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Tamra Barney: “I Feel Like a Jerk for Lying to Shannon”
Tamra begins by doing something that I haven’t seen her do much – admit her mistake! “Okay, here it goes… I totally lied to Shannon and feel like a jerk!” She tells us that Shannon called the day before their conversation & told Tamra about the email. At lunch with Heather, Tamra “sked Heather to give Shannon a break because she was not in a good place and she was having some issues in her marriage. Heather asked me in a very concerned way, “What is going on, is Shannon OK?” I then told her that David sent her an email. I asked her to please not repeat it to anyone.” She tells us that wasn’t gossiping, but just wanted Heather to cut Shannon some slack. “It was not like we were sitting at a table making fun of her and her marriage issues. It was two concerned friends worried about a new friend that was dealing with some deep problems.” Except that Heather isn’t really a concerned friend of Shannon.
Tamra goes on, saying “Yes, I will take total blame for it all. I should have never told anyone and I feel really bad about it.” She goes on to re-iterate that she thinks Shannon’s drinking was excessive at the time. Probably not the best thing to do in the middle of an explanation & apology. “When Shannon showed up at my house and she was telling me more about the email and how heartbroken she was, it killed me to see her so hurt. So when the text message from David came in and she showed me I thought, “WHAT THE HELL, HEATHER WOULD NEVER DO THAT.” I knew there was no way that Heather would have told anyone about our conversation! When Shannon asked me, “Did you tell Heather?” I panicked and lied to her.” Tamra says that she tried to call Shannon several times to admit the truth, but couldn’t reach Shannon. But, she says that she never blamed Heather. Actually, at dinner with Shannon she did kind of blame Heather. Tamra told Shannon that she told Heather to keep it a secret & that Heather told people anyway.
“I think it took a lot of guts for Shannon to go over to Heather’s house and confront her. I also understand where Heather is coming from. Last time she saw Shannon was at her holiday party and it did not go very well. So I’m sure Heather felt like she owed Shannon nothing. Shannon claims she was thrown out of Heather’s house but I am not so sure I see it that way. I’ll admit Heather did not have much compassion for Shannon but Heather never yelled at her or kicked her out of her house.” Am I really agreeing with Tamra? Never thought that happen! I agree that Heather didn’t owe Shannon anything & that Heather wasn’t cruel or mean. “There is nothing I can do to take it back, but I knew that the first step to making it better was to sit down with Shannon and explain why I told Heather and that I was sorry.”
As for the robo-baby, Tamra says that she worries that Eddie will regret not having his own child. “After getting married and opening CUT Fitness our lives have changed so much — we are so busy with the kids, work and school that we have no spare time. So, I thought it would be a great idea to get a RealCare Baby infant simulator to see how it would fit into our lives.”
Heather Dubrow – Heather is Sorry the Fight with Shannon Happened
Heather also jumps right into the email story…”When Tamra and I were at Fig & Olive having lunch, she told me that things weren’t good between Shannon and David and told me that he had written her a bad email. When I left her I went to a dinner in the other room with a group of women. They asked me what happened at my lunch with Tamra…They then asked if I had ever heard from Shannon after what happened at her holiday party weeks earlier. I said no, but apparently things weren’t good with her and David and he sent her some funky email and let’s give her a break.” She admits that she probably shouldn’t have said that, but asserts that she did not mean it in a malicious way. “Unfortunately, one of the ladies present texted under the table to her friend that this conversation happened. The person she texted is a lady friend of David Beador’s which is how the story got back so quickly.”
Heather says that she is “a very good secret keeper” & that she has kept Tamra’s secrets in the past & that “Shannon has also told me some very sensitive, personal things since that time and I have NEVER repeated them, not even to Terry.” When Shannon showed up at the house, Heather was still upset that Shannon brought up their issues in front of the group at the holiday party. She makes a good point – “Shannon chose to put her troubled marriage on TV and expose her children to all that comes with it, I did not do that to her.” Heather also didn’t want to throw Tamra under the bus when they just worked things out.
“Here’s another difference between Shannon Beador and Heather Dubrow: Shannon loves to talk about me to anyone and everyone that will listen. Every time she is with the other ladies she initiates a conversation about me. I’m tired of being judged by her. It all gets back to me, so forgive me if my knee-jerk reaction to Shannon showing up at my door isn’t “I’m so sorry, how can I help you?” Having said ALL of that, I didn’t have the knowledge of what was truly going on with Shannon. I didn’t know how much pain she was in and how bad things were. Had I known, I would have approached the situation differently.” Heather says that she felt terrible when Shannon left. “After she left, I texted her telling her I was sorry she was upset. I never heard from her, not that I blame her after seeing the extent of her pain.” Heather apologizes to Shannon, “I’m sorry that happened, I couldn’t see past what had gone on with me to see what was truly going on with you. I hope you can forgive me.”
Lizzie Rovsek – “I Can’t Blame Shannon for Doing What She Did”
“For me, watching the episode brought me more clarity to Shannon’s situation regarding the email from her husband, David. During the time all this drama was going down I heard everyone’s side of the story, but was still confused as to what was really happening.” That’s one of the pitfalls of everyone involving everyone else – each person gets so many versions of the story that they can’t tell what’s really going on. At the time, Lizzie knew that Shannon told Tamra about the email, that Shannon was upset that Heather was talking about the email, but that’s about it. “I really did not think that Tamra would have told Heather about the email. Everyone knows Shannon and Heather don’t have the best relationship; and for all obvious reasons, telling Heather about Shannon’s situation does not add up to a good idea. However it happened.”
