Real Housewives of New York Cast Blogs Blogged by Namaste
“I’m A Quality Versus Quantity Person”
Bethenny shares with us that her Tour of Tears is over after this episode. Praise Jesus.
I booked a limo with blankets and pillows and princess movies and came to the dinner after bedtime. I came from “a place of yes,” and it worked out. That said, I was, as Carole puts it, “wound tight” having tried to pull it all together.
We have always known Bethenny was wound pretty tight. She kinda always owns her shit. I laughed out loud when she commented on the wardrobe choices of the other ladies. B went there wanting to “chill” and giggle and I guess Heather wanted to make the rules and had decided upon B’s arrival that laughter wasn’t on the playlist. B comments on the other ladies analyzing her and saying she had no girlfriends.
I have a very small group of best friends that I’ve had for 25 years. I keep it tight and right, and with this nastiness and catty conversation, now we know why. I’m a quality versus quantity person. If you think I’m going to fill a room or my life with girls that look like they’re all my BFFs but wait for them to start gossiping behind my back, you got the wrong one. Ya gotta love Ramona.
I guess I am more like Bethenny. I have very few close girlfriends and then I have acquaintances. I have been burned in the past by too many ladies I thought were good friends and I am very picky about who I allow to get close to me. B does find it interesting that Kristen was the one that started that conversation… “You just stand around and look pretty.”
And my daughter and I got to make snow angels at the Red Lion Inn. All in all, I’m glad I went, and I’m glad the crying game is ending.
Glad she was able to leave the city and have some fun (albeit cry a little too).
“It’s Clear I Was Getting Frustrated”
Heather claims she is usually way more chill in the Berkshires. Maybe she does better in the summer with no A/C?
Dorinda’s house is special, and I love the history of it for her with her father. I’ve met him, and he himself is special. There is so much history in the Berkshires, and the architectural history has always fascinated me. During America’s Gilded Age (1865-1901) our country saw unprecedented economic growth and prosperity, allowing some of the nation’s wealthiest families to construct these massive estates. Approximately 75 of them are in the Berkshires, including: The Wheatleigh, Ventfort Hall Mansion, and The Mount.
I am shocked that Heather takes a little time out of her busy Yummie life to educate us. Shocker. I actually had no idea that the Berkshires had so many historical homes! Heather reminds us she and Hubs got engaged at The Red Lion Inn and she is childhood friends with the executive chef. Seriously? I know the kid who flips burgers at McDonalds and got engaged in my husband’s grandfather’s living room on Christmas Eve. Big whoop.
Normally dinner at the Red Lion is special, but immediately the group started discussing Bethenny and all the usual topics…custody arrangements, her childhood, and opinions on her friendships and her integration into the group, or lack thereof, and the mood changed. It’s clear I was getting frustrated with the context of the conversation, and I can admit to being tough and having an irreverence for bullsh–, but I was not attempting to “compare” people’s struggles…and although I may have enough eye rolls in this episode to fill a sequel to The Heathers, I am not a judgmental person and certainly not unsympathetic to people’s challenges, misfortunes, mishaps, or sh–ty deals. That is for damn sure. Life has tough breaks, and unfortunately some of us have it worse than others, and some better, but circumstances can change in the blink of an eye…
Odd that Heather doesn’t own her really inappropriate comment where she attempts to suggests that losing her Nanny is on the same level as divorce and child custody!
I was looking forward to my husband Jon’s arrival and Kristen’s husband Josh’s, too! This evening was all about a dressed-up dinner for Dorinda’s birthday. She loves a dressed-up dinner party, so fancy was the dress code, and it’s fun!
And now we understand the dress code! Thanks for clueing us in!
Unfortunately, things took a turn rather quickly after Bethenny’s arrival. It started with Bethenny’s reaction to us recognizing she had fish allergies after surprising us for dinner. Considering her announcement about not eating fish and knowing there was a sushi service on deck with the probability of nothing for her to eat, first Dorinda, and then I, were simply trying to suggest alternative options. No one was trying to get a rundown of her dietary preferences!
I thought it was odd the way Bethenny made an announcement (like, if you have strong food allergy, you should never just “show up” at a dinner party since a hostess cannot usually accommodate you at the last minute) about not eating seafood and I think Dorinda and John’s reaction was pretty normal. They immediately starting offering anything they could think of that was in the kitchen because I am sure they didn’t want to see their guest at a dinner party with an empty plate. Heather decided this was her opportunity to mother/smother and it didn’t go as planned.
While you can be sure that I am over Bethenny’s rules, deliveries, and rude behavior, in dealing with her at this point, my own attitude has become harsh. I am completely sensitive to food allergies, given my own son’s struggles with them, and I could never have expected such a severe reaction…instead of a normal conversation about an allergy to fish, Bethenny, snaps at us to ignore it.
