Real Housewives of New York Cast Blogs Blogged by Namaste
“Heather Has Different Standards For Carole”
Who doesn’t love dancing on a table?
ME! You will never ever ever catch me dancing on a table. I will not dance on a table. I will not dance while wearing a sable. I will not dance on a bar. I will not dance on my car. I think you all get the picture. Sonja is all happy that Carole is going for the younger man, too.
I’m glad to see that Heather can be supportive of someone, because she hasn’t been able to support me of recent. I’m surprised, though, that Heather was able to listen to that whole speel from Carole – doing drugs, drinking tequila, throwing up in a rickshaw, and hiding a relationship from Luann – without making a single judgmental comment! Weren’t Heather and Carole just saying last week that I drink too much and am out of control? But hey, maybe Heather is finally learning to accept that some people are fun! Either that or Heather has different standards for Carole than she has for me.
I just see there is a difference between Carole having a relationship with a younger man and Sonja coming off as a whore around any twenty-something that comes within arm’s length. It just come off as desperate and sad.
Bethenny threw such a fabulous birthday party, and I say that with my “Sonja in the City” hat on! I’m so glad that she decided to have a birthday dinner. I know that she has been going through a hard time and that her birthday is already difficult for her. I’m glad that she felt comfortable reaching out to us and letting us help her through this trying time–that’s what friends are supposed to be for! I know that I rely on my good girlfriends a lot for support through this ongoing battle with my ex, even after divorce, so I’m happy to be there for Bethenny.
I really think Bethenny threw the party because it was an opportunity to showcase what B loves best…herself! She knew the camera would be focused on her and she would be the center of attention. B definitely treats HW like a player on Survivor. She is always playing The Game.
I don’t know why Heather and Kristen are so upset about Bethenny’s birthday dinner, and it is HER birthday! I love when Kristen’s housekeeper say “Who cares?” several times. She has the right attitude. She reminds me of Jeff Lews’ housekeeper Zoila. She says it like it is, even if you are the boss. Bethenny says she doesn’t know Kristen, so why should Kristen care if she wasn’t invited?
This was annoying to me. Heather decided to stick her nose into something that was really none of her business. I don’t think it is good manners (Let’s check with the Countess) to question a hostess about who she did or did not leave off her guest list. I gathered that this was not a formal invite kinda event. I did enjoy Kristen’s housekeeper/nanny/voice of reason and hope we get to see more of her this season.
My advice to Dorinda? Don’t air your grievances with you daughter and John with this group! She doesn’t know them like I do. It could backfire. Vent with someone you’re closer to and who you’re sure won’t air your dirty laundry.
We gotta give Sonja some credit because she has done her best to keep her life with her daughter off the cameras. I wonder if this is Mr. Morgan’s doing or if Sonja just doesn’t want to share the spotlight with her daughter! I believe Dorinda, like Kristen, will regret exposing her relationship on national tv like this.
It must be nice to come late to a dinner because you’re buying diamond rings. Go Heather and Carole! I’m glad that I didn’t miss a night with my daughter to go to that dinner! It just seemed uncomfortable to sit there and listen to Heather and Bethenny fighting!
Sonja seems a little grateful she wasn’t invited to this fight.
It was so brave of Carole and Dorinda to open up about losing their late husbands. I can only imagine how hard that must be. I can kind of imagine, because my divorce from my ex has been like he died. I lost my best friend. I hope that both of those girls know that they can come to me if they ever want to talk. I’m not saying that my situation with my ex-husband is the same as a death, but losing a husband–through death or divorce–is the hardest thing, and I think that we would be able to relate on some level.
Really Sonja? Really? This is why the ladies will not open up and share anything personal with you because we are all sure you will hijack the conversation and attempt to “one-up” the situation. Sorry Sonja, I think there is a HUGE difference between burying the love of your life and divorcing a man.
“It Did Look Harsh When Watching It Back”
Bethenny appears to recognize her very harsh delivery at dinner. They say the first step is admitted you have a problem, right?
