Kelly Bensimon Humiliated by “Scary Island” Edit – Our Conversation by NMD
Who can forget Kelly Bensimon’s
breakdown breakthrough on Season Three of Real Housewives of New York. While some of the ladies (Bensimon, Sonja Morgan, Bethenny Frankel, Alex McCord and Ramona Singer) were on their season’s trip abroad, Kelly’s erratic behavior caused cast mates to lock their doors, resulted in Kelly being escorted off the private island, and made viewers scratch their heads and start talking about Scary Island. It was one of the most shocking glimpses into mental illness viewers had been shown on the series at that time. Later, exploiting mental illness became par for course with Bravo housewife shows – who can forget Taylor Armstrong of the Beverly Hills franchise curled up in a suitcase crying. But Scary Island set the stage – and became one of those on-screen moments that took on a life of its own.
But was it real?
Kelly has never acknowledged the severity of Scary Island. She’s been in denial ever since she reported the incident to LuAnn de Lesseps (the smartest of the bunch who stayed home) and Jill Zarin (the one who was humiliated by Ramona Singer as she showed up to the island the day after Kelly’s departure only to be turned away because her presence would be too unsettling on the already traumatized cast.) So it comes as no surprise that Kelly is now claiming that it was all in the editing. Yesterday, someone tweeted that Scary Episode was the best ever, but in retrospect Kelly needed a doctor, not more alcohol or a camera in her face.
Kelly responded that she had to stop the filming because it was disturbing to see a pregnant woman fight and that she refused to fight with a pregnant 39 yr old woman. “I take pregnancy seriously,” she said. Viewers will remember that co-star Bethenny Frankel was pregnant at the time of the trip. That doesn’t explain why the fight went on and on over a period of several days until it culminated in the breakdown / breakthrough dinner.
When I (sarcastically) tweeted back that I’m sure that’s exactly what happened, and someone else replied that it was hard to watch, Kelly replied “it’s harder for me to watch the edit.
#humiliated” and later added that she only can comment on what she filmed, not on what was edited and shown to the viewers. Because that makes perfect sense in a world where Gummie Bears are health food and lemons are made from lemonade.
Now we do know that Bravo editors will play fast and loose with footage, and perhaps there was valid reason for Kelly to spit out phrases like “Al Sharpton, Al Sharpton, or Satchels of Gold,” or perhaps she really said that Gummie Bears were not natural food but she loved them anyway, and that lemonade is made from lemons and not visa versa. All of that could be easily edited. But I don’t think so. One thing that is for sure, Bethenny has confirmed on twitter that she is a Chef and not a Cook, so we can rest easy on that score.
ignore decline my suggestion that she tell us the full story of what went on behind the scenes. Of course those of us that followed Lynn Hudson’s blog the summer after the season aired will remember that Lynn asked Alex McCord if what we saw was real, and Alex confirmed it was much worse than we saw. She didn’t mention editing. And we did see Ramona confront Kelly after the fact and try to get her to acknowledge the problem. Some day someone will tell us more about what went on – and Kelly will have her own version of the her truth. Because, as we all know “you can’t handle the truth!”
Note from NMD – after googling for a photo of Scary Island, I found this old blog post of mine from last year – looks like Kelly is on a repeat cycle of denial. At least she’s consistent.
S6E13 Cast Blogs Blogged
I was Team Santa
Only 2 of the ladies bothered to blog so I will leave their full blogs in without editing. This will be fine for Dina’s but some will be annoyed with Amber’s. Get over it.
So much you didn’t get to see this season, it’s kind of frustrating to explain some things. So I’m not even going to try. What I will say is Teresa and I are allowed to disagree; REAL friends are able to do that and still not go against each other.
Yeah, but it still seems like Dina dances around Tre. Like she doesn’t want to rock the boat too much for fear that Tre will flip a table and it will hit her hairless cat.
I wasn’t team TerEsa over Teresa at any time at all. I was team Santa. Parents and children are off limits, and Victoria should know better. TerEsa just wanted Teresa to apologize for even entertaining the rumor. I just wanted it all to go away. I never said at any time I thought Teresa was in the wrong, what I said VERY clearly is that I understood TerEsa’s position and I would relay the message to Teresa in hopes that this can all be washed away. Not only for the Ladybug event, but for a peaceful interaction between my old friend and a new one.
I am team Santa, too. I saw that Ms. Gotti took a lie detector to prove that Rino said this horrible comment to her. She passed. This does not mean that Rino and Santa did the nasty. It means that Rina said this. I do not believe for one minute this happened. I do believe that Rino said it and Ms. Gotti chose to repeat it for some unknown classless reason.
I still stand by trying to tell the girls in Florida and I did have Teresa’s blessing to let them know if I felt like I needed to. Like she said a million times, she wanted no part of this, she had enough on her plate. She was just letting me know in case Amber twisted things and in case I felt it was necessary to tell them at any point. So I did. I knew Amber was on her way and I knew she would end up having a talk with the girls about the rumor.
I honestly don’t understand this. I do not think Amber was ever going to say anything. Jim, however, was the loose cannon on this trip.