I think Bethenny initially responded to Heather with a polite “no thank you” but Heather being Heather couldn’t let it go and she pushed and pushed. I have a mom that is a pusher. This is a stop at her house:
Mom: “Namaste, do you want a sandwich?”
Namaste: “No thanks”
Mom: “I just made a roast. I will cut you a sliver and put on some bread.”
Namaste: “No thanks Mom.”
Mom: “You look tired. You should have a sandwich.” (all while opening fridge to get the full fat mayo out)
Namaste: “I swear to God Mom if you make me a sandwich I am going to put a down payment on the nursing home you hate down the street!”
“Dorinda Is Clearly Very Sensitive About John”
Kristen’s agrees that Dorinda’s house is beautiful and colorful and fun! Blue Stone Manor was magical. Kristen moves on and tells us that Ramona is a SHIT stirrer…yup, she sure is! Kristen addresses the “awkward dance”. Doesn’t anyone here ever let a sleeping dog lie?
As for Dorinda. WOW! She is clearly very sensitive to the whole John topic. Very defensive. I had no idea of the history behind this topic before this particular day in the Berkshires. John is sort of known for his inappropriateness? UGH…
John may be known to all the ladies here as “inappropriate” but I think to Dorinda he has been a true friend and companion. Kristen was shocked when Dorinda blew up at her, but I think at this point, Dorinda is just sick of defending the man that has stood beside her through her darkest period.
After she freaks out on me, she starts crying about Richard and how when she was 40, he was with her by her side, etc., and now he’s gone. She started crying, then I started crying thinking what if something happened to Josh and he wasn’t around in 10 years. I can’t imagine! I know how hard this all is, but still, for her to make all those criticisms about me… Oh, and then I was reminded about how much of a BITCH Ramona is!
I loved that Dorinda completely opened up about this and shared why she really cares about John. We find him a wee bit icky, but there has to be something good in him cause he gives Dorinda free dry cleaning AND holds her when she cries. I say WIN-WIN.
Red Lion Inn–We all start talking about Bethenny, but what you all don’t realize is that she just wasn’t around much when we were all hanging out. And because Heather and I haven’t gotten to know her yet, at this point we have no idea what’s going on in her private life (I am watching now just like you are), and so we are totally confused as to why she’s back–what does she want from the group?
The difference between Bethenny and many of the other ladies is she isn’t on this show to “make new friends” or build relationships. She is there to promote her brand and change her image; it was a business decision. Add into that the fact that she has shared custody of her daughter which usually means that every 5 days she has her daughter for 5 days (or something similar) which would mean she is limited when it comes to filming. PLUS, given her current custody battle, it would be completely stupid of her to have her daughter, leave her with a sitter so she could film some silly stuff with other HWs cause I am sure Jason’s attorney is combing over these episodes with a fine-tooth comb to make sure she isn’t wasting her precious mommy time. Kristen kinda regrets the shitty comment she made about Bethenny, but doesn’t really apologize. Argh.
P.S. Ramona, yes, you cry crocodile tears often, and it’s so fake and obvious!
Did Ramona not watch last season? The trip to the Berkshires was FILLED with those damn crocodile tears!
P.S. The dress code for Dorinda’s party was “elegant.” Knots Landing is back, Bethenny. When you RSVP, you get the memo!
OH SNAP! LOL! I find the dressing up fun. I haven’t gotten all dressed up since the last funeral I went to. Shows you how very lame my life is!
I am shocked when I find out that Peter is linked to Marios fling! WHAAATTT?! Does Ramona know that? That’s a bit creepy. There are too many fish in the sea to have to resort to double dipping, ewwwww!
That is super creepy and a very odd small pond to swim in. YUCK!
Luann de Lusseps
“Heather Should Know When To Quit”
Luann really enjoyed the history behind Dorinda’s Berkshire home with regard to her father and grandfather. It was a really cool story and I love that Dorinda has REAL history with this home.
The Berkshires in the winter is gorgeous, and Dorinda’s home is as vibrant as her personality. I took a car from New York with Ramona, and I have to admit, it wasn’t all that bad! We’ve been through so much together that when we have a tiff, it’s more of a fender bender than a 95-car pileup.
I was surprised that so soon after the Caviar Debacle they were in a car together for the long trek up to the Berkshires. Maybe Luann snuck a little Xanax into Ramona’s Pinot and it was a calm ride. Who knows? Luann school Kristen about bringing up the whole John and Dorinda thing. Funny that it was OK for Luann to share with Ramona her concerns about John but Kristen isn’t allowed to? Not cool.
John makes Dorinda happy, and she’s opened up her heart to him, so her friends need to accept John for who he is…a kind, sometimes slightly inappropriate man who should heed Dorinda’s warning that these girls are looking to throw him under the bus.