Lizzie thinks that it wasn’t a great idea for Shannon to go to Heather’s house. “That obviously didn’t go over well. However, that happened too. I am not directly involved with this situation, but because Shannon and Heather both shared their side of the story with me, and because I care about them both, I feel the need to comment on it. I really feel that the issue is between Shannon and Tamra, Shannon and David, and not Shannon and Heather.” I agree! Heather wasn’t Shannon’s friend! She also doesn’t blame Shannon for confronting Heather. “When you are upset, you are emotional and you just want answers. My heart goes out to Shannon because she felt betrayed by a friend and knew that people were talking about her marriage.”
As for Lizzie, “It’s no secret that Christian and I have two boys and that we want another baby. I think it would be so much fun to have a little girl and of course we talk about the supposed ‘tricks’ for gender selection.” She says that “I would never ‘mess’ with God and try to get a girl scientifically. I completely believe in fate and that God has a plan for our family, but you sometimes wonder if there is any truth to the theories out there on gender selection.” It was interesting to hear from her own doctor about them.
Shannon Beador – Can Shannon Ever Trust Tamra Again?
“Before I went to Tamra’s house, I had told her that David sent me an email suggesting that he move out. He NEVER suggested divorce and it is so upsetting that Tamra exaggerated this in her interviews and to Heather. Also, to set the record straight, David apologized for sending the email to me 24 hours later.” Shannon knew that Tamra was coming from lunch with Heather. Heather met some friends at the restaurant. “You see Tamra denying that she said anything to Heather. In her interview, Tamra states that she would never tell Heather anything about me because we were “enemies” and “Why would I go and tell Heather Dubrow anything about the enemy? That would make me look like a big giant a–hole.” She did tell Heather.” Shannon 100% believe Tamra at the time & couldn’t believe that Tamra would betray her. Oh, Shannon, you should have watched some previous episodes.
Shannon met with Tamra a few days later. “She explained that she told Heather about my argument with David and his email in an effort to create sympathy for me. This excuse makes no sense because if that were truly her intent, she did not have to give her all of the details and inaccurate ones at that.” Shannon had numerous issues at the time – Tamra betrayed her confidence, Tamra lied to her face, Tamra gave personal information to someone who wasn’t a friend. Seems like this isn’t the first time someone had these issues with Tamra. Shannon is still upset about Heather’s comments to Tamra, “”Pick a side” versus “pick a lane.” They mean the same thing to me. Maybe you feel differently…” Whatever, they aren’t friends & need to move on.
Shannon hoped that Heather would tell her the truth, but I think she has a different view of what happened than I do. “I was physically and emotionally exhausted when I arrived at Heather’s home. I didn’t have any energy to argue with her, let alone yell at her.” You were kind of crazy & aggressive. “Heather states, “If you told Tamra about an email and if Tamra repeated the information to me, why are you mad at me?” The easy answer — I wasn’t mad at Heather. I wanted to know if Tamra had repeated what I had said in complete confidence.” She also says that her expectations may have been unrealistic. That’s an understatement. “However, my conversation with Heather did not warrant the treatment I received.” I didn’t see much wrong with Heather’s “treatment.” Shannon came into her home & accosted her. Even when Heather made it clear that she didn’t have anything to say, Shannon just kept going.
Vicki Gunvalson – Vicki Empathizes with Shannon
Vicki felt sad for Shannon while watching this episode. She can sympathize with Shannon, having gone through her own marriage issues. “Looking back seeing all this unfold, I truly believe that Tama did not mean any ill intent when sharing what she knew about Shannon’s marriage to Heather. I don’t think Tamra was gossiping to stir things up, I think she was merely telling Heather so possibly Heather would show compassion towards Shannon.” She thinks that Tamra now realizes that it should have been kept private. “I think Heather learned her lesson, too, and feels bad.” I’m not hating this newer, slightly more mature & contemplative Vicki.
“I didn’t really understand this robo-baby that Tamra wanted to get with Eddie.” Me either. It was creepy & weird.
Vicki continues by says that she’s offered her support & wisdom to both David & Shannon. “I have been their biggest supporter, because I believe once you think that there is no option to stay married — it’s a downhill spiral and divorce will be inevitable. I know how much Shannon loves David and I know she has seen some of the things she has done to push him away, but sometimes it takes a jolt like this to look at what YOU have done versus blaming the other one to be able to turn it around.” She feels that she could have done things differently to save her marriage to Don.
On to Puerto Vallarta. “I decided to bring Brooks to annual trip to my condo in Puerto Vallarta for 10 days and we had a great time. My brother Billy and his girlfriend Rhonda came as well and David and Shannon a few days after we got there which you will see them arrive in next week’s episode.” She can’t believe the camera guys filmed her turning over. That was the least of the creepy things from the massage! But she wasn’t offended by Brook’s comments. “Brooks comment to me that he was “turned on” by holding my hand was nothing more than being sweet. Some of you may have found that inappropriate but it’s flattering to me that he is attracted to me.” That’s fine, but I didn’t need to hear it.
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