Let me create some context: I find that on the Housewives shows, being invited or not invited to something tends to be blown out of proportion, dragged out, and takes on a life of itself. This concept is exhausting to me, and I knew exactly where Heather was going. It felt manufactured to stir up drama.
Yes, this whole thing seemed very manufactured by Heather. It was like she wanted an opportunity to school Bethenny and it was just wrong. B acknowledges that she was still new to this crew and didn’t know everyone well enough to invite to a birthday party. She had spent a little extra time with Carole and Heather (plus 1) and extended the invite.
I just have to randomly announce that I thoroughly enjoyed watching Ramona walk into her own restaurant with her dog. It is commonly known that you can’t even stand in the front of a bodega with a dog much less stroll into a Tribeca sports bar with your Upper East Side shih tzu.
I’m not sure about you guys but I don’t understand why you would take a dog into a public place? Why would you take a dog into a bar? Like, I wouldn’t take a baby into a bar (unless it was lunchtime and I could get a good reuben…) In Middle America, we only take our dogs to the park or for long walks. Service dogs are the only animals seen in places of business.
PS Thank you to Bethenny for keeping her blog short and to the point. Would you mind texting Sonja and asking her to do the same? I don’t care to read all her babble.
“Bethenny Knows How To Shut Down A Conversation”
Heather was really looking forward to that dinner at Cherry. Guess she didn’t realize WHO she was having dinner with.
The birthday dinner a few nights ago turned out to be a good time. We all rallied for Bethenny to have a fun party. Everyone was getting along, and we all danced on the table. It was a shame Kristen and Dorinda weren’t invited. I didn’t understand it. I was even more surprised since some of the girls brought dates that Bethenny definitely didn’t know, but it wasn’t my guest list.
Right, it wasn’t your guest list and yet you still felt the need to stick your nose in and bitch about who was left off the list. BAD FORM. Add that to the conversation with Kristen where Kristen admitted she was busy anyway and glad she had a night at home with her family (well, she was a little whiny, but that is her personality anyway). Plus she didn’t have to spend extra $ on a b-day gift for B.
I have to hand it to Bethenny–she sure knows how to shut down a conversation the minute there’s no personal interest. I barely finished my sentence on the topic before it got hostile. I don’t think any of us knew what to make of her reaction. Between the sleeping dramatization and telling me I was Carole’s plus one, I quickly realized nothing positive was going to come of this.
I kinda loved the whole sleeping thing…reminded me of Vicky and Don. Oh, the memories.
“I’m Cautious In Matters Of The Heart”
For those that don’t recall, Carole is not allowed to blog for us this season due to her writing contract. However, she is allowed to participate in question and answer sessions with BravoTV!
BravoTV asks Carole if she was keeping her relationship a secret from The Countess…
No, I’m not a woman who overshares. And I’m fairly sure the audience knows this about me by now. You don’t see me each week talking, talking, talking about every last thought that pops into my head. Also, I believe there is an expectation of privacy, even among good friends, and especially among social friends. I live by that in my real life (with my friends outside the show), and it’s no different than my reality life on TV. The best advice I can give a girl is to keep new relationships private. There is nothing like a handful of well-intentioned “girlfriend advice” to derail a blooming romance.
Carole has done a good job of giving us good TV, but keep her private life private. There are way too many arm chair quarterbacks (like myself) who will pass out unsolicited advice and judge all your choices. When Carole realized her relationship with Adam was more than a passing fling, she didn’t mind sharing it with Heather and Kristen and certainly never thought Luann would begrudge her a new love. Oh Carole, you don’t know Lu very well do you?
BravoTV askes Carole to elaborate on the perks of dating someone under 35/over 75…
I’ve learned that much older men and much younger men are more grateful for the company of a woman. It’s the men your own age that make things more complicated than need be. This is true at any age. When I was in my 20s, 20-something men were a pain in the ass.
This is simply something I don’t relate to. I married my 24 year old husband when I was just 21. Before meeting my husband to be, I did dad a guy briefly who was about 10 years older. He had a Porshe and I was dating him for his car. As I have said before, love doesn’t see age, race, creed, etc.
