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Shannon Beador – “Some Days are Harder than Others”
Shannon begins by commenting on how hard it is to watch her marital problems play out on TV. “It’s especially difficult to watch these episodes that are about my marriage. It was hard enough to go through as we were filming, but as I watch again, I am basically reliving it.” She’s glad that we get to see some of their more light-hearted moments this week, like packing for Mexico. “When David and I are connected, sometimes I act like a little kid and get giddy around him because I am still so in love with him. I am really looking forward to going on the trip and starting to initiate different approaches to my relationship because the ones I have been using have been failing miserably.” I didn’t think the packing scene was very fun, David was trying to joke with her, but Shannon kept on whining as usual. She really needs to lighten up.
Shannon was disappointed to see Heather discussing their meeting with her assistant, but “was even more disappointed with Tamra after seeing her phone call to Vicki. After she apologized to me for revealing confidential information to Heather, you see her doing it again to Vicki. Wow.” I was surprised that she seemed more upset with Heather than with Tamra last week, when Tamra was the one who blabbed her friend’s secret. The bottom line is that Heather & Shannon aren’t friends, so Heather doesn’t owe her anything. Was is it bad taste to spill Shannon’s marital problems? Yes, but I would be way more upset with a friend who blabbed than someone I was fighting with.
Puerto Vallarta was beautiful! As for the condo situation, “David and I have never stayed in a condominium with anyone other than our immediate family so this was definitely going to be a different type of trip for us! We were very appreciative of the invitation! When Vicki showed me to our room, I wasn’t as concerned about the size as I was about the noise.” Hmm, it seemed like the double bed was the big deal. Shannon says that she was grateful when Billy offered to switch rooms with them. Maybe she should have been grateful that her friend had invited her at all.
Shannon notes that she had a blast riding jetskis. I saw her whining more than having fun. “I am not going to lie and say it doesn’t hurt when David hesitates answering whether he enjoys spending time with me. But I do appreciate his honesty.” I don’t blame David at all, I wouldn’t enjoy spending time with someone who constantly criticized me either! “Vicki is always a great person to talk to. She was incredibly supportive as I told her about my issues with Tamra and Heather. She has had her own problems with Tamra so I know she can relate to what I am going through.”
“And now to the worst part of the episode. Prior to Mexico, David and I had our fair share of conversations about tequila. I was a bit shocked about his newly acquired taste for tequila because he rarely drinks, and never drinks straight alcohol. He explained to me why he likes it and the conversation was done. At dinner, I was just telling everyone that tequila was David’s new drink. In my head, it was my way of affirming him. I had no ill will or hidden agenda by making the statement. I was completely misunderstood by David and Vicki (and probably all the others) so I was frustrated. I don’t want to make excuses for my behavior because once again, it was wrong. I’m just trying to explain.” For someone who orders straight vodka every time, I was a bit taken aback that Shannon had such strong feelings about David drinking tequila. As for the constantly being misunderstood, as Heather told Gretchen – if everyone’s telling you that you’re dead, maybe you should lie down.
Lizzie Rovsek – “Wanting It All is Different for Everyone”
“On tonight’s episode you see me trying to juggle it all. As many of you working moms out there know… it’s definitely a juggle running a household, being a mom, and running a company.” I think that this is something every woman can relate to. It was brave of Lizzie to open up about her struggles to “have it all.” So often women don’t acknowledge what a struggle that can be.
Lizzie opens up a little about how her faith helps her juggle everything in her life. “I thank God daily for the blessings in my life and I also call on him to help me figure out this crazy world we live in. Let’s be honest, we don’t have ALL the answers. I find great comfort knowing that HE does. And let’s face it when all else fails, sometimes you just need to pray for answers or the strength to get through tough times in our life.”