Again Luann tries to make us believe she is above such gossip, yet we have been watching all season and know better.
Women who have good relationships with their mothers have an easier time building and keeping female friendships. Our mothers and sisters are our first friends, and if that trust if broken when we are young, it’s difficult to trust women in the future. I think that some of the girls are better than others when it comes to nurturing healthy female relationships, and Bethenny clearly struggles with this.
And now Luann will psychoanalyze Bethenny. I think Bethenny pays her shrink plenty of money to analyze her and doesn’t need any help from Luann.
When Heather compared losing her nanny to the struggles Ramona and Bethenny are currently experiencing, the reaction from everyone at the table was of disbelief. Heather tries, she really does, but this time she was way off base, and she should know when to quit.
I think Heather probably wishes she didn’t say that. It was an odd game of one-up. Heather lost. My girlfriends and I play a game called “Who has the Craziest Mother In Law”. I am the all-time highest scorer.
It’s hard to hide your past with Google! It’s disconcerting that Peter, Ramona’s plus one for the party, also dated Mario’s mistress. Too close for comfort in my opinion, yet I don’t think Ramona cares, because she enjoys his company and he makes her laugh. I’m certainly not going to mention it to her.
How is it that anyone on these shows believes their private life is private? Why the hell would Ramona bring this guy on the show when surely it would come out that he was somehow affiliated with Mario’s playground?
“These Girls Are Emotional Vampires”
I will attempt to cut through the BS in this particular blog, but I make no promises. I might throw in the towel and quit halfway through. Just so you are warned.
Overall Dorinda was an amazing hostess to all of us crazy ladies, and I am so grateful to her for extending her warmth and hospitality by sharing her birthday with us nuts.
I did think Dorinda was very warm and welcoming to all those crackpots. Sonja moves on to complain that Ramona hadn’t told her anything about her dating life. Perhaps because the only thing Sonja wants to talk about is the current toddler she is breastfeeding? Sonja believes Luann and Ramona are both ridiculous for questioning John and Dorinda’s relationship. Sonja tries to suggest that Luann and Ramona fight over her all the time…WTF?
Speaking of people who thrive off drama, what was with Kristen this episode?! Like Dorinda said to Kristen, if you are going to do a sandwich, do a sandwich! Don’t act like John was trying to be malicious when we were all just having a good time as adults in a private club. If you can’t take the heat, Kristen, get out of the kitchen!
Well, there you have it! Who knew that when three adults danced closely it was called a sandwich? I have said before and can’t say it enough, I guess I don’t get out much.
I loved how all of the women immediately hated on my dress as soon as I showed up to Dorinda’s house. I would like everyone to know that dress was made by Michael Kors, not Dracula! But I have always been able to laugh at myself and take a joke, so if the girls want to pick on my dress, that’s fine. I’ll always make fashion faux pas. That’s how I create.
I think all their wardrobe choices are questionable. I think Carole and Heather are the most “casual” in the group…and maybe Dorinda is able to do casual in the Berkshires. Right now, I am wearing a pair of work out shorts I bought at Target, a tshirt from JC Penney, socks from Costco and Fila running shoes. I went grocery shopping and tanning dressed like this today. I doubt I brought shame upon my family (at least I hope not).
I love John, and that moment with Dorinda, John, and me in the bedroom is pure fun! Everyone needs to stop saying that they are going to stop knocking John and actually stop knocking John. I have great intuition about people, and I can see that John really cares about Dorinda. It’s great that Dorinda felt comfortable sharing why John is so special to her. I think that conversation really helped the other women see that Dorinda loves John and that John helped her through a very difficult time in her life and has been there for the last two years.
I think John is kinda a big bear of a guy and is probably very good with Dorinda. I also thought he kept Sonja at arm’s length even though Sonja did everything she could to slink all over him. I wouldn’t trust Sonja around any married man. Moving on, Sonja was glad that Dorinda was able to brush off the fighting and ridiculousness in order to have a beautiful birthday dinner.
I think Heather would get along with all of the women much better if she stopped trying to control everyone. Controlling everyone around you doesn’t mean you are actually in control–it means you want to be a dictator. I can see why Bethenny doesn’t feel comfortable sharing things with Heather. Everything you share in intimacy with Heather she uses as ammunition against you. It feels like a trap to be friends with Heather! For example, when Heather was in the car with Carole and said that I had said I made my first million when I was 20?!
