Real Housewives of Atlanta Cast Blogs Blogged by Veena
It has been a while since I’ve looked at the Cast Blogs on Bravo’s horrific website, but I thought I’d see what the ladies had to say about the Mr Chocolate dinner party tiff. It’s pretty clear that Kenya, Cynthia, and Claudia collaborated on their responses – remember ATL ladies don’t blog, they answer questions – but at least this year they all seem to send blogs in somewhat regularly. But before we get to Team Pretty/Petty, let’s check in with what Phaedra had to say:
(PS – f0r those of you missing Marriage Boot Camp: Reality Stars – I’ve simply had enough of that boring show and can’t force myself to watch, much less blog it. I’m sure no one cares – I mean how awful was that show. Those couples were utterly fake and boring as heck. I’d much rather see non-quasi famous people with real issues rather than the biggest collection of fakers and a-holes the show could find.)
Phaedra states that she still thinks Apollo and Kenya had an affair saying, “As far as Kenya is concerned, I never expect much from her, but as always her obsessive interest in my life, plus her extreme actions and emotional state, further corroborate the affair between her and Apollo.” Hmmm – or she is using you for a storyline.
She also takes Cynthia to task for bringing up the rumor, saying, “I was disappointed that Cynthia, a fellow wife and mother, would be so insensitive to repeat such an absurd notion less than 24 hours following my husband’s incarceration and the drama that occurred with it. At no point have Cynthia and Peter ever reached out to check on me or my children. I was amazed that she was more interested in spreading a lie than supporting me as a woman and newly single mother. I guess the purported class she touts must have been on winter break, because that was the most classless thing I have ever witnessed.” While I’m a little tired of these housewives pulling the mommy card, I’ve got to say that in this case I think Cynthia did put drama in front of common sense. While we don’t know much about what is real and what is faked on housewives, we do know that Apollo heading off to prison for 8 years is very real, and Phaedra had to be stressed. I know once Apollo talked to Peter on camera Cynthia was handed a storyline and she’d have been a fool not to run with it, but she could have said something like, “Apollo told Peter something that I’m sure isn’t true, especially since he has a history about faking text messages – like he did with Kenya.” That way Phaedra would have agreed, Kenya would have felt validated, and they could have finished their dinner. That’s what a truly ‘neutral’ person would have done, but Cynthia is neither neutral nor particularly nice this season. She’s team petty.
Phaedra also went out of her way to let us know that the only two ladies that were there for her were NeNe and Porshia. I’m not sure why she’s so intent on letting us know Kandi let her down. “During the months when my life was spinning out of control, NeNe called me every single day to see how I was doing despite her busy schedule…I was grateful that I had her and Porsha in my corner because they helped me through some of my most difficult days.”
NeNe does her best when she’s commenting on other people’s behavior, so the last episode was a good one for her. She uses her blog to explain that while she and Phaedra aren’t best friends, she did feel that Phaedra needed a friend, and because NeNe has a big heart, she reached out and was there for Phaedra. NeNe talks about herself in the third person in her blog – something I find disconcerting. She refuses to mention Kenya, but does take a dig at her former BFF Cynthia, saying, “When the info was brought up about the Phaedra cheating rumor from Miss I Don’t Have a Story Line, the first thought that came to mind was something my aunt told me last year after the reunion show. She said, “NeNe, you might be hurting now and she may have fooled some people for the moment, but the truth will surface. You sit back, be quiet, and her true colors will show up. People will see her for who she is!” What I really don’t understand is why – if NeNe and Cynthia dislike each other so much – were they friends for so long.
Claudia Jordan has landed herself a spot on a hit TV show. I’m sure Claudia knew that there were all sorts of blogs about her on the internet before she joined the show, but perhaps she didn’t anticipate how much hate can directed at housewives. Her blog is fairly neutral even though she’s on Team Kenya. Unlike NeNe and Phaedra, she directly addresses the allegations against Phaedra, saying, “At the end of the day only two people know what really did or did not happen, and I would love for this group to reserve judgment on everyone until there is confirmation.”