I will always choose doing the right thing, even if it’s not the popular thing. Karma is way more powerful than any human! I promise you that Teresa and I didn’t even bat an eye about all this after that sit down at my kitchen table. It did not affect our friendship for a second.
LIAR LIAR! If my friend spoke to me the way Tre spoke to Dina, I would be livid. It’s just that simple.
I want you fans to know that Teresa is so appreciative of your prayers for her and her family right now. You guys are so loyal, and it really is so touching…I will even take some heat if you’re mad at me for relaying the apology message, LOL! It’s amazing to see how you guys go to bat for her — very cool.
I made a few videos to explain more about the apology thing, check it out here. Did you guys like my necklaces from this past episode? My beautiful Mama made them! You can get your blessing bracelet and more by messaging her on Twitter. Yes Twitter, my mom is on Twitter @nettielaurita.
I took away the link to see her videos. If you are dying to see them, go check them out, but I will not feed this fame whore anymore.
Most importantly I do hope that all this Ladybug talk will drum up some donations for the kids. Remember we are an all-volunteer foundation, so any donation is not only tax deductible but it will feel great knowing every dime goes right where it belongs! So check out projectladybug.org and you can make a donation with a click of a button! We so appreciate EVERY donation. Thank you in advance from the kiddies…they love you right back.
I am always very suspicious of so-called charities. If I was gonna donate to a charity that helped children, I would choose a big name with an amazing reputation. There was a lot of bad press surrounding Project Ladybug a few years ago and while I am not gonna slander them here, I question Dina’s motives. Dina sends us a “ton of love” and not me cause of my previous statements. Hope I don’t get any bad Karma this week!
Why Amber Shares Her Cancer Story
Alright everyone, I am gonna leave Amber’s blog pretty much intact. This is because she is supporting Breast Cancer Awareness and that is serious business. Will I remind you to (drink)? Yes.
Hello Housewives friends! I hope all of you are enjoying the month of October. Halloween is a rather big deal in the Marchese home, especially for Isabella. You would think she would be afraid of the zombies, witches, and ghosts, but nope, nothing could be too “scary” or “spooky” for her. All of the boys are super busy with school, lacrosse, and CCD, but we always make family time a huge part of our lives. We truly love our time together and cherish every moment together. Sebastian just celebrated his 12th birthday! He is high honors in school and the sweetest young man, we could not be more proud of him. Not a day goes by that he does not give out a compliment to me and/or a hug. Michael is starting the process of applying to high schools. He is also high honors and he is so much like me in so many ways. We have such an amazing bond. Corbin is doing amazing in school and loves lacrosse. Corbin is my quick-witted stinker. He could seriously charm a snake out of basket just by talking. And Isabella, my sweet Isabella. That little girl just melts my heart. Not a day goes by without her hugging, kissing, and telling me how much she loves me. She is funny, light hearted, and sensitive. Clearly, my side of the family. We are getting ready to take our annual “Sleepy Hollow” trip to see the Great Pumpkin Blaze and Headless Horseman attraction. We have been taking this trip for years and the kids just cannot get enough of it. I will post pictures on my social media.
<snooze> I know you love your kids. We all do.
October is also breast cancer awareness month. I would like to thank Bravo for allowing me to share my story. I am completely honored and grateful to have had the ability to film these amazing moments in my life. When I think of where I was just five years ago to now, I am just in complete amazement. I don’t mean to be presumptuous, but if my story encourages even just one person to be proactive with their health, then I have accomplished what I came to do.
I had no idea October was Breast Cancer (drink) Awareness Month! Holy Crap on Toast! I agree though if there is one person out there who gets checked because of this awareness then I suppose it is worth hearing about this every week. My aunt just went for her 5 year test and the bastard that is cancer (drink) is back.
So, you ask? Why? Why do I share my story? Good question, and I will give you a little background. I was 31-years-old when I noticed lumps. While I was breast feeding my daughter, I found several little lumps in my right breast. Jim encouraged me to get them checked out. Really? Ugh… I am a busy mother, I don’t have time for this! Do you know what kind of pain in the ass it is to drag babies to the doctor?! Besides, I am Sicilian, I am prone to cysts. I was sure it was just cysts, since I had many throughout my twenties. All benign, innocent little cysts. However, I begrudgingly went to my gynecologist. My doctor, to my surprise, was concerned. She did not bring my mind to a bad place, but she insisted that I get an ultrasound. After I received my results, my doctor took one look at the ultrasound results and sent me straight to a surgeon for a biopsy. That surgeon sent me away telling me not to worry about it and that my doctor was being far too overly cautious. He felt that she was creating unnecessary stress and anxiety. Despite this surgeon’s position, amazingly, my doctor insisted that I get a biopsy. Well, I got the biopsy, which came back as “atypical cells,” which then required a lumpectomy for further evaluation. To my absolute horror, the surgeon called me to tell me that had “invasive carcinoma”, AKA breast cancer.
