you read it out loud with an accent it rhymes. Here it is:
Ten Years You’re Super-wife to Jon, and Yummie Mummie to Ella and Jax, A friend to wayward Mermaid Queens, An upstate girl, with big city dreams.
You can roll tough with Puffy, and still giggle with the girls. Ride motorbikes in denim, or rock a black dress and pearls. You always do what is right, and not just what’s popular. You tell people your mind, without judgment or gossip-er. You’re serious in business, yet playful in life. Met Jon on a beach, now you’re husband and wife.
Like the Eagle and the Hummingbird, the Lion and Lamb, the Athlete and the Spectator, Or Peanut butter, and jam I draw from your strengths. For our differences I give thanks But also, for your cheshire cat smile and those three-paneled tanks.
Cheers to your wonderful husband, and your beautiful marriage, and to our vodka-fueled cherry bombs. and a friendship I chair-ish.
LuAnn Reminds Ramona NYC Isn’t the Savannah
Why Ramona felt the need to put Aviva on the phone with Heather while shopping for home goods is baffling to me. I guess Ramona wanted to seize the moment? She’s been feeling peaceful since her trip to South Africa, but she’s not in the Savannah anymore, this is NYC darling.
It must baffle you when Ramona does things spur of the moment. I understand it is not the way you operate when it comes to female relationships. I think her way is just more entertaining.
I understand why Heather didn’t invite Aviva to her anniversary party because even though they made up, the wounds were still fresh and Heather really wanted this night to be drama-free. I was stuck in the middle between Heather and Ramona and Sonja — but I eventually had to say that they weren’t coming to the party so that Heather didn’t expect them the entire night.
Poor Luann to be stuck in the middle and delivering the message. Still not part of the drama and not a very good voice of reason.
As for Ramona, Sonja and Aviva being on the “fringe” of the friend group, that remains to be seen. These ladies are very much a part of our lives so let’s see how this season plays out between us all.
I can see that Heather so desperately wants to put herself and Carole front and center of the attention in the group and delegate Ramonja to being bit players. Ramonja are not ones to let others take the spotlight. The rest of the season should be interesting.
Sonja on the Anna Nicole Smith Thing
I love it! Ramona walks in to the jewelry party and says — “Of course I’m always here to support you!” Heather and Ramona, best friends as always! I almost spit my wine out. How things change over time.
I’m sure Ramona was happy to get an invite.
Now she has disinvited Aviva. I feel bad. I didn’t feel bad when Ramona was disinvited to London because it was Heather’s trip, it was costly and Ramona is a big girl. Aviva has been cut out of everything. A’Diva is fragile, in my eyes, been through a lot of crap for decades and now she was invited to the anniversary party and then not invited! Ramona was never invited to London.
It is nice that you want to champion Aviva. Apparently there is something more going on than just what happened in Aviva’s past.
Aviva saying that Anna Nicole Smith’s spiral downwards was similar to my situation is not a compliment. After all, the girl is dead. I said this before. I think that Aviva gets nervous and blurts things out in her defense instead of going with her feelings. Why didn’t she just say that she was wrong in saying that and that she adored me? Or say that she was just lashing out and coming from a bad place, and that #Ramonja got over it? That would have shut Heather down, no?
A lot of people’s pet peeves is when someone takes out their frustrations, anger or anxieties on them. It has nothing to do with them yet they are paying for it somehow. I doubt Heather would stand for that.
Carole and I have another man in common — Yolanda’s husband David Foster. The housewife world really is so small! But at least he’s real! Can we talk about Kristen and the fake Elvises that she has allegedly has been swapping spit with? We really have to get to know this other side of Kristen. As the stomach turns.
Foster gets around. Maybe as much as Clooney does.
Heather said that she was going to invite Aviva, then I find out she disinvited for sure at Aviva’s house with Ramona. Ramona wanted to go to the Hamptons and I wanted to go to St. Tropez with Big Ben to check on my house that is for sale. The energy was bad for Heather’s party and Ramona and I took it as a great excuse to take off. Heather said we weren’t the special favorite people — so I don’t think she really missed us. Besides, we gave them something to bitch about. There was nothing else to vent about. Fringe friends is probably true. So. . .off to St Tropez I went with Ben to my best friend (and Godmother to my daughter) and to get that house sold.
I am sure you are other people’s special favorite people so not being Heather’s is no big deal.
Kristen said that I would care if Heather did not came to one of my parties. She really doesn’t know me. Not true! I’m not like that. I have a lot of parties and friends. I understand, and I’m flexible. I appreciate my friendship with Heather more than showing up to a party. We will have and have had many good times together, in fact I texted her to let her know why I needed to go to St. Tropez and she understood (besides that hot guy LuLu spotted was a guy Heather wanted to set ME up with!)
Not everyone needs to go to every party but to not go when you’ve already RSVP’d yes is not cool.
Ramona bird-dogged Heather and Carole big time. She sent Carole hunting after Aviva at her housewarming party and then somehow Heather got in a twist with Ramona? Oh, that Singer Stinger!
The Singer Stinger strikes again. She is the veteran that runs the show.
RHONY New Episode Tonight!
It’s the Fourth of July weekend in the Hamptons, and the women gather for some fun at the beach. Kristen and Ramona butt heads over Ramona avoiding Heather’s anniversary party. The tension sets the mood for the rest of the weekend.