S9E18 Cast Blogs Blogged
Vicki Gunvalson – Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra
Vicki tells us that it was hard to relive Briana and Ryan’s move, but “fortunately, we are able to FaceTime a lot, so that has been helpful, but it’s never the same thing as being together.” She realizes “that’s our job as a parent to let them GO — but it doesn’t mean it won’t hurt.” I think it might actually be good for their relationship to be apart a little. It’s nice to see Vicki letting go a little. “All I can pray for is that they will one day be able to return to Southern California so we can all be near each other again. If not I’ll be there supporting every decision they make with a smile and missing them with great big tears.” I think all Briana wants is her mother’s unconditional support.
On to the Bali party! “I was so proud of the way my house turned out for the Bali party. I have such an amazing team of professionals who were able to transform my home for, not only the party, but also full time!” Remember, Vicki remodeled/redecorated after Donn moved out of the house. She hints that she may be looking for a change, though. “I am so proud of owning this home on my own. I have bittersweet thoughts about one day moving near the beach. I have such amazing great memories living where I am, but now that the kids are grown and I’m on my own, I feel like it’s time for a change.” Watch what happens!
“I was glad that Tamra decided to show up to my party and face the “music” as they say. We ended our Bali trip on such a bad note, that I really didn’t know if she was going to show up or not.” Despite Tamra running away and claiming that we’ll never see her again, of course she’d be at the finale party! Vicki says that, “although I don’t agree with everything Tamra does, I want the best for her and don’t want us to be fighting. But the truth of the matter is I don’t agree with what she has done. I personally think Tamra steps way too much into people’s business and I’m hopeful that she has learned a lesson. You can’t go around talking crap on people and expect them not to compare notes.” No truer words!
Vicki was most hurt because she thought Tamra was a friend, but “if she was truly a friend of mine, she would have kept her mouth shut about some things that happened early on our relationship, and allowed my friends a chance to meet him and formulate their own opinion.” Vicki admits that Brooks has made mistakes, but says that he has gotten help and asked for forgiveness. She points out that Tamra has done the same, “so I have asked her for the same respect to us that she wants for herself.”
“It was really great getting to know Shannon this year and despite all the drama in her life, it was good to spend time with her one-on-one in Bali.” Vicki thinks Shannon is a great person, who has fun and makes her family a priority. Vicki also admits some of her mistakes. “I felt bad about how I treated Heather at times. I am proud to call her my friend, and hate that I was part of any of her hurt.” Also, she touches on Lizzie, “although we started of on a rough note I really have come to like her a lot. She has a spitfire personality and I love a woman to can stand up to Tamra.”
Lizzie Rovsek – Lizzie Forgives Tamra
“After the final dinner in Bali, I really made a decision to dismiss Tamra from my life. I have never in my life heard a woman say such horrible things to other women before. It’s interesting to hear Heather say to Christian at the dinner table on tonight’s episode, how “everyone was yelling at Tamra” in Bali. Were we at the same table? I didn’t hear anyone yell at Tamra at the last dinner in Bali. In fact I think the only woman yelling was Tamra. We were all genuinely hurt and defending ourselves.” I also thought that was interesting. Not that it was appropriate to confront Tamra at dinner, but I didn’t see anyone jumping on her the way she has jumped on others. Tamra was the one who escalated the situation. Lizzie’s plan for the dinner at Vicki’s was to stay away from Tamra. “I honestly had nothing left to say to her. She does not tell the truth and she does not handle conflict well.” Understatement of the year!
“Of course, Tamra brings up the “Marry, Shag, Kill” game yet again! There is nothing else to say, but “I’m sorry” for whatever she thinks I said or didn’t say. It’s a crazy he said/she said and no one can possibly win — and who wants to?” As I’ve said before, that’s Tamra’s MO. Anytime she feels attacked, she gets defensive and brings up anything/everything from the past. The game was a horrible idea and I’ll just leave it at that, I’m tired of talking about it. “I can’t walk around on eggshells for another person. I don’t have the power to change anyone, nor do I want to. I get to be me. Tamra gets to be Tamra. However, I get to make decisions on how I let people affect me — and I get to decide who or what I want in my life. I forgive Tamra. I forgive myself. I choose to be around people that love and support one another. Conflict is OK. It’s even OK to lose your temper here and there. But when the behavior becomes habitual without remorse, you have to make a conscious decision about what you allow in your life.” I could not agree more!
Lizzie tells us that she has reached out to Tamra since the custody battle began. “As a mother I felt the need to support her. We are all in this life together. We made a bit of amends and both shared what we were hurt over in Bali. We even talked about getting together with our hubbies. But that didn’t last for long, as you’ll see at the Reunion.”
Shannon Beador – The Difference Between Shannon and Heather
“And so it begins again. . .Tamra making up more things about me and pulling Heather in. When I first met Tamra, she continually complained about her relationship with Heather. I never suggested that Tamra stay away from Heather, that Heather was evil, or that Heather was a horrible person.” We all know that Tamra twists everything around to suit her goals, so I’m not surprised by her back-stabbing. “My continual suggestion to Tamra was that she should tell Heather how she felt and communicate with her. You can actually see me tell her that early on at Vicki’s Fakes-Giving dinner.”