She also makes the point about “double standards” when it comes to allegations – ie NeNe can call her a whore, Phaedra can call Kenya a whore, but Cynthia is getting blasted for bringing up what Apollo said about Phaedra, and she got blasted for saying what she did about Porsha’s African sugar daddy. This ‘double standards’ theme is repeated in Kenya and Cynthia’s blog. One might think they got together to go over their talking points. “Hopefully we can get to a place where we afford each other the same benefit of the doubt that they may one day give us. At the end of the day there should be a protocol that we all follow and it should be applied to everyone. Until then I suspect we may continue to have a problem. But I am hopeful. Perhaps a lot of the drama in this group is because there are so many unresolved issues. And that combined with all the double standards in place is a sure fire recipe for disaster.” Of course without drama there wouldn’t be a show.
Kandi is just over it all. She’s tired of all the dramatic accusations and storming out. Kandi’s had her full share of real issues to deal with this year, and this overly dramatic turn the housewives are taking is not her thing. In her blog she discusses the new friendship between NeNe and Phaedra, and mentions that she’s skeptical because she’s had to put up with years of insults and horrid behavior from NeNe. Obviously NeNe needs a friend – but has she also grown fond of Phaedra? Who really knows or cares.
Kandi also discusses how Phaedra is throwing her under the bus right now, saying, “What tripped me out was hearing Porsha and Phaedra make me out to be the enemy because I left the table two seconds later than they did. That just felt like they said, “Hey, we’re going to put Kandi in the middle of this drama in some way.” Well if Phaedra is really going to play into this whole “Kandi’s not my friend because she didn’t jump into my argument and run out the room faster than me,” then OK… So be it.” Should be an interesting reunion.
Just as Phaedra believes the worst about Kenya, Kenya believes the worst about Phaedra. If there is anything likable about Kenya left, she’s hiding it well by being so mean and vindictive. For some reason believing that Phaedra was having an affair made Kenya feel vindicated. I really don’t understand that. If Phaedra was having an affair she’s a hyprocrite, but that still has nothing to do with whether Kenya had an affair with Apollo or not. However, since Phaedra won’t let it drop, I’m going to give Kenya a pass. And just in case you are wondering, Phaedra posted her blog first, so Kenya’s is a reaction to Phaedra’s. “When Cynthia told me of Apollo’s latest findings, I didn’t doubt it, as I have experienced what she is capable of first hand. My emotional reaction was based on anger not pain. I thought, “The nerve of her!” She went on a slut shaming, whore-calling campaign without any proof, and now that Apollo caught her with sticky fingers dipped in chocolate, I felt vindicated yet again. I don’t care about their relationship or how many men Phaedra chooses to sleep with, that is her cross to bear.”
I also don’t care if Phaedra chose to have an affair. Apollo likely threw his women in her face – and at some point enough is enough.
Kenya then goes on (at length) to show how Phaedra is a hypocrite for saying Apollo’s proof was fabricated, but at the same time still not accepting that he lied about the texts with Kenya. She then points out Phaedra’s multiple lies, finishing with Phaedra lying about the Aiden’s due date. Deep sigh. There are lies and there are lies The lie about Aiden’s due date was more of Phaedra’s diversion tactics. That said, Phaedra is not particularly familiar with telling the truth – she’s very good at smoke and mirrors.
Kenya also justifies her behavior at the dinner party by making sure we all know that Phaedra brought up her name FIRST. That’s a weak argument for Kenya going for the jugular. “Phaedra brought my name into the conversation by saying “the text messages with Kenya and that supposedly didn’t happen either,” in effect still calling me a whore and a liar.” Now really Kenya? Wouldn’t it have been better to say to Phaedra that you were both victims of Apollo’s lies, rather than choosing to believe Apollo this time. Who really is the hypocrite?
And finally Miss “I don’t have a storyline” has a starring role, only she really does need to work on her lines and delivery, because as NeNe so aptly pointed out, it was quite awkward and lame. Cynthia was handed this role when Apollo went to Peter with his tea on Phaedra. Of course she’s going to bring it up with Phaedra – that’s how the show works. Lucky for Cynthia, when she stumbled and mumbled, Kenya stepped in to save the dramatic moment. But of course according to Cynthia, Kenya was provoked into speaking. “Kenya didn’t confront Phaedra. She sat there quietly until Phaedra brought her name up in the conversation.” Were you watching the same scene? And once again the point was made about double standards, with Cynthia expressing astonishment that Phaedra would be angry.