“The biggest obstacle running Sun Kitten Swimwear and raising my boys is finding the perfect balance. Or perhaps it’s knowing that there isn’t a perfect balance. Christian would prefer I just be a housewife. We talked about that before we were married. We were both from very traditional upbringings and I thought I would love being a super mom housewife like my mother was.” Lizzie tells us that she’s re-thinking what it means to “have it all” and that it can mean different things to different women. There is no single definition. “I really appreciate Heather’s advice. Heather has a lot going on and she seems to really have a great balance.” Lizzie doesn’t agree with Heather’s discussing of Shannon’s marital problems, but she isn’t going to judge Heather based upon a situation that she wasn’t involved in. “Heather has been nothing but good to me. Heather really took me under her wing and seemed to really care about what was going on in my life.”
Lizzie admits that they didn’t really understand how bad things were between Shannon & David until seeing it play out on the show. “Shannon and David were obviously going through a rough patch and having a hell of time seeing eye-to-eye. I feel bad I didn’t understand her pain earlier. In my defense, I didn’t really understand the extent of what was going on.”
Vicki Gunvalson – Vicki Weighs in on Shannon’s Public Fights with David
Vicki lets us know how much she loves Puerto Vallarta. She feels close to her family there since it was their family vacation spot. “Since I was there for two weeks, I had lot of friends rotate through.” It’s great that she’s able to invite her friends to her condo & share her vacation. Billy arrived first, so he got the second master suite, leaving the smaller room to Shannon & David. “I knew that they weren’t used to that type of room and probably expected the “Ritz Carlton,” but to me that’s the fun of being in Mexico. It’s the culture, creeky beds and not 5,000-thread count sheets that make the experience, but I did understand it probably wasn’t what they expected.” They knew that they were going to someone’s condo, not the Ritz. Shannon brags about how down to earth they are, but she just proved that she can’t handle “roughing it” in a condo.
“I felt bad for Shannon when she said she thought everyone was always dissecting her marriage, but unfortunately it was the truth. They didn’t keep any of their “problems or issues” private so that’s what you’re going to get — people’s opinions.” Vicki felt bad for David when she saw Shannon picking at him for the tequila. She was trying to get the couple to loosen up, but Shannon wasn’t having it. I agree that Shannon should have kept her complaints to herself if she didn’t want people weighing in on her marriage. “I just felt she was a bit uptight, but after some jet skiing and tequila she loosed up just fine. Way to go, Shannon, for rallying and enjoying the day.” I didn’t really see Shannon enjoying anything, but maybe that was just me.
“For those of you that are asking… Briana is due to have her baby next week. I’ll be flying to BEAUTIFUL Oklahoma City to be with her for her scheduled C-section.” Congrats Briana!
Heather Dubrow – “I Didn’t Call Shannon an Alcoholic”
Heather begins by explaining the chef situation. “I love food and cooking equipment and eating, however actual cooking? Not so much! It’s so amazing that I can now enjoy dinner with my family instead of sweating the meal.” She handled everything on her own for many years, but can now afford the help. I don’t blame her one bit! If I could afford a chef to cook for my family every night, I would be all over it! “I do have support, and it allows me the freedom to work AND spend time with my kids AND not stress about any of it. Could I do it myself if I had to? Yes (and I did for many years)! But luckily I don’t have to — so don’t hate!”
“Shannon: Shannon’s recounting of what took place at my house gets larger and more dramatic each time she tells the story.” I agree, Shannon blew what happened way out of proportion. She acted like Heather had her drug from the house by her hair! Heather still doesn’t understand why Shannon is focusing her anger on Heather instead of Tamra. “Shannon doesn’t appear mad at Tamra for telling people about the email. She seems to get a pass, but it feels like I’m getting the blame.”
“Lizzie: Love her! I think she just needs to remind herself that she already HAS it all!” Heather recalls how difficult it was to compartmentalize the different areas of life to keep from being overwhelmed. She’s sure that Lizzie will find her own way to get through her kids’ younger years.
Tamra was too busy with her robo-baby to post a blog this week.