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Season Five Episode 14
“Having Fun For A Change”
Bobble tells us she is now in NYC and it is very chilly. Yeah. It’s -6 where I am so you are not gonna get any pity from me. She tells us how she has joined Yo, Master of the Cleanse, on a detox plan. Most of us call this “How you behave in civil society” but I guess people in BH call it a detox. Bobble claims she has been eating healthier since her detox. I guess Xanax is allowed on the detox plan. Bobble talks about Jennifer (ya know, the one with all the face work who used to be pretty and exotic looking but is now just “puffy). They have been friends for a long time and Bobble calls her a best friend. She says Jennifer is a “smart lady” but I disagree. If she was smart, she would run far far away from Bobble.
The reading of Vince Van Patten’s script looked like a hoot, and I hope his production goes well. He is a super nice and mellow guy. Kim was on her game with the hand puppet, Lisa V.’s speech accepting her Daytime Emmy for her casting couch, ahem, BJ skills seemed genuine, and the rest looked like a good time. I was glad to see Kim had a chance to vent to the other ladies afterward. Everyone needs to vent and stop talking behind her back. Caring for a loved one with terminal cancer is not easy. Maybe now they understand that Kim just needs a girlfriend to hang out with sometimes and that our friendship is just that–a normal friendship where she can swing by and BBQ with my boys and me.
I don’t think Vince is gonna be accepting an Oscar for Best Screenplay anytime soon. I thought it was nice that the ladies offered Kim kindness, but Kim really just blew them each off. Blah blah blah. You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t always get them to drink the water if there is Vodka nearby.
It was nice and a bit shocking to have Ken invite me to Lisa V.’s surprise birthday party. We all had a lot of fun. Kathy Hilton and my friend Mark Hasche also came with Kim and me, which made it even more fun. Laughs were had by all. I drank loads of lemon and water as prescribed by Yolanda. I was certainly missing my toxins in this party atmosphere but had a great time despite it, because when I set my mind to something, I stick with it. I can’t sing to save my life (I can rap a little), but like a trooper, I got up to sing per Lisa’s request. I was game to do anything to help make Ken’s party a success. They really love each other, and the party was a sweet idea. Lisa R. and I really wanted those rose centerpieces, but we didn’t get them, because Lisa V. was too quick. Kim and the others were cute singing. Lisa. R continued the BJ theme and created a BJ ballad as an added birthday touch (if I had done that–the pearl clutching would last for DAYS). As you saw, yes, I was asked to sing. But, like Cameron Diaz, inMy Best Friend’s Wedding, I. CANNOT. SING. EVER. But hey, I tried and had fun. (Apologies to anyone who lost a speaker in their entertainment systems.)
Interesting that she doesn’t mention her shitty comments about Mohamed. I have a feeling Yo shared a little too much with Bobble about her break-up with Mo in an effort to be a girls-girl. Maybe that is why Yo keeps B a little close in order to keep her in check? It doesn’t work Yo!!!! It was funny when they tried to take the centerpieces. I remember as a kid going to weddings and seeing all the old ladies grabbing the centerpieces and running for the door. I am like that with cake. If there is cake at a wedding or a party, I will wrap a slice in a napkin and save it to have with my morning coffee. Yes, I have been known to fill my purse with cake. I have no shame. Bobble also doesn’t mention her comments about the Menopause Mamas. Kyle is only 3 years older than Bobble. She has 4 gorgeous girls and a stable marriage. She OWNS her home. She seems reasonably happy. I don’t think you are making Kyle feel less than you Bobble.
Sadly, for some, the theme of public judging and invasive intrusion in the lives of people they barely know continued. While in pleasant contrast, Yolanda’s open-ended offer of nonjudgmental support and love to Kim was endearing and a welcome change.
Oh yes, we are now to the ass kissing portion of the blog. Yes, we must always show Yo some love cause she is only one of two ladies willing to film with you.
“I Shouldn’t Have To Defend My Actions”
Kim (or her ghostwriter) wrote a 494 word paragraph to start off her blog. I will break this down a bit and remove the parsley that was necessary because we don’t need no stinkin’ garnish! Kim says she watched the episode a few times. Is she a masochist?
Did anyone else notice that almost every single scene of this episode involved me in some way? I mean, isn’t it odd that I’m the conversation topic of Eileen and Vince’s romantic dinner out?! And that’s just ONE out of many examples in today’s episode. Even though Lisa V.’s surprise birthday party was such a blast, people were still talking about me. I just don’t get it. It’s getting to a point where I actually feel bad for them—I would hate talking about me all the time. Haha!
