Real Housewives of New Jersey New Ladies Drop the Fighting Act
The Real Housewives of New Jersey reunion was filmed mere weeks ago, and most of the toxicity came from the three new ladies sitting on opposite couches spitting at each other like cats in heat. Jim Marchese (husband of Amber) has been an almost constant twitter presence attacking Bobby something or other (fake boyfriend of Nicole and a housewife stalker who has been trying to get cast on the show for years.) Which is all fine, except the three new ladies on the Real Housewives of New Jersey spent yesterday at the mall together – smiling, laughing, hugging – getting along like besties. And Jim tipped the world off to it by tweeting out a photo.
Then Teresa (twin) – responding to outraged fans – commented on the photo that people just don’t understand that it’s a show, and they all move on.
What the cast doesn’t understand is that people don’t like to be reminded that they are all acting, because it’s supposed to be a REALITY show. Sure we know most of it is fake – but we expect them to keep up the pretense until at least the last part of the reunion has aired, and a suitable amount of time passes for alliances to shift.
UPDATE: More evidence that it is all fake – Nicole and Bobby have completely different stories than Teresa(twin). Teresa is on twitter defending herself for making up with Amber (after so many people defended her against Jim on twitter, they are feeling bamboozled) and Bobby & Nicole are on twitter saying Jim made the whole thing up and the ladies just ran into each other at the mall – which actually might be the case because there is another website that has some photos people took at the mall of the twins and Amber separately.
(Namaste has read my mind again and had the photo below ready before I even wrote the blog.)
Real Housewives of New Jersey Reunion Part One Cast Blogs Blogged
Only Dina and Amber decided to grace us with blogs and both only decided to blog Part one.
Dina: “The reunion was very hard to watch.”
Perhaps the Divine Ms. D has a hard time watching the reunion because of her wardrobe choices. If she was channeling her inner Joan Jetson, then she was successful.
This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don’t know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won’t even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won’t push back, but being “zen” is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path.
I have a feeling the incident was Miss Ashlee being at the reunion and stirring shit. I don’t believe for one second that Ashlee was there as just a make-up artist and that she kept to herself. I imagine her approaching or taunting Dina and Dina not being mature enough to just ignore her. I thought I would take a moment here to educate us all on the real definition of Zen (not the Dictionary According to Dina):
- A school of Mahayan Buddhism that assers that enlightenment can be attained through meditation, self-contemplation, and intuition rather than through faith and devotion and that is practiced mainly in China, Japan, Korea, and Vietnam.
- An approach to an activity, skill, or subject that emphasizes simplicity and intuition rather than conventional thinking or fixation goals.
Now that we have that settled, let’s just say Dina is not what comes to mind when I think “ZEN”. I do not think of a self-involved, narcissistic, materialistic bitch.
I don’t want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it’s not because of my relationship with his mother, and I’m just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don’t help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it’s a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.
I gotta agree with Dina here. Nic is not missing someone he does not know. Comparing herself to Mother Teresa is plain disgusting. You are the furthest THING from this beautiful woman.
Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about “family values” if they don’t want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in.
Dina definitely “protects” Tre.
I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling.
Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all.
I see a little of both sides. Maybe the engagement party would have been the olive branch to get Dina to a family event. HOWEVER, maybe Caroline was simply sick of kissing Dina’s ass and inviting her and not getting a response. I am surprised their parents have made them sit down and talk this out.
I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved — from hair to dress — on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!
Praise God! I can’t wait for Dina to tell me how I too can look like an 80’s icon. She sends us off with “lots of love” and XO.
Sending lots of love,
Amber: “Is Dina coldhearted?”
Amber decided AGAIN that she needed to write a book. Since this is almost over, I will address the whole thing. Let’s have some fun!
Hello Housewife friends! Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some.
I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another’s position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.
OK, I will call her sick and twisted for sounding like she actually enjoyed that hot mess. I am not a person who can go to battle with someone and then hug it out. I don’t let go of grudges easily and will remember every nasty word you said to me!
One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” — it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.
<drink> <drink> <drink> <drink> <drink> I love a Wizard of Oz reference. I still would be more inclined to see Dina as The Wizard though…spinning things behind the scenes and not wanting to take blame. I gotta say, Amber has the scars to prove it. (although I am still baffled that her treatment was that extensive and she was Stage 1). If she wants to refer to her illness as The Cancer <drink>, by all means! I do think Dina is very cold and it isn’t just with Amber. Odd though that she seems to be a “caretaker” of Teresa.
In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jacqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, “You know nothing John Snow.” No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina “visits” children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.
I think Dina’s inappropriate comparison between Nicholas and children with cancer, was in very bad taste. I might even be inclined to say, at least we know the cause and treatments and possible cures for cancer…there is not known cause or cure for a child living with autism. Nicholas (and his family and loved ones) will be living with autism while many of those very amazing miracle kids will be cured and live very full and productive lives (not to say in any way that Nicholas’s life will not be full or productive, but it will be filled with challenges and obstacles). I think Nicholas is better off without his Aunt Dina in his life. And his mother is better off not texting, tweeting, facebooking, etc. about Dina. NOTE TO CHRIS: BLOCK DINA FROM JAC’S PHONE! Make peace with your sister for the sake of your parents.
Amber chose not to sign off with XO or much love. Forgive me while I weep.
And Let’s Remember that Real Housewives of Atlanta returns this Evening – and NeNe is sure to be in a sour mood (read tweeting up a storm) because of the rumors that Bethenny is getting $250,000 per episode – making her much higher paid than NeNe.