This is actually a very astute observation of Heather! I am very impressed and think the interns are contributing a little bit more to the blog this week. Sonja completely denies ever saying she had made her first million before she was 20, but this is the same person that says she parties with John-john…
“I Reached My Boiling Point”
Dorinda was rightfully nervous and excited going into her birthday weekend with this group. She tells us her home is a real “lived-in” home (oh, like mine then, right? Only slightly bigger…) Finally! At long last, my birthday weekend arrived, but I’d be lying if I didn’t say I was as nervous and tentative as I was excited. She loves seeing the reaction the other ladies have to her house. She then addresses the inappropriate and disrespectful comments the others have made about John.
Ever get annoyed by hearing the same loud commercial over and over again? Even the commercial jingle just makes you clench your teeth? Right…well…Do these girls have nothing else in their lives, or are they so bored that they have to focus on this?
Not sure about them having anything else in their lives, but they have learned you get plenty of screen time if you can gossip about another housewife.
Let’s break this down into Eight Simple Rules For Not Getting Bitched At:
1. Make no mountains out of mole hills. (It wasn’t a big deal.)
2. Don’t rehash and belabor things. (The topic has been exhausted.)
3. Take responsibility. (You’re an adult and weren’t forced to do anything.)
4. Be a gracious guest. (You embarrassed me at my own cocktail party.)
5. Show off your manners and be polite. (You’re my guest, once again.)
6. Take the shade someplace else. (Especially when it’s about me.)
I’m not one for living in the past, and at this point in my life, I just aim to be happy. So…
- Be happy for me.
And if you can’t be…
- Leave me alone.
I gotta say, Dorinda is our Common Sense housewife. I imagine any of us could hang out with her and have a conversation and not be belittled or dismissed. She seems quite “REAL” which is something we are not accustomed to on these shows.
BTW, did we know The Red Lion Inn was opened in 1773? Holy crap? The city I live in is celebrating its bicentennial so we got nothing that old!
Lady Morgan was definitely channeling some Transylvanian chic with her black florals and fur cape, wasn’t she? I loved it! When she pulled up, I knew the weekend would be a fun one. She came wearing a cape and bearing gifts. Naturally, I thought we should all go Christmas shopping, and I gathered all the ladies of the manor and ordered our coachman to take us into town. How dainty.
I totally need to get a friend who lives in the Berkshires! It seems enchanting.
We decided to have a nice dress-up dinner party and make the most of it. I love dressing for dinner; it creates an “old world” feel, and it makes things a little more fun and memorable. Once the ladies came down to the living room for some pre-dinner cocktails, I sat there and just smiled. THIS is what I was wanting Petrossian to be! We have the 40s chic look to the dark and sultry Morticia Radziwill, to my Pucci Pucci Pucci. (I love me some Pucci!) Once the champagne was popped, BAM! THE B WAS BACK!
As I said before, I do love a reason to get fancy, but have so few opportunities. My closet is not filled with as many options as these ladies’ though. Everything was going smoothly until B announced her allergy. And then the shit hit the fan.
I also know that Bethenny hates attention and certainly wouldn’t want to call this kind of attention to herself at a dinner party, because it’s potentially embarrassing and definitely distracting. Watching this back-and-forth, as you’ve noticed, makes me so uncomfortable. I just want to line ’em up and start slappin’. Just don’t understand why it has to be so much tension about every little thing. I feel like we should all get reminders on our iPhones that say “Choose your battles wisely, bitch.”
Since when does Bethenny NOT like to draw attention to herself? This is how she gets paid! I think the polite thing to do would be to wait until your dinner was served and eat what she could off the plate and if Dorinda questioned it, she could then say she was allergic, but certainly didn’t want to inconvenience anyone since she had NOT RSVPed. That would have been the polite thing to do if you did not wish to draw attention to yourself. I like attention so I would have made a GRAND announcement. But, my mother raised me right so I would have RSVPed. Since Bethenny was raised by wolves, I guess we have to forgive her.
I sat there next to John, looking at Luann and Sonja, asking myself, “Why can’t I just have a peaceful birthday where we drink some sake and have a fun night?” Singing “Happy Birthday” to me wouldn’t hurt either, by the way.
It was odd that Dorinda’s birthday celebrations were spoiled both times, but she has to be a little satisfied that this time, it had nothing to do with John. Whew. Dorinda goes on to say she understand that everyone deals with their “shit” differently. Everyone has a journey and each person’s journey is different. She just wants people to know she is there for them and not there to analyze them or offer a solution (I LOVE HER!).
When Richard passed, my mom called every day and asked me simple questions. We had short conversations, we had long conversations. It was comforting to hear these simple words at the end of each one: “I’ll call you tomorrow.” That was precisely what I needed. To know that she was there, available, and willing to be there again when I needed her next. That was a good 50% of the comfort I needed. And each day got better and better.
It is all too often that we feel compelled to offer someone our advice or take over a situation when really our friend or loved one simply wanted to be heard. Nothing more or less. Just to be heard.