Dear God in heaven is loon LOVES that they are talking about her. Loves it so much that she is talking about them talking about her.
I hate to sound like a broken record, but yes, I made a mistake when I took Monty’s pain pill to relieve the chronic pain from my injuries, and yes, I am still sober and strong mentally and physically.
Chronic pain from injuries? Injuries? This is the first time she has mentioned injuries…oh, and chronic pain. She had pneumonia, coughed and snapped a rib, gave herself a hernia…these are not “chronic”.
However, that one situation did not give anyone the right to spread the rumor that I had relapsed and been drinking. According to the recovery programs, a relapse is when someone preeminently abandons their recovery plan completely by choice.
First, lets address the spreading of the rumor. All the rumor spreading was done by Kim’s BFF. Yup, she was the one that has now left us to believe there was more to that “one pain pill” story. Second, Kim relapsed. We are gonna call a spade a spade. She had a “whoopsie daisy”. Own it. You reset your day 1 and start doing your steps.
During Lisa’s surprise party, Yolanda pulled me aside and told me that Lisa R. was talking to different people about me and how I was drinking again/using pills. That’s actually the first time I found out that people were talking about me and relapsing! The whole time I thought they were just worried about how I was coping with Monty’s situation. I am so thankful for Yolanda—I love her so much. I would have never known the truth. What a rude awakening!
I don’t believe Yolanda threw Lisa R. under the bus, BUT I am not gonna watch the episode again so I will just leave that alone. Now that she has watched the episode and seen with her two googly (she has a lazy eye I think, no? No judgement, but she has a wonky eye like Andy.) eyes, does she realize it was her BFF that was talking the most shit about her sobriety? She rambles about how she has a support system besides Bobble and Kyle (yet she accuses Kyle of not being there for her and claiming Bobble is her BF?) She talks about how she chooses to keep some things private. Excuse me while I try to stop giggling. YOU ARE ON A REALITY SHOW! You gave up your privacy when you signed the contract.
Sometimes, I choose to sit out because I am TIRED of the drama and just want to focus on my life, my family, and my sobriety, which is like a full-time job. I am grateful to be here today, but you never forget the dark once you’ve been there. It’s precisely this feeling of vulnerability that drives me to do better and stay sober every day. Hope this resonates with and helps those going through tough times.
I have said it before and will say it again. Kim needs to get off of reality tv. She can make money doing those silly meet and greets and people will bring her cute turtle pins and let her hold their pets. Win win I say. I was gonna take my little lady to Comic Con here in Cleveland this weekend. A day pass, was 50 bucks (and I would have had to buy 2 cause I couldn’t just send her alone). A signed photograph from Corey Feldman was 40 bucks. A pic with Corey, was 50. It snowed a lot and we stayed home. She went to Winter Formal at school and was not made aware that Mouth (Goonies) was in town. SHHHHHH!
“Why Do You Want People To Fight Over You?”
Lisa is giving us all a high five! Pat yourself on the back cause Lisa loves us as much as we love
There are a few key things that stood out to me early on in the episode that I want to point out. During my car ride with Lisa V. to Eileen’s house, she reminds me how she’s been down this same road with Kim and that if I do the same, I am playing with fire. That resonates with me, and I take her advice very seriously. We also hear Kyle say, “This will not end well…” and I understand where she’s coming from with that, too. I am not a trained or paid professional in the field of addiction, though I am a compassionate person that has had more than her fair share of loved ones die from addiction, starting at age six. As a friend, I do feel it is my responsibility to offer my help, love, and guidance in any way that I can.
Lisa V. was burned pretty bad for showing concern in the past. Kyle has been lit on fire for her concern. I don’t see this ending well for anyone.
The conversation between Brandi and her friend Jennifer on the beach was a powerful one. She IS a trained addiction specialist, and she truly understands first-hand what an addict goes through and needs in order to be supported through sobriety. Kudos to Jennifer for speaking so candidly on the topic.
I have liked Jennifer. I remember watching her on that addiction show with Dr. Phil. AND I give her a lot of credit because she is a recovering addict and an addiction specialist (who better to know than an addict?) My problem? I question her poor judge of character. How does she maintain this friendship with Bobble who is so obviously addicted to so much? Who does she not give her “tough love”?