Shannon says that, like Heather, she went to the source, Tamra, to find out what unkind things were said. Did she really expect a straight/honest answer? “I asked Tamra whether she told Heather about David’s email and she denied it. I asked Tamra to confirm what she told me numerous times that Terry wanted to “take the Beadors down,” and she denied it. Going to the source has been of no benefit to me, and in fact, has given me false information.” Shannon thinks Heather is smart enough to know that Tamra lies. “As far as my friendship with Vicki, most of the times when Tamra’s name comes up, she tells me that Tamra came between her relationship with Brianna. I have been hurt by Tamra and Vicki has been hurt by Tamra. When I am close friends with anyone, I don’t want to see them get hurt. I have and will continue to tell Vicki to proceed with caution in any friendship with Tamra.” I don’t see anything wrong with that, as Vicki is also warning people about Tamra. Shannon says that “I do not split up friendships. In fact, I always encourage people to talk it out.”
As for David’s comment about Heather, I personally find the whole situation ridiculous. If Terry was that upset, he should have said something by now. Shannon says, “I was surprised to hear that he would say such a thing, but I knew he consumed many drinks that day. Although I was confused why Terry had not brought up the topic when we had seen him months earlier, I let David know as soon as I returned home for our trip.” As we saw, David apologized as soon as he knew of the offense. “David’s apology was sincere. We both thought it was strange that we were hearing about how Terry was so upset months after the fact, but David was willing to take responsibility and ask for forgiveness for his statement. He even did it in front of others which I thought was so admirable. True to form, the apology was not good enough for the Dubrows.” It seemed to me that Heather got exactly what she wanted – a public apology, but it wasn’t good enough.
As for Tamra, “I said my peace to Tamra in Bali. I asked her for an explanation for her character assassinations of me and she gave none. I don’t expect to ever get one. I am ready to move on. But yet she seemed to goad everyone on at the end of dinner.” Of course she did! Tamra always has to have the last word, or scream. “David attempted to remind Tamra about how she instigated the argument between he and Terry on the night of Lizzie’s party with the whole “take down the Beadors” comment. Terry jumped in and said that wasn’t what he was upset about at Lizzie’s party — he was really upset about David’s spread your legs comment. What? Then why didn’t we hear about it at Lizzie’s party? Why didn’t he “go to the source” months earlier? And even more so, why was there no anger towards Eddie with his comment “Show us how you ride Terry”? Aren’t they equally offensive?”
Shannon was very insulted by Terry’s comments regarding David’s job. “My husband started his company on his own and works very hard. He has multiple degrees. The fact that Terry called him stupid and insulted him as a construction worker is unacceptable.” I certainly saw a different, angrier side of Terry at the dinner. Was he just acting out to stir up interest in his own show? “I truly thought Heather and I were on a path to potential friendship, and I was completely shocked at she and Terry’s air of superiority at the dinner table.” I will never be shocked by Heather’s superiority. Finally, Shannon says that she has great friendships with Vicki and Lizzie. She’s focusing on her family and marriage now.
Heather Dubrow – Heather Weights in on the Dinner Party
Heather indicates that she wasn’t going to post a blog on this episode because she made all of her amends in the Reunion (which we haven’t seen), but “because of the overwhelming response to the final dinner party, I thought I’d make a few comments.” She begins by commenting on editing, which I’m so tired of hearing about! “If you filmed someone for a year you cut together two very different movies of their lives. You could show every amazing thing they did and said and make them a hero — or you could show every regrettable moment and misstep and make them a villain.” Both could be true, but it’s the way you behaved regardless. Just accept your actions and more forward with no excuses. “Many of these you will understand after watching the Reunion, and some were just regrettable and required apologies.” Great, a whole reunion of excuses to look forward to!
“You as the audience are privy to what’s going on in everyone’s world. We are not and sometimes we act and react differently than you’d expect because we didn’t have that knowledge. There were also many situations this season that became such a big game of telephone. It was hard to keep track.” I will agree with that statement. There was a lot of he-said, she-said going on. “Terry and I have been together for almost 18 years and I have never seen him speak to another person as he did to David at Vicki’s party. SO not like him. All I can say is Terry never heard David OR Eddie yell out lewd things to me at the hoedown. We were told repeatedly by a very reliable (or so we thought) source about what David had said and they made it sound VERY bad. That was what Terry was reacting to.” Still, there was a better way to handle the situation. She says that they didn’t hear about it until right before Bali, which is why Terry never brought it up before. Heather also makes apologies/excuses for Terry’s condescension toward David. “Terry is not elitist. He was raised by a plumber/construction worker and was making a comment referring to guys on a worksite whistling at girls going by. The reference wasn’t meant to be demeaning. Of course it came across terribly and he is very sorry about that and he apologized to David.”