Being Sicilian and having cystic breasts is a little unknown to me. I have (like many other women) lumpy boobs. I have undergone 2 lumpectomies; one when I was 20 and another when I was 35. Thankfully, both were benign. I cannot imagine how hard it is to hear that one word. Yes, the very last word in her paragraph (drink).
As you already may know, I went through many surgeries, including a double mastectomy, and a year and half of chemotherapy/adjunctive therapy. I had an aggressive form of breast cancer, so time and aggressive treatment were crucial for me. Fact is, if I would have listened to the surgeon, I would not be here to write this blog to all of you. What you may not know is there are many options for newly diagnosed women with breast cancer. My surgery involved having tissue form my dorsal region transplanted to reconstruct my breasts. There was also skin grafting and tattooing to insure a more natural look. I was pleasantly surprised at my physical appearance post-surgery. My husband and I spent hours researching options for both treatment and reconstruction. My advice to newly diagnosed individuals is to bring a friend, cousin, uncle, wife, husband, whoever to help you take notes on what the doctor is saying. You need someone there to accurately hear through all of the nerves and anxiety.
(drink) (drink) I had never seen a woman’s scars post surgery. I did not know that part of the back is used for reconstruction. This episode was actually very eye opening to me and I was impressed that she allowed everyone to see the scars…which are beautiful and should be shown with great pride.
After all of my treatment, I had a follow up with my doctor. I asked her, why? Why did she push me so hard to make sure I was properly diagnosed? She told me a story that brought her back to the days of her residency. There was a young girl in her twenties that was dying in the hospital from breast cancer. This young women told my doctor her story. Several years earlier she found a lump, but not one doctor took the lump seriously telling her that she was too young and to go live her life. Unbeknownst to her, she was living with breast cancer and by the time she was diagnosed, it was way into the advanced stages of breast cancer. The young women soon passed on, but her story saved my life. I will never let that young, beautiful woman die in vain without passing her story onto you. So when people dare to say to me, “You talk about cancer too much,” or, “You’re using cancer as a card,” I say to them don’t you dare try to shut me up with your ignorance. As another cancer survivor and friend, Brian Dowd, who works tirelessly with the Livestrong foundation said to me once, “As a survivor, it is your duty to tell your story to potentially save others.” That has been etched in my mind ever since, and I proudly will take those marching orders.
So, I will leave that paragraph alone. As a survivor of this horrible beast, I think she has the right to use the word as much as she wants (but just in this paragraph, from now on, its game on!)
For me the point of this photo shoot was to capture triumph, strength, and victory. I may have the scars, my breasts will never be the same, but I have never felt more powerful and beautiful in my life. If you would like to see more photos from the shoot, check them out here. I wear these scars with pride, as I have earned them. I was completely surprised by my husband when he planned the dinner at the gallery. It was amazing — three dozen red roses, my pictures on the walls and the paintings — the whole experience was breathtaking. Jim made sure every detail was covered. He had wine glasses with our family crest as well as a wine carafe. He even had a real shield made for us with my family crest married to his. You can see them all here. Jim and I have seen good and bad times in our lives, but we always manage to make sure we show our appreciation towards each other. I give him a solid TEN for romantic nights and for the planning. For me, it is the thought that counts and this was the perfect way for us to celebrate our love for life. If you would like to see a short video of the filming in the barn I have attached the link. I have learned much about myself and my family this season, but no lesson has been more important than how much the little things matter.
I left in the links. If you would like to see the pictures, they truly are beautiful. I find Amber annoying, but I think she was annoying long before she was diagnosed! LOL!
Final note, I have been working hard to raise awareness for breast cancer! Here are a couple of events that I attended throughout the month of October. If you want to donate to any of these organizations, I would be more than grateful!
Team NBHN / Team Tackle Jacobi Medical Center, North Central Bronx Hospital
- Brian Wiltz and his soccer team “Think Pink” soccer game raised money for an organization near and dear to my heart, The Beauty Foundation.
- The Think Pink event at the Pueblo Convention Center in Pueblo, CO, on October 2.
The Think Pink event supports diagnostic screenings for under insured and underserved women in Pueblo County, the event encourages Breast cancer awareness for the community and reminds everyone to always get checked.
- I filmed a segment on The Real airing tomorrow, October 17. They dedicated an entire episode to Breast Cancer Awareness month! I hope you check it out!
While I already mentioned I am not a fan of small non-profits, you can choose to do your research and make the decision for yourself. As for me, I have had an order for a mammogram on my fridge for over a year. I will be scheduling my mammogram this week. I encourage others to do the same. Amber thanks us and offers many blessings.
All the ladies didn’t blog, leaving Namaste some creative arts time
Real Housewives Of New Jersey
Season Finale Tonight!
As Dina’s Ladybug Charity event fast approaches, simmering tension between Teresa G. and Teresa A. over the Rino rumors threatens to derail the festivities. Meanwhile, Melissa and Joe break ground on their dream home, and Amber loses her hair again, but this time for a good cause. Finally, after pleading guilty to multiple fraud charges, Teresa and Joe Giudice learn their fate in federal court.