At Eileen’s, after the reading, we spoke with Kim about her vulnerable state and the feud her sister was in with Brandi, and I had this thought: “The rift between Kyle and Brandi is because of Kim. Why do you want people to fight over you? Cause then maybe they become too busy to take a look at what’s really going on with you.” A thought provoking question to ask ourselves, don’t you think?
THAT is probably the truest statement of this episode. Kim is an expert at deflecting. I think her years of addiction have made her an expert.
Moving on to some lighter topics, I actually found Brandi’s comment calling Lisa V., Kyle, Kim, and I the Menopause Mamas, to be hilarious. I mean really, really funny. Look, it’s pretty clear that I have no shame in my game and am proud of where I am and what I have done in my lifetime. If Suzanne Somers is a spokesperson for Bio-Identical Hormones, then I can be, too, when I actually do hit that phase of my life (and by the way, I am knocking at the door). You take those aging lemons and you make f—kin’ lemonade! And if Brandi wants to proudly show off in more ways than one that she still gets her flow, then she should wise up and snatch that tampon endorsement ASAP. Hello! KA-CHING!
I think Lisa R. just won “Best Read in a Blog”. SNAP! Have I mentioned how much I love her? I wish she lived next door to me. We would hang out by my above ground pool and she would not judge me. She would have jewelry parties and know I am only going to buy that one $20 item. Lisa signs off telling us she is getting in the car with Delilah. She now has her license and Lisa’s heart rate is elevated by 10 beats per minute!
“Kim Has Exhibited Disturbing Behavior”
Eileen wishes us a Happy Valentine’s Day Week. Have any of you ever celebrated this whole week? Me neither. I wish I lived in Malibu where Valentine’s come for a whole week. Sigh. Eileen address Bobble’s lunch with Lisa R. last week. It was Bobble that said an intervention was necessary and it was she that insinuated that there were other questionable things going on with Kim. Yes, it was Kim’s BF that threw her under the bus, drove over her and then backed up.
This week, Brandi’s friend Jennifer, who happens to be an addiction specialist, says Kim taking someone else’s meds is a HUGE red flag. She asks if Kim has a sponsor and is getting the support she needs. Since Kim and Brandi are close friends, why isn’t Brandi encouraging Kim to see a therapist or making sure that she has a sponsor? Brandi seems to think that Kyle doesn’t want to help Kim, leaving Brandi as Kim’s only support system. If that’s true, why isn’t she getting more actively involved?
Bobble’s comments about Kyle are just plain ignorant. Kyle has been in this pile of shit with Kim for a lot longer than 6 months. So, Kim is on the far side of her 40’s, right? Let’s say her addictions started in her late teens. That would mean Kyle has been dealing with this BS for 30 years. It is very easy to pass judgement on Kyle when it isn’t your own sister. And, if I am not mistaken, Bobble’s own sister isn’t speaking to her right now because of something horrible she has said.
Kim says she doesn’t have the “warm and fuzzes” for me because of my involvement in this matter. I guess she feels I crossed a line by taking her and Kyle to lunch and trying to help them mend fences and questioning her friendship with Brandi. I get that. The only problem is that twice in the last couple weeks, Kim has exhibited disturbing behavior in my home. First, at my poker party, and now in my kitchen after the table read. She very freely expresses that she needs support, because she doesn’t want to go into “that dark place” again. Honestly, I respect Kim’s private business, and I would prefer not to get involved. Saying that, am I supposed to turn the other way and pretend I don’t see what I see? At this point I feel like I have a moral obligation to do and/or say something. Lisa R., who has a seen a lot of addictive behavior in her life, feels the same way.
Kim is asking for help and then claiming she doesn’t need it. Classic addict behavior. I also would have a hard time standing by watching a train wreck. I could not stand there stirring my drink.
This is an undeniably tricky situation. Kim seems to be in some kind of trouble with her sobriety, or, at the very least, is in a very vulnerable place in her life. She is at odds with her sister Kyle, who is hesitant to go down this road again. Her best friend, Brandi, seems to see all the red flags but isn’t actively doing anything about it. Lisa V. and Yolanda haven’t really seen Kim’s behavior. Then, there’s Lisa R. and myself, neither one of us is close with Kim, but we are both troubled by what we’ve seen. What does one do? I see how my “butting my nose” into Kim’s affairs might piss her off. Frankly, I’d rather say something and risk a potential friendship than do nothing and risk a life.
Bravo to Eileen. I think most addicts need that mirror help up to their noses in order to see how bad it really is. Of course, there will come a time when everyone around Kim will just move into the “tough love” stage and Kim will be left to either choose to change or continue to fall down that rabbit hole. It is all up to her.
