Episode 2 “Blessings and Dressings”
Last week we learned Kandi’s friend and assistant Carmon was not up to the wedding planning task. Kandi’s Aunts support Kandi marrying Todd and they want to help to get their sister, Joyce on board. All the while Mama Joyce is spreading word from the streets about Todd’s parents.
28 days to the wedding. Kandi still has Johnnie on the task of being her wedding planner. She meets with him, Don Juan and Todd. Kandi notes there are four weeks to the wedding and there are no lions, tigers or bears and Carmon up and disappeared. The guys said Carmon will probably come back but Kandi said, no she can’t work with Carmon any more, she will have her as a bridesmaid though. Johnnie stepped it up and he had a schedule, secured some animals and plans to visit a possible venue. Todd mentions he would like a male and female lion at the entrance. Kandi thought that was odd, how would anyone know without checking and Todd motions the mane, for which Kandi was embarrassed and proclaimed she was having a Porsha moment.
Dance Atlanta is hosting dance auditions and there’s a large turn out. Kandi says she has a lot of experience hiring dancers so this should be a breeze. Kandi wants a big show of dancers doing African style dance, like in the Coming to America movie, before the bride is introduced. Kandi says her grand entrance better not be ratchet. Riley is along to watch the auditions and she hasn’t seen Coming to America to know what her mother is referencing. Another man at the auditions referring to the African music mentions this being Cape Cod ready. Kandi corrects, him saying you mean Cape Town?! He agrees and claims it was a Porsha moment.
25 days to the wedding. Kandi meets her father at The Corner Grill. He’s Pastor Titus Burress. A handsome man and sharp dresser. He must be where Kandi got her calm cool demeanor. He and Joyce divorced when Kandi was four, so they had a very limited relationship. Sometimes they didn’t see one another for as long as a year. Kandi gets emotional thinking about her relationship, or lack of with her father. He tells her that she doesn’t know everything. Joyce’s sisters would come over and there was a lot of smoking and drinking going on. The sisters would influence Joyce in a negative way. Joyce had a restraining order against him for a while is part of the reason he couldn’t see his daughter. Mama told Kandi he cheated. Her father disputes that and insists there’s a lot Kandi doesn’t know. Kandi is emotional and has big tears streaming down her face at the table, but she was able to continue the conversation without making a scene. Her father stayed very composed and listened her out. She asked him to officiate her wedding and he was very happy to do that for his baby.
23 days to the wedding. Johnnie and Don Juan go to look at a venue that is very much like an open warehouse that Kandi wants to convert to a beautiful venue with draping the walls and adding flooring. Don, being a negative Nancy, called it a hood ass space. Kandi was not discouraged though and it appears she will utilitze this space.
22 days to the wedding. Over at Kandi’s house, Kandi tells Todd the food will be really good at the wedding. Kandi talks about her recent visit with Mama Joyce and gingerly tells Todd that she is claiming Todd’s father was a pimp. Of course, Todd shakes his head with disgust and says let me guess, she thinks my mother is a ho. Kandi replied, not those exact words (it was prostitute, but Kandi can’t bring herself to say this). Mama is convinced that Todd and his mother are going to run a game on Kandi.
Todd didn’t really know his father, he died when he was three. Todd is very frustrated and tells Kandi he is not playing around with this bullshit any more. He warns Kandi he’s not taking all this lying down. Kandi didn’t appreciate being issued “warning” and walks out of the room. I have to give it to Todd for not losing his cool and standing up for himself after such allegations.
20 days to the wedding. Tan, Kandi’s matron of honor is at a dress shop to help Mama Joyce find a dress for the wedding. Joyce has always thought of Tan as a daughter, but thinks of Carmon as being sneaky. Joyce is looking at black dresses, saying she knows it’s a wedding, but for her it feels like a funeral. Kandi comes and joins the dress shopping. She tells Joyce that she met with her father and confronts her on some things. Joyce denies it all and goes as far to swear on her dead son. The swearing on Kandi’s dead brother, upset her and she let her mama know.
Meanwhile, Todd meets Pastor Burress at the Buckhead Haberdashery where Todd is getting fitted for his custom made wedding attire. Pastor Burress called Todd “my son”. Todd asks how can he get through to Mama Joyce and explains that she keeps coming up with road blocks, like the lies about his parents and Pastor tells him it’s things like that that tore them apart. Adding that Joyce is hurting herself, she’s cutting her own throat. Pastor said that only God could help offer insight to help sort through the negative. Todd said that he knew Kandi was the woman for him after one time they were together in bed and Kandi asked him to kneel with her and pray. Pastor Burress gave Todd his blessing to marry Kandi.
19 days to the wedding. Kandi goes to a music studio to ask an R&B singer, Musiq Soulchild to sing “Don’t Change” at her wedding and he agrees.
17 days to the wedding. Todd joins Apollo Nida at the gym. Todd doesn’t normally work out, but he hopes Apollo can help him get a little pumped before walking down the aisle. Todd notes how supportive Apollo and Phaedra have been towards Kandi and Todd’s relationship and asks Apollo if he will be a groomsman. Apollo accepts. Todd asks Apollo about when he had to sign a pre-nup and Apollo said he signed it without going over it because he was just out of jail and really wasn’t anything he could argue. He suggests Todd might want to have an attorney look his over. At this point we find out that Kandi hasn’t even produced the document yet. No wonder Todd is uncomfortable with the pre-nup, he hasn’t seen it and time is running out!
Kandi is working on her laptop in another interestingly furnished room at Kandi Factory. Todd walks in and Kandi advises him that Joyce is on her way over. Todd says he wants to address the pimp accusation and Kandi doesn’t want him to. Interesting how Kandi thinks these matters can be swept under the rug. Joyce shows up and they’re talking about the wedding. Joyce asks who’s going to pay for it. Kandi said “you!” Chuckles. Kandi asks her mother to give her away and Joyce doesn’t want to do it! Mama Joyce said “That’s asking a lot.” and “Let your daddy do it, he didn’t never did do anything.” Says she likes Todd, but not the game. She still believes this is a racket to get Kandi’s money.
Mama Joyce continues to insist Todd’s father was a pimp. Todd asks how she knows that. People in the streets, of course. Todd suggests she produces people that make such claims. Todd says she has no respect for him. The two of them begin yelling at one another and Kandi yells with hands extended like a referee for them to stop. Mama Joyce said to Todd “You can control her, but you can not control this!” (referring to herself). Oddly enough, she turns to Kandi and gives her blessing. Which made no sense, as she still has the attitude and says tells Kandi “you got to deal with that” (referring to Todd). How Kandi’s own her own now. Excuse me, but hasn’t Kandi been on her own now over 20 years?!
Todd, in a talking head, said that Mama Joyce has completely crossed the line, she’s out of control and he doesn’t want to constantly look over his shoulder. He doesn’t know if he wants to go through with the wedding at this point. The episode ends on that talking head. Next week Mama Joyce comes up against a formidable force. Todd’s mother is not having any of her nonsense.