BravoTV asks what was going through Carole’s mind when she found out she would need to move her late husband’s ashes…
At first, I thought it had to be a mistake. The church had been sold and the graves moved? It’s the log line to a Hollywood movie, not a storyline in a reality show. Churches can be sold? Caskets and urns replaced? But after speaking with the church secretary, I did what anyone in my place would have done–including my husband–I laughed. Not a long laugh, maybe it was a nervous laugh but still, a laugh. My husband was the king of practical jokes, and I thought this was the best one yet.
This would make a really good movie actually! It is sweet that Carole finds humor in how ridiculous this situation is. She finally traveled to London and brought the urn back to the States.
BravoTV if she has considering rebranding death and being a widow after her conversation with Bethenny…
No, and let me say that that conversation at the time was a little bit surprising. And no less in re-watching it this week. It’s been 15 years since my husband died. I’ve heard everything, well, except, the re-branding of death. That was new. But I’m used to people being very uncomfortable around the subject of death. They say the weirdest and dumbest things.
This is all too common! When people get uncomfortable, instead of listening to their inner voice that says DO NOT SAY THAT OUT LOUD, people say some of the stupidest shit. I have had so many people say to me, “Wow! Your daughter doesn’t look autistic!” Gee, you don’t look stupid, but you proved that one wrong!
“Heather Was Trying To Be A Friend To Bethennny”
Ramona is so happy to be opening up her very own bar and grill where people can bring their dogs to share a drink or a biscuit I guess. I am sure Ramona Pinot will be on tap.
Bethenny hates her birthday; I was surprised she was having a celebration for it. I was happy we made up, and she invited me. It was so funny when Bethenny said she wanted to dance on the table! So of course I jumped up to join her as, after all, it was her birthday, and I wanted to help her to get the party going.
I am not buying that Bethenny HATES her birthday. B LOVES having the spotlight on herself and used her birthday to make this happen. Can I say again that I will never dance on a table? Isn’t this something strippers do in the clubs?
I thought Heather was trying to be a friend to Bethenny by explaining how Kristen was feeling. She just wanted to pave the road between the two ladies. I was surprised by the way Bethenny reacted, and I know Heather was shocked. Who knew this would turn out to be a fight?!
Nope. This was not Heather trying to be “friendly”. This was Heather trying to school or mother Bethenny and it just backfired on her.
Luann de Lesseps
“Carole Should Stick To Tinder”
Luann tells us episode 4 is when shit really starts to get real. She says she and Carole were good friends going into the season and did not see Carole’s relationship coming.
I had friends over for a nice dinner to celebrate my new house. (Yes, that morphed into Brunchgate, but the intention was pure and all in hopes of having a good time with the girls.) I had no idea that Carole, ever-so-single and ready to mingle, would start mingling with my chef, who happens to be my niece’s recent ex-boyfriend and my son’s friend. I had no idea I’d have to keep an eye on a close friend, whom I would assume would know better than to pick up my staff.
I would just like to give Luann a head’s up with regard to the 13th Amendment to the Constitution…
“Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.”
Loosely translated, this means Luann does not OWN Adam nor does she decide who he can or cannot date. Luann claims to be highly offended by the whole situation. I think Luann is desperately looking for a storyline and has clamped on to this like Ramona on a Herve Leger dress. Luann declares this UNCOOL. I think Luann is using this phrase too much.
I adore Dorinda’s daughter Hannah. She’s got a great sense of humor, is incredibly smart and really knows how to work a room. When it comes to John, it’s hard to disagree with her. I feel bad for Dorinda, of course, and how she can’t seem to bridge both sides of her life, but I empathize with Hannah on this one. The Dorinda and John dynamic is a very strange one. It makes me very uncomfortable, to be honest. I think it even makes Dorinda uncomfortable, too.
I imagine there are absolutely a lot of moms out there in world who can relate to Dorinda’s situation. Children (young and old) always have an opinion on who their parents date. I don’t see Dorinda and John’s relationship going anywhere if Dorinda’s daughter refuses to accept John or if Dorinda doesn’t step up and say it is none of Hannah’s business who she dates. I am not saying one way is better than the other, but this is a real situation and I imagine Dorinda is regretting allowing it to be so open for our judgment.