“I Am Not Afraid Of Kim”
Lisa was the Monarch of the New Orleans’ Mardi Gras parade! She has really MADE IT!!!
When Kyle comes over, I am happy to see her as I marvel at the full circle this journey has taken. I understand clearly that she is having a troubled time reconciling the demise of her relationship with Brandi and the closeness between her sister and Brandi. It was all was a little difficult to digest. I urge her to ignore her differences, set aside any feelings–it was a recent and volatile friendship and her sibling was of much more importance. Kim, we see later, openly admits she has feelings of loneliness and that her situation at home with Monty and his battle against cancer has been trying and stressful.
<snore> I am bored with this topic. Forgive me.
The reluctance to be involved in any sort of intervention with Kim was not, as Lisa misunderstood, that I am afraid of her. I just don’t feel justified in immersing myself into a situation that, for one, I didn’t witness her breach of sobriety. I have gently probed before, and the result was not a pleasant experience, so unless I thought she was in imminent danger, I was reluctant to have any involvement whatsoever. Of course I would be a sympathetic shoulder, but that would be the extent of it.
I agree with Lisa here. She has been burned in the past when trying to get involved. It is difficult to go back for a second helping. If she had a very close relationship as Bobble claims she does, then I believe she would feel stronger about getting involved, but Lisa V. and Kim are not close and never have been.
So it was my birthday, and I was perfectly content to spend the evening with Ken, Mohamed, and Shiva, having seen my children for lunch in the day. But not to be, it is rather difficult to surprise me, I admit, so I suppose Pump would be the perfect situation, as I am there most evenings and wouldn’t dream they could organize anything under my nose…I loved seeing everybody there. Much fun was had for sure.
I thought Lisa appeared truly surprised. It is very hard to surprise me. In fact, I will tell you a secret, I despise surprises. Don’t get me wrong, I love surprising others, but the anxiety of being surprised is not my cup of tea. Plus, no one around me is very good at creating surprises. When I turned 30, my husband asked, “If I throw you a surprise birthday party, who would you want invited and what day would work?” Yes, he actually said that. Namaste’s husband is no Ken.
I understood in retrospect why Ken invited Brandi. He wouldn’t want to exclude anybody, and she is part of our circle. However, the last few social occasions have resulted in altercations, punctuated with expressions such as, ” I will knock your f—ing teeth out” or such like, and I understood his need to gently remind her that behaviour of that kind was in no way acceptable. If that is hard to comprehend, then maybe somebody else should explain it, as I am at a loss.
The evening was relaxed, and seating, I imagine, was strategic. I sat next to Brandi for a second, and I do think there was a moment when maybe she felt some sort of regret as to what had transpired between us, so I jokingly retorted that yes, she should sing as her penance. What should she sing she asked? …Mmmmm now that would be easy: “Sorry Seems to Be the Hardest Word.” Now that may be a good place to start. She understood the playful banter and obliged.
I thought it was totally appropriate that Ken schooled Bobble along with the invite. I guess when Bobble is drinking lemon water she is capable of maintaining her composure. Go figure.
A footnote as I close off is any negativity about my dear friend Mohamed I will always vociferously defend. It is not a strange relationship, as Brandi commented. It is one that is secure and supportive, sometimes with its differences that are discussed and resolved, a deep friendship that is respectful of each other and our partners. That is what I strive for in this complicated scenario, as we muddle through the pitfalls of a life displayed on reality television–knowledge that as we venture forward we have loyalty and trust, coupled with humor that for sure will see us through. I will sign off as I am traveling home after an incredible week with memories and moments firmly etched in my mind.
Bobble just hasn’t learned. Why say horrible things about Mohamed? I still think Yolo over shared about her divorce before realizing that Bobble was “truth cannon”. But if Bobble truly cared for Yo and respected Yo’s children, she would not say horrible things about their father. Its just wrong. BUT, this is the same woman who says horrible things about her children’s father so I am not surprised. And as I mentioned already, I hate surprises.
On a side note, I would like to ask for a few prayers or happy thoughts. My son, who is a level 10 gymnast was injured recently. He has a lesion in the cartilage of his knee and is having surgery on Thursday. 3 years ago, he tore his ACL and his meniscus in 2 places. He rehabbed from that and went back to his sport with a vengeance. Please pray (or send out happy thoughts) for an easy recovery and a smooth rehab. He is a sophomore in high school and his goal is to compete at college. Thank you!