Guys, let a lady order what she wants, OK? If you want to eat more, go home and get on Seamless. And if your date doesn’t have an appetite, I assure you she’d rather watch Curtis Stone and Bobby Flay have a throwdown than watch you throw it back while she sips on a martini.
I am with Dorinda here. I HATE SHARING MY FOOD! When I go out to eat, I plan my whole day around it! (I obviously don’t eat out as much as these ladies seem to!) I plan my calorie intake based on the delicious meal I will devour later. I do not wish to share my dinner. I also will stab you with my fork if you think you are not gonna order dessert and then take a bite out of mine. HELL NO!
Things are looking up, though. At least Bethenny and Dorinda bonded over a sample sale, and that’s the first stop on the road to recovery. I hadn’t seen Bethenny that excited in a long time.
It was cute to see both of these “ballers” get that excited over a sample sale. I imagine they felt like me when I go into Costco and buy a case of Gatorade for $13.99 with a $2 manufacturer’s rebate! WOOT WOOT! (My husband has recently announced he is no longer willing to wear clothing I purchase at Costco. WTF?)
Of course, Bethenny is direct, and she can be aggressive. I think it’s now clear that once Bethenny gets to know someone, she’s all-in, and she’s a fun friend to have. But for me, once when they started to rebrand “widowry,” the party was over.
Um, did Heather miss the first few seasons of this show when Bethenny’s brassness was constantly showcased? And yes, the rebrand of “widowry” is wrong. All wrong. I imagine B wishes she could suck those words back in.
“B And I Will Never Be Besties”
Kristen jumps on the Carole bandwagon and tells her she doesn’t owe anyone an explanation.
I actually didn’t know that Adam dated Lu’s niece. It seems to me that Carole just fell into this. The feeling is mutual, and I would have to agree it’s a bit awkward to tell Lu too soon. Carole doesn’t even know what’s happening at this point!
Seems to me that if Lu or one of her distant relatives PEES near you, they own you for life. You cannot date, look at or pee near that person for life. It’s just that simple and Lu doesn’t understand why we don’t already know this. As for the birthday party that lacked a “plus one”
I love that Sonja is with her German boy. I think it’s nuts how these women just keep inviting other men as guests–they clearly didn’t get the plus-one only invite. OMG, the young boy not knowing Jordache jeans?! How is that even possible?
I was baffled by the number of guests that appeared to just show up. Again, I am Middle America or a Northcoaster…you get an invite you assume it is just for yourself unless you are asked to bring a guest. AND, a guest of a guest would never bring a spare guest. That would just be wrong.
The phone call with Heather catching up and then finding out that I wasn’t invited was interesting, and very much what happens. Simple question: Gee, why wasn’t I invited? Listen, anytime you are in a group and you are not invited, I don’t care what anyone says, it’s a bummer. I was last with all the girls in the Hamptons. I felt that we had a nice time at Bethenny’s brunch. Last I saw, Bethenny and Ramona had a huge fight.
Maybe the reason these ladies get so upset about not being invited to each other’s events is all about the minutes of airtime? Kristen has barely been on this season. I am still so happy that her little Kingsley (the girl, not the dog) is running and playing! I give Kristen a lot of credit for this. I am sure this took an insane amount of time dedicated to therapy to get Kingsley to where she needs to be! I hope to see that little lady running track someday. And yes, I might get bummed if I am not invited to a birthday party for a person I had met twice, but I would be more bummed at having missed a great meal cause as you all might have guessed, I am a foodie. Kristen doe mention that she was surprised Ramona and B were able to put aside their argument so quick, but again, Kristen is not familiar with B and how quickly she moves.
(Ramona’s restaurant) This restaurant is in my ‘hood, just a few blocks away, great spot. It’s really funny that Ramona is an investor in a sports bar. WOW things really have changed! It’s interesting how Ramona says that she did so much for Mario and didn’t realize how much work he was. It’s nice she is taking time for herself, she really deserves it. As she said, “Trying to look on the brighter side.”
I am glad to see Ramona finding positives in this miserable situation although I think Ramona is putting on a good face and spending a lot of time crying in her pillow…and I do not begrudge her that! In fact, I think she should replace her nightstand with a wine cooler stocked with Ramona Pinot. She deserves it.
Dorinda and John seem to love each other. But we are seeing so much fighting and bickering. I am betting that the making up for them is fun after the fighting.
I bet Kristen is SO glad this is not her this year. She probably should take Dorinda aside and let her know what happens when you air your dirty laundry on Bravo.
Rebranding death. I hear Bethenny, “late husband” does seem weird, but I think it’s better than the alternatives, that’s for sure. When I heard about Anthony’s ashes, I became sooo emotional. I can’t believe it, all that that must have stirred up in Carole all these years later. She told me that he would have gotten a kick out of it all, that’s the kind of personality he had.
I really do love Carole’s personality and how she rolls with the punches. I do think she has lived a very full life and nothing seems to throw her off. It seems she has a lot of perspective.
“Hannah Will Always Be First”
Mirror mirror on the wall, this one leaves me sad and raw!
Well, yeah. I guess this episode would leave Dorinda cringing and wanting to crawl under the covers. Dorinda addresses the “Were you offended you weren’t invited to the pseudo strip-club birthday party?” Dorinda assures us she is OK! She was a little “miffed” at first and then brushed it off.
I’m not going to say I would not have gone if I had been invited, since I know Bethenny probably throws a good party. Listen, Bethenny has a lot on her plate, and I think an event like her birthday crept up and surprised even her, so a lot of this was last-minute with no malintent. Must say, I did love the dancing on the tables bit. We old-school girls take any opportunity to get on a table and dance, it seems. It’s a generational thing, maybe?
Yes, B has a lot on her plate. She also has a shitload of minions that do her bidding (did anyone else notice she had a person that dressed her and made sure she had panties??? And again, this old girl (of 42) is not getting on a table. Never.
Although it was nice of Heather to be concerned for Kristen, I knew there would not a subtle way of relaying the message to Bethenny…in front of an audience. Duh. Heather was trying to be a good friend, and I do feel bad about how Bethenny responded, but let’s face it: Bethenny does not have an open ear for that kind of stuff.
THANK YOU DORINDA!
Anyway, not going to the birthday dinner, for me, was like that night I didn’t go to Beautique–it was just another good night’s sleep. I always welcome that with open arms. Besides, the girls were more like babysitters than dates that night, and I just don’t do the cougar thing. Never have, never will. Give a me a middle-aged mountain dog over an overly playful puppy any day. Woof! Hannah knows this and she doesn’t shy away from reminding me.
And I can totally relate! I love my bed. Love it. I would choose a hot bath, good book and bed over just about any night out (unless the night out included delicious food, but even that, I don’t like to eat terribly late (I am a senior citizen at 42 and like to eat before 6 so I can go to bed with an empty tummy and burn some fat while I snooze). I would never survive in NYC where people eat so late!
- The SCENE WITH JOHN! Breathing, breathing, breathing…Let me be very clear about this and get right to the point: Hannah will always be first. Always, always, always.
And I respect her for this. She is a MOM first.
Here’s the thing…it is sometimes difficult when you date a man that A) Has never been married, and B) Has never had a child. I, on the other hand, have been married throughout my adult life and have been a mommy most of it. I only know motherhood and being a mother, and as a mother, we all know friends come and go, husbands come and go, but your children are forever. They’re God’s gift and form a huge part of your heart. Additionally, they are always your child, no matter how old they get, or how old you get. For life, there’s a protective bond that outlasts everything and everyone. When I’m old and grey (silver grey by John Barrett, thank you very much) and living in Boca (which might actually be Palm Beach, to be honest), Hannah will be there with my Grande Finale Hairspray and Batiste Dry Shampoo to comfort me. (I just hope she remembers the very dirty Grey Goose martini.)
Good for Dorinda for making her priorities and sticking with them. We can agree or disagree with Dorinda, but I think no one can say she doesn’t love her daughter with all her heart. Anyone else look up Batiste Dry Shampoo? I just did! Sells on Amazon for less than 10 bucks. I might need to pick up a can.
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